Something doesn't feel right

so did you tell her with no misunderstandings you doesn't want any relationship nor a friendship with her ( I would also tell her the reasons, but everybodies different here). Because if you don't, be sure to be pestered by her with all different tricks to reel you back in. Waste of energy for you.

She sounds awful hard-work, and someone lacking consideration , thought and awareness to others feelings. Get rid!! It won’t change. And you’ll be broke going by the way you describe her “generosity.”

Edit: just seeing that you have done the right thing

Don't answer her next message.

You don't owe her anything.

Put some distance between you.

you are already being reeled back in if you give her or her friends any thought, or any of your energy! Get space from them and get it now! In some ways I wonder if you are now regretting telling her it's over. Be aware initially you will look back with rose tinted glasses, you will only miss the good bits.

I've been there in relationships that were emotionally abusive, they all started with neediness and obsessive behaviour. I always tried to help and fix , it always backfired. Get away now and block all contact. Staying in touch "as friends" is a complete joke.

While friends are important, I'm starting to wonder what's going on in your circle of friends. Or at the very least, the ones you share with your ex. In your first post you mentioned your concern about being seen as an ogre if you broke up with her. Now that you rightly ended this, you've circled back to this. I find it quite weird to be honest. You only went out with this woman a few times. Nobody sane could ever describe what you had as a relationship. In fact, if one of my friends found themselves in a situation like yours, I would be concerned. Your love life is nobody's business except your own and neither her friends nor yours should be getting involved at all. This is where you need to own your decisions and establish boundaries.

Sorry, I missed the detail about it being her friend who told you off for breaking up with her. This changes what I originally wrote. To me, this confirms that you absolutely did the right thing in breaking up with your ex. I too detect buyer's remorse from you but you should be reading this as a sign that you did the right thing. This friend is a flying monkey sent by your ex and they have no business getting involved in this. They've only heard her side of the story and it's unlikely to be fully accurate. All that does is confirm how manipulative your ex is. It might also explain why she supposedly handled the break-up so well. In hindsight, tears and a tantrum would've been a better end to this.

You need to tread carefully. You could get sucked back into your ex's orbit and you'll find it harder to break up this time. Alternatively, she could turn against you and start whispering lies in the ears of your mutual friends.

Did they have the friends number previously. Not an uncommon tactic to get a new sim.

Ah, I sense a hint of regret in the last sentence. Don't.

It's her friend not yours. They have her interest in mind not yours. How manipulative sending friends to tell you off and staying all angel herself!

While this is correct, and I'd add immaturity into the pile, I'm going to swim against the tide here, and suggest that there may be another way.

OP might want to consider getting back together, based on a very firm conversation, explaining that you're really uncomfortable with the idea of being changed or groomed by her. It could be that she's just been out of the loop for so long that she's acting like a teenager getting a first boyfriend.

It's possible that there might be something worth recovering here, with some good clear communications.

Maybe the friend took it upon themselves. Not everything is a soap opera.

Nah that leech will move on to her next victim.. The Op was strong in the end and did the right thing, good riddance to her!

You see, drama and the expression of upset was saved for a friend to prod them to action. She didn't show it to the OP, which would give him some relief. So it is not a manipulation in your eyes?

She sounds like she could be a Narcissist. Sam Vaknin has a good video called Don't let loneliness define or guide you which touches on this subject if you are interested.

No, no! Do not go down that road.

Self doubt, am I losing out, did I do something wrong, maybe I should change. No!

You ain't perfect, neither am I. But you are special.

This is classic isolation treatment. Your friend will cop on. Perhaps chat to her about what you said here. Regardless if you're not the best person in the universe, your feelings are priority.

This is only my opinion.