Am I overacting?

I absolutely didn't want him to escalate this. Did not want him to say a word to the lady in question. Wanted him to be there for me. Instead of standing there like a total stranger. That's it. Holding my hand, suggesting casually to grab a cab, something, anything at all would have made a difference.

But absolute indifference, standing there making absolutely no remote gesture to show anyone I wasn't alone is not ok

Not ok in my opinion and not what I would have done if the person there had been my boyfriend, sister, mate whatever.

Issue is he didn't handle anything :)

His expectation was for me to carry on like nothing happened. Get on bus and go about our business.

Had we been together for 9 months then I would understand.

19 years together is not a joke.

He should have known what to say. He should have known a situation like that would have been upsetting to deal with..

Absolutely

Will do

Same way I hope he can put himself in my shoes. And try to understand how I felt.

In a relationship such things go both ways

Hi Ezeoul,

Not getting defensive at all.

In fact I appreciate your opinion.

We are all different and if I wrote here is to get other people views.

Thanks for sharing yours.

No hard feelings!

Thank you xx

Well I'm not going to deny I did wonder wtf did I live with for almost 20 years!

It was disappointing to say the least.

Had I been alone yes I would have probably returned home shaky about the whole 'event' and all but knowing he was there, witnessed all and didn't even made an effort to let his presence felt was a bit of a shock. We have not talked about it since we have been back home, aside from his comment about what if her fella had been there ..