I have a bf and I sleep around?

trawingtroll · 05-01-2007 04:36PM #1

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 month and I'm still sleeping around. He asks me about the people I shag. He knows I love him, but I love my sex with radomer. We have like 3somes and stuff, but they can be had to arrange. He gets upset that I'm sleeping around but not caz I'm "cheating" caz of how people in Ireland view him. In the culture where he's from he can have 4 wife, why can't I have a few bf and just one primary bf.

Should I change and become Monogamous, what the advantage?

Smellyirishman · 05-01-2007 04:40PM

Love the handle.

Gordon · 05-01-2007 04:45PM

Why is this your second account?

trawingtroll · 05-01-2007 04:46PM

Gordon wrote:

Why is this your second account?

Never. I don't know who you think I am.

Smellyirishman wrote:

Love the handle.

I like alliterations.....

Now back to the problum at hand

mike65 · 05-01-2007 04:48PM

Ho hum

Mike.

Dudess · 05-01-2007 04:48PM

Me senses a banning in the air...

letterman · 05-01-2007 04:49PM

maybe one is for the boyfriend and the other is for the strangers she shags at 3somes!!

Dudess · 05-01-2007 04:50PM

Nicely spotted letterman. Boards is indeed a metaphor for shagging around.

Kintarō Hattori · 05-01-2007 04:51PM

Quality stuff- I've never posted in one of these before.

To avoid a banning myself:::::::::::::::::::::
OP, do you seriously want some advice on why this might be wrong?

trawingtroll · 05-01-2007 04:52PM

letterman wrote:

maybe one is for the boyfriend and the other is for the strangers <b>he</b> shags at 3somes!!

Is any one going to take this seriously.

Gordon · 05-01-2007 04:52PM

trawingtroll wrote:

Never. I don't know who you think I am.

I think you are the other account that you are.

Are you male or female by the way? You're male aren't you.

trawingtroll · 05-01-2007 04:53PM

eo980 wrote:

OP, do you seriously want some advice on why this might be wrong?

YES

Dudess · 05-01-2007 04:54PM

OP, to answer your last question: nope.

letterman · 05-01-2007 04:57PM

oh lets see shall we, how about aids, any sti you would care to mention and based on the content of your original post, the possibility of an honour killing waiting in the wings. Cop on to yourself.

Talliesin · 05-01-2007 05:00PM

trawingtroll wrote:

Should I change and become Monogamous, what the advantage?

You live in a society where monogamy is the norm, at least as an ideal. The advantages are those you've heard growing up. The disadvantages are those that are obvious to you as someone who isn't monogamous. Simple.

JungleBunny · 05-01-2007 05:33PM

Why do you have a "primary bf" and loads of other randomers?? Whats the point?
Respect yourself a bit more!
Can't believe that he puts up with that to be honest.

You want to know the advantages of a monogamous relationship? Feeling good about yourself for one. By the sounds of it you feel a bit guilty about what you are doing.

Nevyn · 05-01-2007 06:08PM

Some people have open relationships, they have one main partner and see other people, somel people have several relationships with anyone taking precendant.

It is your life as along as you re not hurting others ( even through dishonestly )
it is up to your decided what you want and need in your life.

r3nu4l · 05-01-2007 06:13PM

Open relationships are fine so long as both partners are happy with them, once one partner becomes unhappy with that you have a problem.

If you love the 'main' partner and he/she becomes unhappy with the arrangement then either stop sleeping around or dump the 'main' partner. EndOfStory

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 05-01-2007 06:17PM

So join a swinging club. Job done.

littlesurfer · 05-01-2007 06:32PM

Carcharodon · 05-01-2007 06:49PM

Is your username supposed to be ironic or something ??? trawingtroll

bringitdown · 05-01-2007 06:53PM

- What age are you?
- 16
- 18, all right.
- Mom!
- I like where this is going.

c - 13 · 05-01-2007 06:58PM

trawingtroll wrote:

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 month and I'm still sleeping around. He asks me about the people I shag. He knows I love him, but I love my sex with radomer. We have like 3somes and stuff, but they can be had to arrange. He gets upset that I'm sleeping around but not caz I'm "cheating" caz of how people in Ireland view him. In the culture where he's from he can have 4 wife, why can't I have a few bf and just one primary bf.

Should I change and become Monogamous, what the advantage?

Pfft, you havent really slept around until youve had narcolepsia.

joebhoy1916 · 05-01-2007 07:08PM

Fancy meeting up

Nevyn · 05-01-2007 07:13PM

Any more smart alex off topic and unhelpful posts and I am going to start banning people, you have ALL been warned.

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 07:38PM

I don't think it's fair what you're doing. If you wanna be with this guy then focus on him, if you wanna keep going with randomers then dump him. It's just not fair what you're doing on the poor guy. you're obviously not ready to settle down and be in a relationship, so end it before you hurt him.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 05-01-2007 08:42PM

Thaedydal wrote:

Any more smart alex off topic and unhelpful posts and I am going to start banning people, you have ALL been warned.

I think you'll find the term is smart ALEC
And before banning, I'd like to post out that my previous post in this thread was one of the serious ones..

hmmmm · 05-01-2007 09:03PM

Unregreg wrote:

I don't think it's fair what you're doing. If you wanna be with this guy then focus on him, if you wanna keep going with randomers then dump him. It's just not fair what you're doing on the poor guy. you're obviously not ready to settle down and be in a relationship, so end it before you hurt him.

But then again he knows the situation. He can decide what he wants to do. If he's not happy with the situation he could just dump her. It would be different if the OP was lying and saying that she doesnt sleep with other guys.

Nevyn · 05-01-2007 09:07PM

Oh get over yourself Ikky Poo2 I did not single you out but made the warning a general one.

Oh and if you really feeled compelled to point out any futher of my dyslexic error please do so via pm.

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 09:53PM

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hmmmm wrote:

But then again he knows the situation. He can decide what he wants to do. If he's not happy with the situation he could just dump her. It would be different if the OP was lying and saying that she doesnt sleep with other guys.

I know what you're saying but she says that he gets annoyed about it, to me it sounds like he doesn't want her doing it but doesn't want to tell her to stop. I could be wrong, but that's how it sounds to me.'

LegacyUser · 06-01-2007 01:40AM

gooo you
right, i have a friend in the same situatuon
if he really liked his gf he wouldnt be sleeping around
fact: he still did
fact 2: still does it, so move on and stop hurting the guy

I have a bf and I sleep around?

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