Do men need a license to be allowed socialise (MOD NOTE IN OP)

I genuinely couldn't point to a single man of my acquaintance who'd cat call a woman and believe me, I know plenty of shameless flirts.

The last remaining cretins who do it are the same scrotes that generally make any area they're in an unpleasant place to be and it's other young guys who tend to get the worst of it in my experience: the scumbags might catcall at a girl or even grab her handbag and cycle off but they'll kick seven shades out of some other young lad for the tenner in his wallet. Most of those cretins don't have fathers to speak to them, and if they do, their fathers will be of the same ilk.

You are not going to get through to that type of person by sending in some social studies graduate who's drank the feminist kool-aid to lecture them about how women are perpetual victims and straight white men are always to blame. Real life tells them otherwise: their female classmates will be outperforming them in school, will have an easier time getting employed or accessing third level, have more opportunity to "marry up" (and are far more likely to come out the better should that marriage end in divorce), will out-earn them when they enter the workforce (unless they choose to side-line their careers for motherhood), have easier access to social housing and support, are less likely to be the victim of a violent crime, are less likely to commit suicide, etc. etc. etc.

Despite what the misandrists making a living at it are telling you, the facts all point the same way: Irish women have far more privilege than men.

If you truly want a more egalitarian society, you need to look at things through a far broader lens than that which feminism affords you. Most of Ireland's social issues are far more to do with class than gender, race or creed.

You could perhaps keep your opinions to yourself. I know, that’s just a mad idea

It is highly unlikely that a beautiful woman is waiting until the age of 25 or so to hear she’s beautiful for the first time.

Why is society so pass remarkable in public areas to complete strangers

I don't want to dismiss it, because it is a topic worth discussing, but suicide figures are very difficult to draw conclusions from, as they are quite subjective. It can be difficult to separate accidents from suicides. Suicides are often hidden in other categories like unknown cause of mortality, or deaths of undetermined intent. Falling off bridges, single vehicle collisions, accidental overdoses vs self-poisoning.

The basic experience of what it is like to be female in society today is what the poster meant. The pervasiveness of gendered expectations is wearying for women.

Take something simple like shopping for toothpaste. You go into any chemist in the country and you will see thousands of anti-aging products, aimed squarely at women. Creams for wrinkles, age spots, crows feet, any myriad of products. The obligation to look pretty, get dressed up, do hair and make-up. But also understand simultaneously that buying clothes, make-up or spending money on haircuts is seen as silly and frivolous. Men generally get to age in peace.

Any child doing anything someone disapproves of... there's usually a comment about it being the mother's fault.

People demeaning "types" of women. Girls who like make-up or romcoms, or makeup, or nerdy girls, sporty girls, confident girls, shy girls, "karen"s. Each and every trait that is seen as feminine is derided. Meggings for goodness sake. Men are so insulted with being associated with something that might be considered female, that they made up a new name for running tights, or leggings for men.

Medical treatment. Having a baby? There is no way you are the right age. You are either way too young if you're under 30, and geriatric if you are over 30. And that's comments from medical professionals. Gyne problems are often misdiagnosed. Pain women experience is dismissed and expected to be endured instead of being diagnosed and treated. It's incredibly difficult to get something like PCOS, cysts or endometriosis treated, but there are dozens of breast and face surgeries available, lip fillers, bum implants. Those have a menu.

Expectation to be responsible for life-admin. My husband is well able to manage our children. I go away with work for weeks at a time, and while I miss them all at home, I'm not concerned for their welfare, that they will starve or miss appointments etc. The amount of people who ask me whether I stocked the fridge in advance, or did meal plans, or lists of tasks. No , I did not. But that general expectation for me to have served him this platter of information is there.

And that's without mentioning any violence, sex or abuse.

I am not aware of anyone who does it either, but judging from other contributor’s posts here, it seems to be quite widespread.

Re the building site angle, I never mentioned it and one of the experiences I had it was from from the complete opposite spectrum to the lad from the building site.

Why do you feel compelled to comment on a complete strangers appearance in public ?

Would silence for fear of causing offence no matter how positive the comment is, not be a better policy.

Really do feel like I’m from a different planet sometimes…idk

I don't believe we disagree on anything relating to this matter.

That's fair enough, you don't have to engage. My posts to you are extremely polite, Klaz. It's the actual content of them and pushback against your views that does not suit your narrative and may be diffcult for to answer.

By the way, while you responded to the other posters who questioned the victim blaming post, you did not answer the question for them either.