There will be a rise in incel related terror attacks

@completedit

"as my laundry list of traits and features shows, for a men you must meet a long list of expectations and requirements."

Well no. You have not shown any such thing. You made a list - sure. But simply making a list does not mean anything on that list is automatically valid or true. You appear to be just making it up and imagining it is true. And doing so in a world where you are literally surrounded in people who hit every point on the continuum with all those traits and still manage to have active love lives and active sex lives.

No I find myself strongly suspecting that what I keep saying every time you churn out another one of these threads (and you have made several) is true. I can only guess that you have put the minimum level of effort into your life or attempts to better yourself in life. And rather than own that and get after it - you cling to your "laundry list" of cop out excuses to justify this to yourself. But you are not quite convinced yourself so you make threads like this to do what people lying to themselves often do - to try to convince others in the hope it will help you convince yourself.

So keep telling yourself it is your height that is getting in the way of your dreams. And keep ignoring the fact that people of all heights - including people of your height and significantly smaller - are getting it every day of the week in ways you simply are not. Tell yourself you need a big salary packet while ignoring the active sex lives of the unemployed and minimum wage. Keep gazing into your navel - so you do not have to notice the real world in no way matches up to your fantasy version of it.

And I include myself in this. Especially in terms of height where I am likely around your height or maybe shorter. Explain how I was able to get myself out of the very same mental hole you are in if you can? Explain how my height is not an issue and I no longer am "dead inside" or hate myself and the life I find myself in? Explain how I have now been in a 15 year relationship with not one but two of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen? Girls that can not walk from one end of a bar to another to use the toilet without being accosted and hit on by 3/4 guys en route in each direction every time because they simply attract that level of attention from guys? And who love me as deeply as I do them? Lets see how your fantasy bends to explain that one away? Because trust me it is not penis or wallet size that got me there either.

I can explain how I got from the mental and physical hole you appear to be in - to that place. The route I took and the routines I used.

But you're not going to want to hear it I suspect because unlike you it involved A) identifying the things in my life I could control and change B) Putting out of my mind the things out of my control and C) Actually getting up off my sorry depressed lazy self absorbed ass and putting some effort in to do something about it.

For too long in my teens and early 20s I took the easy lazy route in life and the result was a life and a self I hated deeply. I hated life. I hated myself. I hated women. I hated people happier than me. I was a ball of just pure hate and depression. And like you I blamed everything but myself for this - especially blaming things that I could never control or change (like my height and other things on your life). Then I just woke up and realised this was a load of bollox and I actively made the decision to change my thinking and my lifestyle. And it was not even massive over night changes. It was slow - incremental - and not actually all that much effort. On day one I changed a few very small things in my life style and in my thought processes - and kept making small relatively easy changes from there.

It could work for you too. Beware anyone who declares "What worked for me will work for you for sure". I can not know that. But I can tell people what worked for me and how and they can try it too or draw inspiration for other paths from it.

Which says more about you and which posts / threads you read than it does about me. This is what is called a self selection criteria.

Defining ourselves by our relationships is probably not always healthy - even less likely to be healthy if you derive your self worth or well being from the relationship too much or even exclusively. That can foster a toxic neediness which can then develop into things like jealousy or resentment or worse.

Mentioning things that are a big part of your life is not the same thing as being defined by that thing. Especially if you are only mentioning them in contexts where they are relevant. The question to ask yourself about a relationship - or anything else external to you like a job or money or peoples opinions of you or anything else - is do you truly believe that if that thing was removed entirely from your life tomorrow that you would still have the same level of self worth you did with that thing in your life?

If you can answer yes to that question then you probably have a health relationship with how that thing in question affects you, your well being, and your self worth.

Nothing I write is fabricated. Not even sure why it would be. I have been on the site for 12 years. Hell of a long term fabrication to be bothered with really :)

Anyway if anything in my posts is inspirational - which I genuinely hope it is - then you should not let the value of that be demeaned by anything you believe about me personally. Either something I said has value to you - or it does not. Who I actually am while saying it is irrelevant. If a person says 2+2=4 that is either true or it is not. It does not matter if the person saying it is Einstein or Hitler. It remains true none the less.

I can talk at length about my journey and how I made it - and how tiny easy changes I made in my life have led me to a place that is greater than the sum of its parts in terms of the happiness and well being I get from it. And am willing to answer any questions you want to ask or would find helpful or inspirational. And if you want to believe me a liar through the entire conversation then so be it - if you gain anything from the conversation at all then we are both winners regardless of what you believe about me.

I make a lot of posts on this forum which I hope are genuinely inspirational - or at least passably helpful - to the people who read them. I assure you I do this without any malice, dishonesty, or ill intention. And it would genuinely wound me if you found inspiration in my posts - were about to implement some of that in your own life for the better - and have in any way lost faith in doing so because you do not trust the source. I have been called many things over the years on this forum - including liar and worse - and I genuinely have never cared what people thought. But the idea someone might actually be getting someone from my posts but have lost that value due to suspecting I am lying - that for the first time actually does register with me emotionally. That is absolutely never the result I Would go for on this forum ever.

Ignore the messenger. Evaluate the message. And I genuinely wish you well friend.