Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

One More Toy · 22-03-2021 8:41am

I'm panicking every morning. I just needed to vent, I'm sick and tired of the dread everytime I wake

tdf7187 · 22-03-2021 9:56am

One More Toy wrote: »

I'm panicking every morning. I just needed to vent, I'm sick and tired of the dread everytime I wake

Sorry to hear you are feeling bad. This too will pass. I'm in quite good form this morning, for once.

YoshiSays · 22-03-2021 9:59am

One More Toy wrote: »

I'm panicking every morning. I just needed to vent, I'm sick and tired of the dread everytime I wake

Yep, I have that. Even on non work days. I have work now and dreading that.

Gremlinertia · 22-03-2021 10:05am

I'm on the way home and kinda dreading that because I can't sleep. Ya can't win. Anyway hope the day turns out better than your anxiety made you imagine.

ancapailldorcha · 22-03-2021 12:04pm

Not sure if this counts. I have a nice job and am approaching the last year of my contract. I also fancy a career change but to what I don't know and I find thinking about it incredibly draining. I saw an interesting job advertised in the Benelux area with fluency in Dutch being listed as a mere advantage as opposed to a prerequisite. I'm convinced that if I got it I'd just end up blowing it.

Wanderer78 · 22-03-2021 12:06pm

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Not sure if this counts. I have a nice job and am approaching the last year of my contract. I also fancy a career change but to what I don't know and I find thinking about it incredibly draining. I saw an interesting job advertised in the Benelux area with fluency in Dutch being listed as a mere advantage as opposed to a prerequisite. I'm convinced that if I got it I'd just end up blowing it.

you wont know until you try, could be an amazing experience, go for it

ancapailldorcha · 22-03-2021 12:07pm

Wanderer78 wrote: »

you wont know until you try, could be an amazing experience, go for it

I probably will. My expectations are suitably low but I've this mindset that if I apply for something, even if I get it I'll make a mess of it. I'm almost grateful for the impending end of my contract as it prevents me from just doing nothing.

Wanderer78 · 22-03-2021 12:08pm

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

I probably will. My expectations are suitably low but I've this mindset that if I apply for something, even if I get it I'll make a mess of it. I'm almost grateful for the impending end of my contract as it prevents me from just doing nothing.

you d just never know, you might just get it, and love it

One More Toy · 23-03-2021 10:09am

Can't cope guys, I'm sick to my stomach every morning with anxiety. Maybe it doesn't help my valium was reduced by a fifth. Not sure what to do, not very functional at the minute

tdf7187 · 24-03-2021 9:27am

One More Toy wrote: »

Can't cope guys, I'm sick to my stomach every morning with anxiety. Maybe it doesn't help my valium was reduced by a fifth. Not sure what to do, not very functional at the minute

Can you ask your doctor to put the valium dose back up? I know these days the medical profession seems to view valium as almost equivalent to crack cocaine but a lot of people need some help.

Also do you have breakfast in the mornings? Admittedly I don't always practice what I preach but the people who say it is the most important meal of the day aren't lying. It doesn't have to be the largest meal of the day, even just a yoghurt or some fruit.

One More Toy · 24-03-2021 9:58am

tdf7187 wrote: »

Can you ask your doctor to put the valium dose back up? I know these days the medical profession seems to view valium as almost equivalent to crack cocaine but a lot of people need some help.

Also do you have breakfast in the mornings? Admittedly I don't always practice what I preach but the people who say it is the most important meal of the day aren't lying. It doesn't have to be the largest meal of the day, even just a yoghurt or some fruit.

I could if I knew how to get in touch with them to be honest, I have found it very difficult in the past

I do eat a breakfast bar in the morning, it's all I can stomach

YoshiSays · 24-03-2021 9:59am

Some protein for breakfast also supposed to help with anxiety. Eg an egg.

One More Toy · 24-03-2021 10:05am

YoshiSays wrote: »

Some protein for breakfast also supposed to help with anxiety. Eg an egg.

