Things you just "don't get"?

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 02:58PM

Fireworks and firework displays.

Living in England the natives get a real hard on for this nonsense every Guy Fawkes and New Years.

I'm sorry I just find it a load of tacky crap making noise plus I am not 6.

I cannot for the life of me fathom it.

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 03:00PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Do you really need a wedding to stretch on until 5am? In the UK, things wrap up at around 1am and it's great. Lots of craic still had with the end-of-night messiness avoided. It's a much less drawn out affair. Later civil ceremonies generally (3pm and later) and finished around 1am. Much more palatable. A much less arduous day. And smaller gifts expected as standard. So much less faff all round.

My point re: residents bars is that staff would probably prefer to go home early rather than pick up a few paltry hours of extra pay serving Mad Bastards their 20th drink of the night. I witnessed this at one wedding I was sober at where the staff could not have looked more relieved when people finally started filtering out of the bar. And a friend of mine was so glad the last day of working at a wedding hotel, so sick was she of obnoxious wedding punters. So my point is, firstly, the whole residents bar thing is a bit sad and secondly, I have firsthand experience of the pressure hotel staff are under to work long, long shifts and thirdly, I've witnessed relief on hotel staff members' faces when people finally start to clear the bar. Easy to miss all this when you're utterly ratarsed.

Look, get as shitfaced as you like, but everyone doesn't think you're great craic for doing so.

I have literally witnessed more than one staff member manning wedding residents bars until 4am.

Employees in 'glad to finish shift and get home' shock....:eek:

Up next: The Pope may be Catholic

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 22-01-2020 03:06PM

partyguinness wrote: »

Employees in 'glad to finish shift and get home' shock....:eek:

Up next: The Pope may be Catholic

Of course everyone is glad to be finished work but have you ever been in a bar or restaurant where the staff were not even trying to be subtle about how relieved they were that everyone was fucking off? Because that’s what I’m talking here.

22-01-2020 03:50PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Do you really need a wedding to stretch on until 5am? In the UK, things wrap up at around 1am and it's great. Lots of craic still had with the end-of-night messiness avoided. It's a much less drawn out affair. Later civil ceremonies generally (3pm and later) and finished around 1am. Much more palatable. A much less arduous day. And smaller gifts expected as standard. So much less faff all round.

Yes I do need them to stretch until 5am, finishing at 1am would ruin the night for me I'd only be getting warmed up and I'd be hopping for more drink and craic! The residents bar is always mighty craic and a good singsong makes the day.

Funny you mention a UK wedding, I've never been to one but heard they are fairly boring affairs, I'm invited to one at the end of the year and I'm debating will I bother going based on the reports. If I do I'll have a late bar/nightclub found nearby that a few of us can head to if things finish up as early as 1am or whatever. You won't be surprised when I say to me a traditional Irish wedding is by far and away the best type.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

My point re: residents bars is that staff would probably prefer to go home early rather than pick up a few paltry hours of extra pay serving Mad Bastards their 20th drink of the night. I witnessed this at one wedding I was sober at where the staff could not have looked more relieved when people finally started filtering out of the bar. And a friend of mine was so glad the last day of working at a wedding hotel, so sick was she of obnoxious wedding punters. So my point is, firstly, the whole residents bar thing is a bit sad and secondly, I have firsthand experience of the pressure hotel staff are under to work long, long shifts and thirdly, I've witnessed relief on hotel staff members' faces when people finally start to clear the bar. Easy to miss all this when you're utterly ratarsed.

I could probably answer all that paragraph by saying I don't really care. I massively enjoy staying drinking as late (or early) as possible and if the hotel provides that service I will be partaking, if they don't then they are a crap hotel. The staff can mope around all they want once they keep serving.

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 03:57PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Funny you mention a UK wedding, I've never been to one but heard they are fairly boring affairs, I'm invited to one at the end of the year and I'm debating will I bother going based on the reports. If I do I'll have a late bar/nightclub found that a few if can head to if things finish up early at 1am or whatever. You won't be surprised when I say to me a traditional Irish wedding is by far and away the best type.

