Keeping Single...? For now

Id be on the fence about this myself at the moment, ive given the last two years in a fairly high level of isolation due to factors outside covid restrictions. Having been away for the three years prior to the pandemic i was living a fairly carefree lifestyle with little to no restriction whatsoever i was just going with the flow, so as you can imagine two years of imposed restrictions was not good for me mentally and socially. Im doing fairly good at the moment now the main reason would be due to changing employers at the start of the year mentally, physically and financially im all the better for it im very comfortable compared to others in my situation. However most of my friends who i mst abroad and returned home and started a relationship since seem to have a lot more fulfillment in there lives compared to myself i.e weekend breaks, holidays, weekends based less around alcohol etc whereas i hadnt taken a holiday at all (bar christmas break only for its the norm we probably would have worked it though) as i didnt see the point in taking time off to be alone with myself 24hrs a day as work was the only thing i really had at the time up until this January. I suppose its all about what you want yourself at the end of the day too, ive put up fair mileage across the world travelling solo but it was only really traversing across this country i realised i wouldnt mind sharing it with someone either. I see where youre coming from and the last thing i want is to get tied down straight away either as im hoping to leave this country indefinitly in the coming years. As for the financial reasons you mentioned above, is two incomes not better than one and is cohabiting not instantly slashing the bills in half for each person? Surely thats gonna be a better situation financially in the long run

I'm slightly petrified too but not for financial reasons. I hope my hydraulics are still working after being out of action for so long.

I can see myself getting backlash for this.

The opposite happened to me yesterday, im no oil painting myself whatsoever but ive been training like a bastard the last 6 months and slimmed down a bit however theres still plenty of room for improvement im in no way saying im a picture of fitness but im getting there, have a decent enough job potential to clear well over €1000/week in a few years every week of the year by the looks of it, im well travelled open minded put in a few tough years to get to where i am even though im still not at the end goal yet, non smoker, dont drink a whole lot well at least a hell of a lot less than i used to anyways and no time for drugs either.

I got two matches yesterday from two larger than life ladies a few years older than me who had a list of demands on there profile these were: must be 6ft, must have a good job, must drive or have drive couldnt figure it out which it was as well as having to be a certain age and be willing to settle down, but anyways these women were aiming high thats for sure (maybe thats where im going wrong). But i thought it was fairly high for someone only showing a face picture, no real signs of any drive themselves, and a few years older too even .

Am i wrong or am i doing it wrong do i need to aim higher or put a list of demands on my bio or are men allowed do that?

I thought about joining a gym for the social aspect as I know a few couples that have met that way. I just got used to training at home during the lockdowns

As a broad principle I'd advise all guys not to do marriage or (especially) fatherhood unless you're absolutely sure. Relationship Issues forum is full of blokes, mostly decent-sounding, who stumbled into matrimony and fatherhood without really thinking it through and are now trapped in nightmarish setups.

Does your gym not have any classes? Do you ever interact with anyone there? It's not uncommon for people to meet at the gym.

Stop reading boards and the independent,there's serious issues going on in the world but there always has been.It wouldn't be a consideration to have kids or not for me.

The absolute doom mongering is bad for people's health.

i actually couldnt be arsed anymore, im really enjoying single life again, tis great

Jaysus Dickie, thats more or less my situation and thinking in a nutshell. Dont ask me why but im absolutely terrified of fatherhood for those reasons too.

You're neither entirely wrong with your perception nor alone with your opinion. The world in it's current state in general isn't the best to consider children.

Also any kind of relationship is always subject to pressures from the outside. One is simply more flexible being single these days, reacting to all sorts of challenges, housing issues, cost of living crisis, insecure jobs, not the best salaries around, wars, pandemics, and whatever else comes along.....

I'm not suggesting a guy who swears off marriage and children has to be a lonely celibate. FWBs, polyamory, there are all sorts of other relationship models to choose from. Just don't do the legally binding 'till death do us part' monogamous commitment unless you're absolutely sure...

That's essentially daily life for about 90% of married couples with children. He's working late while shes watching another mind numbing show on TV and downing glasses of wine.

Gettting a trade here at the moment on a decent enough wage for an apprentice, farming background, secure rented accomadation for the next few years so you could say ive a few things going for me. Didnt stir out a lot over the last two years between covid and living a fairly isolated lifestyle (not going into that part). I made the change this January joined a sporting club locally ive come on leaps and bounds between the gym and that club since then due to the nature of the training involved it wasnt ideal to head out for a heavy session on the weekends so i hadnt a massive social life outside of work/training. Definitely a different man since January ive lost weight and my mental health is a lot better too and when i go out im fairly positive and good craic (so ive been told several time) and i dont drink to excess when im out anymore either. However despite all ive done i hit the town Saturday night in a great mood (had no fear the next day either) and i couldnt get over the coldness of the Irish women here no craic in them at all whatsoever and it was a decent enough spot we were in too but the only female attention i got was the wrong kind from a relation who blackened me in front of my friends and revealed a growing bitterness against me from herself and several family members in her drunken state. How in the name of god is a man supposed to find a woman in an environment like that? The coldness was unbelievable like i had no bother and great craic in Sydney and Melbourne where there was a way more laidback attitude and just a general better vibe between everyone there here everyones uptight and up their own hole in my experiences anyway.

I think you're just thinking about the actual climate aspect of climate change, as in the change in our weather and temperatures etc. but are completely ignoring the absolute disaster it's going to cause globally which will inevitably result in a massive refugee crisis. There'll be many densely populated areas of the world ending up either uninhabitable due to the heat or losing their food security, and they'll be forced to leave and they'll obviously come to less impacted places, like Western Europe. We'll be obliged to take large numbers in, because doing otherwise would be sickening since we'll be witnessing the terrible reality they faced in their home countries, and of course we will struggle to cope with actually supporting and assimilating them. We'll also probably face intense pressure to provide food security to other regions of the globe, provided we're still as good as we currently are on that regard

Its just annoying when people only consider the physical aspect of climate change and hot the humanitarian crises it'll bring on