Being Gay

Originally posted by lazer
but i bet u are more intouch with your own self?

If I was any more in touch with my own self I'd need a labrador.

Id always kinda assumed it was because of that - The practicalities of 'pulling'.

Originally posted by Jpaulik
Ah yeah. I do feel guilty though as not many people know I'm gay. I don't let on to people including my family what my inclination is. I suppose its almost dishonest really and since I don't class my homosexuality as a big thing I shouldn't really be hiding the fact, but I do.

I know exactly what you mean. I don't "act gay", whatever that is, and it seems to upset some people when they find out that I am (well I'm bi acshully), which annoys me but makes me even less willing to live up or down to their stereotypes.

But at the same time I don't tell my family, but that may be because I don't tell my family anything if I don't have to. I just don't get on with them alright. Most of my good friends know, except for the ones I think couldn't handle it very well.

I find the whole 'gay scene' thing quite frustrating, in that what is ostensibly a celebration of freedom and individuality seems to always become just another fashion to follow, just another behaviour to conform to if you want to fit in. I was so disappointed to realise that gay nightclubs are just as boring as straight ones, and that it's just as hard to meet someone you like. I've met more gay people I like in class-rooms, at anti-war marches and in newspaper offices than I have or ever will in a club.

Thanks for starting the thread, lazer

Originally posted by Unregistered
every person is some way inclined to be with the same sex....

i bet everyone here thought about it??

I used to think that until recently, but apparently there is some physical difference in the brain/? might be total tripe but that's what i heard.

As for thinking about it, i suppose there's always a degree of curiosity about that, that is different to us. Dreams of a homosexual nature do not necessarily mean one is gay, it can be an expression of dominance or control.

bit of a strong reaction there azzaaleleleilaaazzzlzlaialalll? Compensation perhaps?

Were all Human, therefore man,woman, gay or straight weve all considered every possibility. Some people experiment, some dont.

I never experimented at all because its just not something that would appeal to me, once i realised that the whole 'hmm, could i be gay?' thought process kinda stopped in its tracks:)

Originally posted by Oeneus
If women ruled the world it'd probably be a much better place

I thought Maggie Thatcher laid this argument to rest once and for all ?:)

But as it turns out homosexuals(both men and women) generally tend to be much nicer people!

Bull**** Gays can be assholes (and bitches) as much as straight people.

Originally posted by Dustaz
gay men sound like Big Gay Al.

Not that i want an introduction but who is 'big gay Al'.

Originally posted by Jpaulik
Think about how easy it is for heterosexuals. Me man, you woman. Begin attempts at flirting.

All this does is whittle down the targets to straight women. There are still a million reasons to feel awkward / insecure / whatever in engaging with those targets. On the flip side, women tend to be 'protective' of themselves and it isn't that easy to get 'in there'.

I think most men can accept their friends being 'differently' orientated, however, there is a large minority of mostly men (of all orientations) who act in a predatory way which prejudices opinions to different orientations.

Originally posted by logic1


Gay relationships break the rules of nature in that gay attractions really don't stem from a need to reproduce.

DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!! DANGER!!!

Hmm,

It is true to say that some men (and women) do have innate problems with homosexuality. I think that a lot of the overt abuse/slagging which gays receive stems from paranoia (i.e not wanting to be deemed 'bent') and/or insecurity about one's own sexuality. Most of my friends are straight, and I would *ahem* usually never think about making advances on them (well, not unless I was really drunk). Don't worry azezil, you're relatively safe from unwanted attention

I do have some gay friends as well, and although my relationship with them is different on some levels, particularly since they are from different walks of life, I find that in many respects I view them as I do my 'normal' friends. I'm afraid that the 'big gay al' stereotype does ring true in some cases, and whenever I go out to a gay niteclub, the twin elements of 'butch' and 'camp' are very much in evidence.

Gay culture can become a restictive culture and society unto itself, where people are expected to conform (to an extent) to certain ways of acting. Just as a person can pick up an accent by going abroad on holiday, one can pick up overtly camp tendencies by socialising with gay people. I remember I went out one night, and the next day I started referring to objects as 'fabulous' before I caught myself .

As for lazer's request for a board, I did think that it was a good idea at the time. It was rejected because ultimately it was felt that by isolating the gay community onto one board a 'ghetto' culture could emerge, and it was also felt that the demand would be insufficient for such a board. I don't feel that the second argument stands up to scrutiny, given the interest in this thread. I think a private board would be a good idea, and I think I'll present it to the admin board later. It would at least allow greater scope for privacy, and would help to avoid the muppets spamming the boards with comments like 'j00 f4gs'. Yes, if we pester them enough they'll give in and give us what we want

Well, in case ye haven't noticed a similar topic has appeared in admin.

It's there if ye want it, sign yourselves up for a private gay board.

Don't feel too bad azezil, if it makes you feel better I think there's a gay man out there just ready to make advances towards you . All you have to do is meet that 'special somebody'.

Originally posted by MagicBusDriver
To be honest, I can't stand gays.. For one thing they speak like B@rd and their opinions aren't far off.
This 'we're all the same' arguement is a load of pants. Gay people *generally* talk like knobs, and I don't talk to knobs never mind listen to them. Not that im homophobic..

Someone had to do it..

This is obviously coming from someone who doesn't actually know any gay people. It's like saying you don't like trees, they come in all shapes and sizes and colours. One of the only things gay people have in common in my experience is that they like people of the same sex. Saying gays talk like nobs is the worst crap I have ever heard, they talk just the same rubbish as straight people. This is not a 'right on' opinion it's just the facts so take your head out your arse.

Originally posted by Ahamah
Imagine lots of poo talk here

As I've said already gay people come in all shapes and sizes and types. And sure enough I have met gay people who annoyed the **** out of me just as I have met straight people who annoy me. Some of the lesbians I now know don't like the butch dyke types just as some of the gay guys don't like very camp gays. i.e. all types and ways.

Generalising when you don't have the facts is pointless and makes you look stupid.