No man wants to date me because I’m approaching 30?

You're in the absolute tip top prime of your life for meeting someone who wants to settle down and make a long term serious relationship leading to marriage/kids (if that's what you're also looking for)

I was on dating sites as a 34 yo man actively looking for a woman who wanted that aged 25 to 34.

It was full of somewhat desperate 34 to 38 year old women who's desperation was a massive turn off.

This is not to say that all women in that age bracket are desperate or a turn off, but the ones I met were.

I found a then 26 yo (a little on the young side i thought, but she had good reasons to be looking for all that stuff at that young age) and now 12 years later we have two kids and despite challenges we are in a reasonably good place.

Relax the kaks. You're every settling down type of man's dream.

The vast vast majority of 29 yo guys will date a compatible 29 yo gal.

Either you are falling victim to some quirk of the website age groupings - as in you are bracketed with 30 somethings and they don't want to date older.

OR ... there is something else in your profile putting guys off.

Being marginally older, Personally, never having been in a relationship, I like the idea of finding someone similar. Most women have been in numerous relationships and frankly it's a turn off as I am measuring myself against someone else constantly. I have been in many situations where women start going on about their exes and I just lose interest immediately. True love begins at 20, settling begins at 30. Truth hurts.

Actually, reading Donald Trumps most recent comment and that probably applies to me. Have utterly no interest in being some girl who's been around the blocks fallback essentially.

I think if you're open to widening your location then you'll have more options. Also standards are subjective.. Are you looking for a guy with no kids as this can be harder at your age group, are you looking for a a good looking guy, again sadly this a hard one too, but at 29 i dont believe this is a factor, think of halle Berry, in her 50s and hasn't aged a day. Obviously personality and (over) eagerness can come into play.

I really doubt your age is the issue. If you were 10 years older maybe but 29 is way too young to think your on the shelf already. I'd say it's more likely that the men in your age bracket have just reached the age where they are finally confidant enough with women that they realise they have a choice, or aren't looking for anything too serious. If a 29 year old man is saying he's only interested in someone 18-24 I think it's safe to assume he's only looking for something casual. Keep your standards where you want them but realise that it may take a while to meet someone who ticks all your boxes. That's true regardless what age you are

1. Be Attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

All Online dating issues are solved once the above conditions are met.

Plenty of lads get married at 29/30. It's just that they get married after having been going out with the same girl for a good few years at that stage. If the girl is trying to snag him for the first time at 29 then she is about 4 or 5 years too late though. That window is gone and she'll have to aim for a different age group if she is in a hurry.

A woman is most attractive and fertile in her early 20s. If a man is looking to have multiple children, it would be better for him to go for a woman in early 20s than to go for a single woman in her 30s as her fertility is already on the decline. He may have to date her for a year or two also before having kids, in which case she's even closer to becoming infertile.

So if a single guy is 30 and wants children he has to find someone compatible and he may not quickly find someone above 30 who clicks with him quickly. Assuming he found someone who's say 31 dates for 2-3 years, so now they're 33/34 and then gets married. They have a year, before pregnancies increase in risk. If they want to enjoy a year or two of marriage before having children she'll be between 34-36 years old. So a man looking for children will look to someone 5+ years younger than 30.

By the time a guy reaches 30 he should have his own place, a car, and assuming he was working hard in his 20's a stable career life. These are things some women his age were looking for when he was in his 20's. So he may go back to date 20 something year olds. Also if a guy is looking to settle down in his 20's and there is a woman who is more promiscuous and not interested in him or settling down, then if he loses interest in her or her type over time she shouldn't be surprised (assuming he's not promiscuous). This guy may be looking for younger women to settle down with and marry.

What are your "standards" missus?

You say fair but god only knows what that means.

Just on your second part there if you're going with any woman who has been around the block chances are you aren't her first pick mate.

That's the reality of it. Unless you're a 6ft millionaire with a massive dong that she met when she was 20 she's gonna be periodically thinking about the time she got it off a 6ft guy with a big dong and what may have been.

I grew up as the only man on one side of my family, if I can say with certainty it's that for the most part women want the best they can get and if they didn't end up with that they'll bring it up in conversation far too often.