Help a dude out?

you’ve got it in one with no. 4

this lady is very very very angry

@OP, love is action and not just words, but you need to use it’s to fix it and beg forgiveness for your ineptitude. Grovel. Show your love by burying your ego, and just plain admit that here you have been in the wrong. She is likely to forgive, but it seems you are so very angry with her too that you will find it difficult to get your head around to taking the stance that will work. Just try and understand where her anger is coming from.

This is one female opinion.

It reflects the among other hurt she feels. It seems that OP has for a long time found no other significant issues with her, so I take it that this is out of her ordinary way of handling things.

One thing that isn’t being taken into account, the fact she might be feeling rotten. Also Covid (& other infections) can affect the mood profoundly, so a little understanding is in order here. Autoimmune reactions can cause encephalopathy which could make her more reactive than usual, a little more understanding would be in order.

A simple apology would make all the difference, and not let Covid destroy a relationship.

“ Looking back on it, I understand I was mean to you and I really regret it. Will you accept my apology, I really would like us to be back where we were?”