I might try that thanks

tdf7187 · 24-03-2021 10:14am

One More Toy wrote: »

I could if I knew how to get in touch with them to be honest, I have found it very difficult in the past

I do eat a breakfast bar in the morning, it's all I can stomach

What are the obstacles to getting in touch with your doctor? I'm not clear here. They would have internet or telephone consultations during COVID, hopefully?

One More Toy · 24-03-2021 10:19am

tdf7187 wrote: »

What are the obstacles to getting in touch with your doctor? I'm not clear here. They would have internet or telephone consultations during COVID, hopefully?

It's the hospital consultant I see in a clinic outside of the hospital, I'll try giving them a ring but it took days to hear back last time

tdf7187 · 24-03-2021 10:57am

One More Toy wrote: »

It's the hospital consultant I see in a clinic outside of the hospital, I'll try giving them a ring but it took days to hear back last time

Ok I see what you mean. It's not St Pats by any chance?

One More Toy · 24-03-2021 10:59am

tdf7187 wrote: »

Ok I see what you mean. It's not St Pats by any chance?

No unfortunately it's St jamses

tdf7187 · 24-03-2021 11:28am

One More Toy wrote: »

No unfortunately it's St jamses

Ah ok. Well no harm in a follow up call or email. Even with the likes of St Pats sometimes you have to keep hassling them.

Gremlinertia · 24-03-2021 8:51pm

That's a fact, can take quite a bit of persistent, brutally difficult to do when in or near crisis of course..

tdf7187 · 24-03-2021 10:48pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

That's a fact, can take quite a bit of persistent, brutally difficult to do when in or near crisis of course..

That's the irony of it, isn't it.

sherazahmed · 25-03-2021 9:21am

Turtle_ wrote: »

Welcome

Good to hear from someone who has managed to get past these types of struggles. Gives a bit of hope I guess.

Same here, This should be a must. I'm also free to talk. I guess sharing can relieve everything.

sherazahmed · 25-03-2021 9:24am

I was also facing the same for a while during last year but now I am free. You can share with me and relieve everything and can even have a chat. Stress and depression are dangerous you must stay strong.

One More Toy · 25-03-2021 11:42am

I came clean with my boss, have I done the right thing? She said she noticed I wasnt picking up on things lately. Now she wants to check in twice a day with me to touch base. I feel like I've done the wrong thing?

Wanderer78 · 25-03-2021 12:02pm

One More Toy wrote: »

I came clean with my boss, have I done the right thing? She said she noticed I wasnt picking up on things lately. Now she wants to check in twice a day with me to touch base. I feel like I've done the wrong thing?

could be exactly what was needed for you, some employers are really good in regards mental health issues

YoshiSays · 25-03-2021 4:00pm

One More Toy wrote: »

I came clean with my boss, have I done the right thing? She said she noticed I wasnt picking up on things lately. Now she wants to check in twice a day with me to touch base. I feel like I've done the wrong thing?

You had to make a change. You were stuck. Don't beat yourself up any more.

tdf7187 · 25-03-2021 6:51pm

How is everyone today? I have therapy session next week, 1st April.

Gremlinertia · 25-03-2021 6:55pm

tdf7187 wrote: »

How is everyone today? I have therapy session next week, 1st April.

Oh very good, well, date aside! Are you restarting after a covid hiatus?.

tdf7187 · 26-03-2021 12:23am

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Oh very good, well, date aside! Are you restarting after a covid hiatus?.

Not really, it's just I feel I could do with it.

Wanderer78 · 26-03-2021 8:56am

tdf7187 wrote:

How is everyone today? I have therapy session next week, 1st April.