I have been living in the UK 10 years and been to a good few weddings over here. I can absolutely 100% confirm the weddings over here are dry boring affairs.

I recall going to one on a Monday afternoon and it was self service buffet. Sure everyone is working the next day and place empty by 10pm. At that wedding I had taken the next day off and no word of a lie I was the only one at the bar.

Friends of ours got married on a Wednesday and they were put out that nobody stayed in the hotel and left early. What did they expect for a Wednesday night? Everyone had work the next day.

And the meal? Tea and sandwiches and then pizza was ordered in. I couldnt make it up. Food tends to be ****e beige buffet finger food.

Primarily because the English are as tight as a duck's ass and hate spending money- just too miserable to enjoy themselves and go for the cheapest possible option.

In fact I have attended funerals in Ireland that were more enjoyable.

PS

When we got married over here we had several English couples who didn't give us so much as a card let alone a gift- they were there for the whole lot meal, free drinks etc. They even got into rounds with Irish couples at their table but never bought a round themselves. Miserable bastards. Now I didn't care as they were the wife's friends but she was a little hurt & embarrassed. I just have nothing to do with them.

22-01-2020 04:04PM

partyguinness wrote: »

Primarily because the English are as tight as a duck's ass and hate spending money- just too miserable to enjoy themselves and go for the cheapest possible option.

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You should see what they put in a card for a wedding gift when attending and Irish wedding, I'd be embarrassed giving so little wouldn't even cover their meal.

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 04:09PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

You should see what they put in a card for a wedding gift when attending and Irish wedding, I'd be embarrassed giving so little wouldn't even cover their meal.

Funnily enough I have just added to my post on the same point.

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 04:18PM

In fact every wedding in England I have been to has been absolutely dire and downright torture.

I was even at a same sex wedding- two ladies.

Still awful but kudos for the novelty factor and as they didn't have two pennies to rub together it was just nasty and we only went out of sympathy for one of the mother of brides that we knew- basically rent-a-crowd to make up the very low numbers. And no...they were not hotties. Thinks Roseanne Barr's two uglier fatter sisters.

Another wedding the husband definitely had a very dodgy background- he had nobody at it and I mean nobody (family or friends).

The Nal · 22-01-2020 04:19PM

partyguinness wrote: »

I was even at a same sex wedding- two ladies.

....And no...they were not hotties. Thinks Roseanne Barr's two uglier fatter sisters.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 22-01-2020 04:40PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Funny you mention a UK wedding, I've never been to one but heard they are fairly boring affairs, I'm invited to one at the end of the year and I'm debating will I bother going based on the reports. If I do I'll have a late bar/nightclub found nearby that a few of us can head to if things finish up as early as 1am or whatever. You won't be surprised when I say to me a traditional Irish wedding is by far and away the best type.

No less craic than an Irish wedding and much less messy. We had a nightclub lined up because some of the group thought it was needed and hardly anyone went because nobody was really bothered about drinking more in the end. A lot of stuff at weddings is just done out of habit. Nobody needs a wedding to go on until 5am. That’s a want, not a need. If it’s truly a need - yikes.

Singsongs are an absolute penance too. The wedding version of the guitar wanker at a party and my cue to call it a night. They’re a great way to clear the reception room.

I could probably answer all that paragraph by saying I don't really care.

Of course you don’t. Absolutely no surprises there at all.

hynesie08 · 22-01-2020 04:42PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

You should see what they put in a card for a wedding gift when attending and Irish wedding, I'd be embarrassed giving so little wouldn't even cover their meal.

Would it cover the cost of the flights and hotel since they came from a different country???

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 22-01-2020 04:49PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

You should see what they put in a card for a wedding gift when attending and Irish wedding, I'd be embarrassed giving so little wouldn't even cover their meal.

partyguinness wrote: »

Funnily enough I have just added to my post on the same point.

Gifts expectations are lower in the UK in keeping with the more modest celebrations - no showy throwing around of money. Giving lower gift amounts was probably their norm. Grousing about the gifts ye received - classy. If people travelled out of the country they’re living in to attend your wedding, you shouldn’t be expecting a large gift anyway. They’ve already spent plenty in order to be there.

