Bouncers denying me a social life

Well this thread has been good read!

A lot of people are quite pi$$ed off with bouncers and with good reason however its a profession with its own laws and rules which has only two outcomes either you get in which makes you happy and relieved or you get refused which makes you go frickin mental. Guards dont want to know and complaints are laughed at 99.999% of the time as the bouncer will always have the benefit of the doubt from the manager which is how it should be in any job, i know if my manager didnt trust me i wouldnt work for them.

The thing im finding remarkable is how nearly everyone with an opinion on the matter is forgetting that the bouncer/s are there for the safty of every single person in the venue.....customers, staff, themselves. They must make a split second judgement and decide whether you're a nutter/rapist/dealer or an all round low life.

Ive worked in bar from 15 till last year, there is a great sense of security when there is door staff on, if i had it my way i'd always have security on.

Regarding the OP, it seems you have not learned from your experiences. The fact that you get refused everywhere says that it is your appearence thats the problem as if it was the same place you couldnt get into it would seem like a personal issue, its not nice to be told you look dodgy but if you want to go to these clubs you must play by their rules, its a feck but they can make up their rules to suit the venue.

I've had plenty a run in with bouncers myself but i dont take offence nor hold a grudge....its a job, their getting by, i've to do the same myself and i will commmend any person doing a job where dealing with drunken idiots is necessary.

Hm. Try being a bit more confident. Dress up a bit more (nice shirt, jeans, no runners, maybe even a blazer) Don't stop unless they expressly stop you. Try not to look them in the eye, and if you do, make it quick and maybe say something like "How's it going?" as you breeze through. I don't know, I'm talking off the top of my head, also, if at all possible if you must talk to them, try to lessen the inner city accent a little. Just a couple of pointers that I hope will help.

go to zanzibar on the quays. the bouncers there have never refused me. all you have to do is not tell them you're going to burn the place down and then show them the petrol can and you'll get in

I must say I've never had any problems with bounceers.

If I do get stopped and asked for ID, I take it out and say here you go.
Never any problems. Nowadays I joke about it when asked, m" That moisturiser must be working well" I'm 26.

To the OP. If all the bouncers are stopping you then there's something about you. Try this. Next time your refused, say to the bouncer. look I don;t want to cause hassle but I'm having big problems getting in places. I don;t know what it is, is it the way I look the way I dress the way I act. Any help would be apreciated. you could even introduce your self.

Now the bouncer will probably be carefull in his answer cos he'll not want to be sued on any grounds but he might give you an answer. He might even let you go in there and the. wither way he'll remember you and you've a much better chance of getting in next time.

If he does give you advice and still doesn't let you in then say again in a friendly way, what gives I did what youy said, what's wrong now.

to everybody else. Being a bouncer is not a easy thing to do. ya ther are **** but most do act decently twords you if you you act decently twords them. Same as most people.
though I'd say ther are more unreasonable drunk people then unreasonable bouncers.

Finially. This whole I was drunk but I wasn't causing any hassle. I was just arguing. Arguing is grounds to be thrown out. Being a danger to helath and safety is also, and someno who is drunk is a danger to their own health and safety Check out: http://www.oasis.gov.ie/health/alcohol_and_drug_treatment_services/alcohol_and_the_law.html?search=drunk+disorderly

To the guy who got fallen on in a fight. Though break but come on from the bouncers pint of view, 3 guys in a melee on the floor. Looks like 3 people in a fight.

To the guy who was in a suit. If your stone cold sober. Ask to speak to a manager, if the bouncer refuses, take out the phone( I assume you have one) ask to talk to the manager. Explain the situation and that you'd like to complain. Say that you and your 15 friends are now leaving.

If the manager decides to let you in great. If he comes down and is polite but says, that it's the door man's decision( he migh want to back the doorman in public) say fine Thank him and leave. If he's rude Leave, tell him you won;t go back and don't.

skywalker wrote:

Question to the bouncers commenting on this thread, are runners still as much of a taboo as they always were?

Im not taking about giant air max type runners, but smaller dark more descrete runners? A mate has recently taken to wearing them out & to my surprise has yet to be stopped going into a club.

Not a bouncer, but I doubt it matters that much. Depends where you're going of course, but the standard city centre places ie Redz, Coyote, wherever don't seem to care. I would only very rarely wear shoes out. Have worn Converse as well as more standard runners, never had a problem. Then again, I've never had a problem with bouncers, if you do wear them it could just give them an excuse if they don't like the look of you

Buckfast wrote:

Im making it my mission in life to make these guys' lives misery because of the way I've seen them treat other people, year in, year out. I feel all warm inside now

Doing the right thing for the wrong reson.
Trying to make people lives misery is bad karma and will come back to you.

Divers wrote:

what an immature comment.

So if they fail to extend the most basic of courtesies (respect) to customers on behalf of their employers, that's fine with you, but if I choose to show them no respect in return, I'm immature? If you want to criticise/comment on my post, then at least be balanced and comment on the rest of it (i.e. the bouncers in this particular club), and not just focus on one sentence.

Perhaps my username influenced your post and prompted you to call me immature? I hope not, because then you'd be guilty of what you've denied throughout this thread — prejudice, just like the prima facia conclusions the majority of bouncers draw when they see someone approach "their" door.

So, you probably think I'm a buckfast-drinking teenager/student right? Somebody registered me on boards a few years back and chose this name for the craic.

I agree with Divers.


The thing people simply do not appreciate about bouncers is that they have to work very anti-social hours and for a lot of them the pay does not merit the amount of **** they have to put up with. The vast majority of bouncers in my experience are not pricks, they are grand. Treat them like people and they'll do the same. Give them **** and you can't expect to be treated like an adult now can you? They can be, depending on the place, be exposed to violence and worse tbh.



Buckfast, your attitude is not only childish but is one that is simply anti-social. Yes there are some muppets on a power trip out there bouncing but that number has gotten a lot smaller in recent years. It used to be a lot worse, believe me. Your average bouncer is grand, he's not out to **** over your night, he's there doing his job.

Buckfast you comments are immature because you are " making it my mission in life to make these guys' lives misery because of the way I've seen them treat other people, year in, year out. I feel all warm inside now"


you complaing that they treat other people badly so your planning to treat them badly. Makes you as just the same as them.

Complain when ther is due cause but do it in a polite curteous manner.

You shouldn;t actively try to make another person's life miserable. That is evil, in the true sence of the word. Delighting in the misery of others. That is pathetic.