I'm good thanks, that's something nice to look forward to, I'm luckily still getting both online and in person supports

tdf7187 · 28-03-2021 1:28am

My abusive elderly mother is making my life a living hell. Suicidal thoughts today again.

sporina · 28-03-2021 10:48pm

tdf7187 wrote: »

My abusive elderly mother is making my life a living hell. Suicidal thoughts today again.

gosh - sorry to hear that - are you ok?

tdf7187 · 29-03-2021 6:18pm

sporina wrote: »

gosh - sorry to hear that - are you ok?

Ok today thanks.

PrickSanchez · 30-03-2021 9:58am

Hi all,

Reaching out to for some help in understanding. My partner is a long time sufferer of PTSB, anxiety and depression and the panic attacks are weekly and very intense (mostly due to covid, but legacy issues havent gone away). It's really to starting to get to me and i'm beginning my own therapy to cope this week.
For those of you who do suffer from panic attacks, do you experience much anger? I'm subjected to tirades against my family, the world, the neighbours and the full rundown list of triggers. Cool down takes hours and recovery 2 days usually. She's back to therapy this week after much coaxing but my question is - and i understand everyone's experience is different - do any of you experience fury in your panic attacks and how much of it is genuine? I'm concerned that should she get a handle on the mental health issues, there's no recovering the relationship.

Apologies if there's anything triggering here for anyone.

Gremlinertia · 30-03-2021 10:40am

Anxiety actually came out as rage in me for many many years, I think it was a weird reaction to being vulnerable while in panic mode, mad at myself and lashing out. DBT helped me realise that so it's more manageable.. It's a tough place where you are, great idea to look after yourself, well done..

One More Toy · 30-03-2021 11:16am

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Anxiety actually came out as rage in me for many many years, I think it was a weird reaction to being vulnerable while in panic mode, mad at myself and lashing out. DBT helped me realise that so it's more manageable.. It's a tough place where you are, great idea to look after yourself, well done..

Agree, I've developed an awful short fused temper

RabbleRouser2k · 30-03-2021 11:21am

Just a question for those of you who are doing online therapy (over the phone or on Zoom or whereever) have you found it as helpful or beneficial as in-person therapy?

I'm considering getting an online therapist-mainly because the lockdown seems never ending, and I've some issues that I feel need dealing with. And there's no hope of attending an in person therapist because of everything going on rn.

Any feedback is appreciated.

PrickSanchez · 30-03-2021 11:27am

RabbleRouser2k wrote: »

Just a question for those of you who are doing online therapy (over the phone or on Zoom or whereever) have you found it as helpful or beneficial as in-person therapy?

I'm considering getting an online therapist-mainly because the lockdown seems never ending, and I've some issues that I feel need dealing with. And there's no hope of attending an in person therapist because of everything going on rn.

Any feedback is appreciated.

My partner did EMDR over zoom last year at it worked fine. Only issue was therapist was fully booked so oculdn;t keep the sessions going long enough.

PMBC · 31-03-2021 7:57pm

Anyone know how Brintellix 10mg would relate to the severity of anxiety i.e. if you were severely anxious would it be 10 mg, 15 mg or 20 mg that would be prescribed.
I appreciate that it is very difficult to say what is severe and what is mild for these illnesses.
Thanks and wishing everyone good health and happy days in these trying times.

Gremlinertia · 31-03-2021 8:04pm

PMBC wrote: »

Anyone know how Brintellix 10mg would relate to the severity of anxiety i.e. if you were severely anxious would it be 10 mg, 15 mg or 20 mg that would be prescribed.
I appreciate that it is very difficult to say what is severe and what is mild for these illnesses.
Thanks and wishing everyone good health and happy days in these trying times.

That's really only for a medical professional and their patient to decide on, we really can't do anything more for you here than that..

Airyfairy12 · 01-04-2021 12:58am

PMBC wrote: »

Anyone know how Brintellix 10mg would relate to the severity of anxiety i.e. if you were severely anxious would it be 10 mg, 15 mg or 20 mg that would be prescribed.
I appreciate that it is very difficult to say what is severe and what is mild for these illnesses.
Thanks and wishing everyone good health and happy days in these trying times.