Partyguiness, it’s bad to not give anything to a marrying couple but I doubt anyone was trying to scam a “free” meal and drinks at your wedding, wedding meals being pretty bogstandard and there always being expenses attached to the day. Who’d go to that trouble and expense for an uninspiring feed?

22-01-2020 04:58PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

No less craic than an Irish wedding and much less messy.

Based on your description and others I've heard they sound fairly boring. Only starting late in the afternoon and finishing not long after midnight, hardly worth the trip for that.

And yes a very late finish is absolutely vital. As I said this was one of my first questions to any hotel we considered for our wedding followed by ensuring that the residents bar wasn't limited to residents (so guests who could go home or were staying in other hotels/B&Bs could stay drinking). I discounted immediately any hotel that didn't serve until 4am at least or if they wouldn't serve non-residents.

hynesie08 wrote: »

Would it cover the cost of the flights and hotel since they came from a different country???

I've never changed my gifting amounts due to the wedding I was attending being abroad.

partyguinness · 22-01-2020 05:01PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Partyguiness, it’s bad to not give anything to a marrying couple but I doubt anyone was trying to scam a “free” meal and drinks at your wedding, wedding meals being pretty bogstandard and there always being expenses attached to the day. Who’d go to that trouble and expense for an uninspiring feed?

To be fair, our wedding was class...:D Only 30 sat down in a restaurant that we had booked for the day. More came to afters. We paid for the whole lot ourselves beforehand. I know Irish couples depend on the whole cash in card to pay for the meal and hotel.

It was not bog standard salmon or steak fare I'll have you know...:mad: They are just miserable tight bastards and they only lived down the road so throw on an outfit and drive 5 miles on a Saturday there was no expense or trouble. The wife was a tad hurt and embarrassed because I never liked the same 2 couples anyway (gut feeling) so it was just a slap in the face for the wife after all the defending.

Considering the cost and expense to my Irish family and friends to fly over and book accom it was bad manners. Oh and the Irish gave as generous as they would at home and likewise I flew back to their weddings in later years and gave generously as if I still lived in Ireland.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 22-01-2020 05:12PM

partyguinness wrote: »

To be fair, our wedding was class... Only 30 sat down in a restaurant that we had booked for the day. More came to afters. We paid for the whole lot ourselves beforehand. I know Irish couples depend on the whole cash in card to pay for the meal and hotel.

Everyone thinks that about their own wedding.

It’s nice that you gave as much as a gift when you travelled out of the country but I don’t think people should expect as large a gift when people have to go to extra expense to attend.

andekwarhola · 22-01-2020 06:31PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

You should see what they put in a card for a wedding gift when attending and Irish wedding, I'd be embarrassed giving so little wouldn't even cover their meal.

Thus speaketh The Pintman. It is written.

Jamsiek · 22-01-2020 07:57PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I don’t get people who don’t like weddings, particularly traditional Irish wedding. I have thoroughly enjoyed every wedding I’ve been to (including my own) and I’ve been to a lot over the last few years. I really looked forward to them and I’d rearrange any other plans to make sure I could go to one.

Two or three days on the beer, meeting with friends, great craic, getting dressed up for the day etc. I just can’t get my head around the dislike for them.

They can be fun but it can also put pressure on people to spend money the might not have or want to spend. Also, travelling long distance time off, etc.
Also can put financial pressure on the bride and groom.

I had a smaller wedding with just family and friends invited. Same with the second night.
Much more enjoyable IMO

CrankyHaus · 22-01-2020 08:00PM

This thread has gotten gas, you'd think it was Brendan Behan's wedding the way people are ****eing on about the amount of bevvying their doing.

A wedding is literally a family affair: 2 people getting married, parents and grandparents, kids and all knocking about. Have a session but obsessing over some 3 day bacchanal with breaks only to grab a few hours sleep is ridiculous.

Jamsiek · 22-01-2020 08:05PM

Snails pace wrote: »

Sounds like the run of the mill wedding here too. However, unless it was a relation or close friend I dont really bother with day two. One thing I dont get is taking drugs at a wedding, why bother ? Seen a few people off their face at weddings.

