Why me .

Hey man, I just want to say first — I'm really sorry you're going through this.

You did nothing wrong. In fact, you did everything right: you stepped up when others didn’t, invested your time, money, and heart into the family home and land. That’s something to be proud of, even if others don’t see it.

It’s awful when family turns like that, especially when you’ve already got enough to deal with health-wise. But what stands out to me is how strong you’ve been — you built something with your own hands, and now you’re still fighting for what’s fair. That takes guts.

I really hope the legal route brings some justice. But no matter how it shakes out, don’t let them make you question your integrity. You did what a decent, honest person does — and the world could use more of that.

The OP has exposed a serious flaw in the fair deal scheme. All you have to do is claim you contributed to the household over the years and your parents owe you more than the house is worth - winning formula! And go all the way to the HIGH COURT to get your bank statements for the last 30 years.

Some great advice given to the OP and his story has more holes than Swiss cheese but he is full of his own self righteousness. OP, you should get some counselling to help release whatever anger is driving this obsession

Why do you need the high court to allow you access to your bank records?

So now your siblings have their eyes on the sites. You have your eyes on the farm and home. All with the intention of leaving your parents with nothing and not a penny to pay for their own well being. Nice family. Your poor parents must be horrified.

I can't see a judge in the country going for it. In fact I can't see how a court can rule to verify wills when the testators are still alive. So best of luck with that.

Your mind is set on the legal road you have planned from the outset of the thread. No amount of practical talk is seeping through to you. I can't wish you the best of luck with it because my sympathies lie with your parents. But I do wish you all the best with your diagnosis and hope you can come to terms with it before alienating those around you.

Fair Deal doesn't work that way. You can't strip the assets and expect the State to pay for a nursing home. Fair Deal takes into account any assets that were divested in the previous 5 (at least, it may have increased) years. Also, your parents may refuse to go into a home. You can't force them, unless you have Enduring Power of Attorney and depending on how advanced your mums alzheimers is, she may no longer be in a position to give consent to setting one up.

The whole thing seems all very nasty. Would it be better if you all sat down and had a discussion about it?

How is the house with all your investments worth less than your investments.

IF it was derelict and a site it’s likely worth €50k. What about land with it.

You thought you were onto a winner, do up the place and sell on when your parents (bad form to live into their 90s) kicked the bucket.

BTW, here’s the best advice you’ll receive on here.

Don’t remove windows and heating while your 90+ parents are in the house or you could be done for manslaughter.

I think the key take away is never expect an Inheritance.

I agree that it's a nasty state of affairs but not maybe in the way you think!

OP yes you put in money into the house but you had no legal entitlement. And there is no way that improvements put in over the years would be worth more than the house is worth now at all. Especially as they would have been depreciating over that course of time and a lot would probably need redoing at some point in the not too distant future. Not to mention if you were living there you got the benefit of those things too.

So the only reason you did any of it was not to help your parents but for yourself? Do you understand that you sound just as bad as you say your siblings are. You complain they don't care except for the value of the land but what about you? All you've talked about is how much your parents owe you for what you've done. Honestly it's no better. In fact in some ways its worse as you did it under the guise of helping until you weren't getting your own way.

The Celtic tiger is a long time sleeping so that would mean your siblings have had an interest in the place for the past about 17 years? Because the tiger went into hibernation in 2008.

No if the place is sold now, its your parents who will get the money & decide what to do with it. I will put this plainly. You Do Not Own Anything Nor Are You Legally Entitled To Anything Unless There Was An Actual Agreement Signed Stating Such. A previous version of a will does not count.

This flippin will. So are you saying that if there was no will you wouldn't have done anything? You would have ignored your parents living in a cold, damp place like you accuse your siblings of doing? As has been pointed out that will is possibly not worth the paper its written on anymore as there is a new one. And a will means nothing until a person has died. So unfortunately it's a hard lesson but one you've just learnt.

How is it the opposite to selfish or greedy? You've talked about kicking them out of their own home to get back what you're owed? All because the will has changed as have your own circumstances that probably led to that will being written.

It may have been a significant outlay but if you're living there, you have also had the benefit of it too. So it's not like it was just for your parents. And even if it was, you a) didn't have to do it (nothing forcing you) & b) have no legal right to repayment for works done to a house that did not belong to you or that you had no legal interest in.

OP is it possible (and i ask this based souly on what you have written here in regards to homes etc) that your siblings are doing what they are doing because they see a need to protect their parents from you?

To be fair the covid stuff has no relevance, the laughing at your fathers upbringing has no relevance, the bullying has no relevance.

I also drove the length of the country to stay with my parents during covid to ensure they had help.

Also you mention the house was to be left to you and also a land grab by your siblings, being given the house has no bearing on the land or was it specified either way.

In all honesty I see why you feel hard done by if all this is true and correct but it seems like you took a gamble on something unsure and it failed, legally theres no recourse.