Im on Brintellix for anxiety & im on 15mg but that was my choice to move up to that amount, I requested a higher dose.
Your doctor is unlikely to prescribe you 15 or 20, they'll likely start you off on 5 or 10 and see how you get on, they might move you up a dose if you request it & depending on how you feel but it can take 6 - 8 weeks for a dose to settle so you'd probably be giving it a month atleast on each dose before moving up.
I dont mean to give medical advice, I hope my reply doesnt come across that way, what im trying to say is no one here can give you an answer as your experience could be different to someone elses.
Everyone is different, some people with sever anxiety feel that 10 mg is enough for them, some people feel that Brintellix doesn't help their anxiety at all, some people need take this with other meds to help their anxiety. Its subjective I think. If you think a dose is working well for you, keep going with it, if your doctor advises.

apache · 02-04-2021 8:31am

Anybody ever been prescribed Buspar for anxiety and did it help?

jaxxx · 05-04-2021 11:00pm

What to do when you're in a job you absolutely loathe. Not so much the job itself, i.e. the daily tasks, but more so the hours, the nights, the absolute lazy buffoons you call your colleagues when your dog could be more competent than them. Location wise? Perfect, 20 minutes by the time I leave the door until I sit at me desk. Very good pay and job security. But the cons weigh far more than the pros. Affecting how I eat, how I sleep. Quality of life takes a heavy hit.

Be good everyone. No, don't be good. Be well. Be WELL.

Wanderer78 · 06-04-2021 3:48am

jaxxx wrote:

What to do when you're in a job you absolutely loathe. Not so much the job itself, i.e. the daily tasks, but more so the hours, the nights, the absolute lazy buffoons you call your colleagues when your dog could be more competent than them. Location wise? Perfect, 20 minutes by the time I leave the door until I sit at me desk. Very good pay and job security. But the cons weigh far more than the pros. Affecting how I eat, how I sleep. Quality of life takes a heavy hit.

I had to leave a job a few years ago, it was having serious negative effects on my well being, it wasn't an easy decision, as it was a step into the unknown, but I'm really glad I did, it was an extremely toxic environment for me, but the right decision, be well

Meeoow · 06-04-2021 4:40am

Wanderer78 wrote: »

I had to leave a job a few years ago, it was having serious negative effects on my well being, it wasn't an easy decision, as it was a step into the unknown, but I'm really glad I did, it was an extremely toxic environment for me, but the right decision, be well

I'm beginning to feel that way myself. When people sense that you have anxiety and depression, they can chip away at you till they break you.

Graces7 · 06-04-2021 9:00am

Meeoow wrote: »

I'm beginning to feel that way myself. When people sense that you have anxiety and depression, they can chip away at you till they break you.

They are scared. Makes them feel...vulnerable. Took me years to see that. Also they feel you need to …...get over it! YOU know?

Much the same with M.E which if course is AITM so I hide away happily. Folk only see me when I am well enough to seem well.

sporina · 06-04-2021 1:08pm

Meeoow wrote: »

I'm beginning to feel that way myself. When people sense that you have anxiety and depression, they can chip away at you till they break you.

unfortunately this can be true - bullies can sense a vulnerability in people.. and they get a buzz out of making them feel small - in an attempt to make themselves feel bigger..

not saying that this is the situation for jaxx though - sounds like he has lazy colleagues and possibly has to carry the can for them

One More Toy · 08-04-2021 7:27am

Counting down the minutes until I've to get out of bed

Wanderer78 · 08-04-2021 7:54am

One More Toy wrote:

Counting down the minutes until I've to get out of bed

I've started covering over my clock so I'm not clock watching, think it's working

One More Toy · 08-04-2021 10:31am

Now counting down the minutes until work finishes

Gremlinertia · 08-04-2021 10:39am

One More Toy wrote: »

Now counting down the minutes until work finishes

If someone told me this was the circle of life when i was a kid i would have stayed a kid forever!

Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

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