Many would consider drinking all day the same as "taking drugs"
Anyway some drugs keep you alert longer so you can party for longer...apparently...ahem

bodhrandude · 22-01-2020 08:20PM

Lads calm down on the wedding talk, its not a wedding thread. Things I don't get, this fad of super hero films, a load of pish if you ask me.

Jamsiek · 22-01-2020 08:21PM

partyguinness wrote: »

I have been living in the UK 10 years and been to a good few weddings over here. I can absolutely 100% confirm the weddings over here are dry boring affairs.

You should go to a Scottish wedding, like an Irish one but with more whisky and kilts.
A lot different to English weddings, good fun

GMSA · 22-01-2020 10:58PM

Jamsiek wrote: »

You should go to a Scottish wedding, like an Irish one but with more whisky and kilts.
A lot different to English weddings, good fun

Something like this?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ATaXJpPzlHg

Jamsiek · 22-01-2020 11:03PM

GMSA wrote: »

Something like this?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ATaXJpPzlHg

One wedding I was at there was similar actually.
It was in a castle too. Good times.

Potential-Monke · 23-01-2020 05:56AM

CrankyHaus wrote: »

Is Miami and Florida that bad?.

I was in Orlando in 09, but went specifically for the theme parks, and it was one of the best holidays of my life. Didn't have enough time in the 10 days to do them all, so Disney didn't get a look in. Depends on what you're going for, but for theme parks, Orlando was perfect.

The Nal wrote: »

The Wire was boring...

I thought I was the only one! Never understood why it's so good by todays standards. Maybe watching it when it was still airing was different, but trying to watch it today leaves me feeling bad for cops back then, the tech was in its infancy.

Re: Weddings, do people invite their guests to attend and enjoy the day with them, or because they expect a present/cash of a certain value? I've been to a few weddings, and to be honest, they didn't get anything as I was down money by attending (day or 2 wage, travel expenses, hotel). As a single guy, it's expensive to go to a wedding. If the opinion was that they wouldn't invite me if I didn't bring a present/cash/gift, I'd rather not be invited.

I also don't get the necessity for some coconut to start singing after a wedding, or even worse, if some prick brought his guitar. Nothing gets me to bed quicker than that coont.

Seeing it mentioned in another thread, the 'gym' bug, just don't get it. I've been to many a gym, failing spectacularly to continue to go to them. Eventually paid a crap load of money for a 1 to 1 personal trainer, and within 3 months I had lost 3 stone and was back in shape (the best I've ever been, strength and some slight muscles), but I still didn't get that gym bug everyone else seems to get. It's a means to an end, no more, no less. Haven't been to a gym since (3 years).

Seamai · 23-01-2020 10:06AM

Gamers, the amount of threads I click on here thinking it's something of interest and it turns out to be a discussion on some game!! WTF!!

is_that_so · 23-01-2020 10:08AM

People who need to win the internet and just have to have the last word!

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 23-01-2020 10:22AM

is_that_so wrote: »

People who need to win the internet and just have to have the last word!

Link please?

Penfailed · 23-01-2020 10:24AM

Irish people voting for FF or FG.

23-01-2020 10:44AM

Penfailed wrote: »

Irish people voting for FF or FG.

Aside from a few decent independents who else will they vote for? SF are a basket case and shouldn’t be let near power, greens are a pain in the hole and will try stop building roads, tax fuel more, wont help farmers and other such green nonsense and the rest such as people before profit etc are basically clowns that I’d rather shoot myself in the foot than vote for them.

Penfailed · 23-01-2020 12:05PM

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Aside from a few decent independents who else will they vote for? SF are a basket case and shouldn’t be let near power, greens are a pain in the hole and will try stop building roads, tax fuel more, wont help farmers and other such green nonsense and the rest such as people before profit etc are basically clowns that I’d rather shoot myself in the foot than vote for them.

"basket case", "green nonsense", "clowns"...yep...don't get it.

Things you just "don't get"?

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