Things you just "don't get"?

Nevin Parsnipp

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I don’t get people who don’t like weddings, particularly traditional Irish wedding. I have thoroughly enjoyed every wedding I’ve been to (including my own) and I’ve been to a lot over the last few years. I really looked forward to them and I’d rearrange any other plans to make sure I could go to one.

Two or three days on the beer, meeting with friends, great craic, getting dressed up for the day etc. I just can’t get my head around the dislike for them.

It;s a Paddy thing all right...you see it at all sorts of gatherings ...Pat has been released for the day...and by Jasus he is going to use it to gull down a much beer as he can !

Two or three days on the swallow.....talkin absolute sh1te....dodgin little kids sliding on their knees on the dance floor.....majic man !

Pat's idea of paradise ....

JohnnyFlash

Nevin Parsnipp wrote: »

It;s a Paddy thing all right...you see it at all sorts of gatherings ...Pat has been released for the day...and by Jasus he is going to use it to gull down a much beer as he can !

Two or three days on the swallow.....talkin absolute sh1te....dodgin little kids sliding on their knees on the dance floor.....majic man !

Pat's idea of paradise ....

Nothing wrong with undoing the belt the notch and spending the day sinking a tray of pints, Nevin.

whisky_galore

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I don’t get people who don’t like weddings, particularly traditional Irish wedding. I have thoroughly enjoyed every wedding I’ve been to (including my own) and I’ve been to a lot over the last few years. I really looked forward to them and I’d rearrange any other plans to make sure I could go to one.

Two or three days on the beer, meeting with friends, great craic, getting dressed up for the day etc. I just can’t get my head around the dislike for them.

Boring formulaic set up.
Mass, eugh, more so if neither of them darkened the door in decades.
Boring food. Having sit down for an eternity to get through.
Expensive.
Same old sh1t music.

I'd rather fake my own death than go.

Raconteuse

Nevin Parsnipp wrote: »

It;s a Paddy thing all right...you see it at all sorts of gatherings ...Pat has been released for the day...and by Jasus he is going to use it to gull down a much beer as he can !

Two or three days on the swallow.....talkin absolute sh1te....dodgin little kids sliding on their knees on the dance floor.....majic man !

Pat's idea of paradise ....

Ooh now this is something I don't get - Irish people calling other Irish people paddies, like an English cop in the 70s.

Also, "middle-class" as a perjorative. The bandwagon of perceiving middle class as the devil incarnate (often middle class people doing so).

Raconteuse

Raconteuse wrote: »

Ooh now this is something I don't get - Irish people calling other Irish people paddies, like an English cop in the 70s.

There is a certain type of person I call a paddy,
They have usually spent time in Australia.

sbsquarepants

I always call Irish people (including myself) Paddies. I've never been to Australia either btw;)

What i don't get is Love Island - i watched my first ever episode of it last night and it truly is mindless shíte of the highest order. Not for me!

And on the subject of TV - Fleabag - what the hell is all the fuss about, it's rubbish!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

What a nightmare, having to serve Full Time Mad Bastards until breakfast time after a long, long day.

It's their job ffs. Also they aren't up all day, if you ever stayed in a residents bar until the early hours you would see that they have staff on the bar until around 4am (not staff that have been serving all day) and generally if they keep serving later its the night porter who pops in and out from behind the bar to serve out drinks.

When I was organising my wedding one of the first questions I had for each perspective hotel was how late can we keep the residents bar open as the absolute minimum that I was going to accept was serving until 4am, you can line up a few drinks before it closes then to see you though another hour or so and approaching 5am will keep most people happy.

CrankyHaus wrote: »

This is it. Keep it to only 1-2 a year and enjoy them. People have this weird idea that you have to attend every wedding you're invited to and a refusal is a crime worse than murder. As if someone you're not that close with is going to be crying into her veil that you're not coming, they don't give a toss.

I'd like to have 4 or 5 spread out though-out the year as then you always have one not too far away for looking forward to. I only have one this year, disappointing really.

whisky_galore wrote: »

Boring formulaic set up.
Mass, eugh, more so if neither of them darkened the door in decades.
Boring food. Having sit down for an eternity to get through.
Expensive.
Same old sh1t music.
.

Well I love the days and would disagree with everything you said (except it being expensive but I enjoy it so I don't mind). Its how I did my own too and wouldn't change a thing, in fact I'd have hated to have anything but a traditional wedding.

Fireball81

Naked Attraction (the TV programme).

What's not to like, it's hilarious. Straw poll in the office shows most people don't like it...lighten up people!

whisky_galore

Mad Men.
Wanted to like it but ended up like a bunch of insufferable assholes being assholes to each other.

Handmaids Tale.
Just bleak. Watched 20 mins and fcuk this.

The Nal

Yep Mad Men is dreadful. As is Game of Thrones. The Wire was boring, so was Breaking Bad. Much better things to be doing that watching 80 hours of that shíte.

jr86

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

generally if they keep serving later its the night porter who pops in and out from behind the bar to serve out drinks.
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This

haha do people honestly think they have a member of bar staff behind the bar until about 7am? :pac:

Any residents bar I've been to in the very early hours has - as you say - involved a night porter popping in behind the bar to serve the drinks. He'll often be hoovering the floor or whatever and just pop in behind the bar if needs be - that said they'll often give you a couple of drinks each to keep you going until eventual bedtime! They often have the craic with you anyway

Love a good wedding myself.

evil_seed

the amount of coverage the royal family gets on sky news

Snails pace

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

It’s only half a wedding imo without the second night. My own wedding was 3 nights, well one evening/night and two full days (and the nights till 5am).

The few weddings I was at in 2019 were all related to the gf and were up the country a good bit. Second day on the beer wasnt really an option because they were all Saturday weddings. The second day is usually the best craic alright. Nothing like a good day sesh every now and then, especially the unexpected ones

Gwynplaine

The Nal wrote: »

Yep Mad Men is dreadful. As is Game of Thrones. The Wire was boring, so was Breaking Bad. Much better things to be doing that watching 80 hours of that shíte.

Just because you dont like them, doesnt mean they're shyte.
The Wire "boring". Go back and watch Mrs. Brown.

Church on Tuesday

Having to have a drink to have a good time at events, concerts etc.

Snails pace

Snails pace wrote: »

The few weddings I was at in 2019 were all related to the gf and were up the country a good bit. Second day on the beer wasnt really an option because they were all Saturday weddings. The second day is usually the best craic alright. Nothing like a good day sesh every now and then, especially the unexpected ones

I'd always take the Monday off so I can do the second night if the second night is a Sunday. Every wedding needs at least one day off as its either a Friday wedding so need the day off for it or if its a Saturday wedding need the Monday off so you can do the second night properly.

Snails pace

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I'd always take the Monday off so I can do the second night if the second night is a Sunday. Every wedding needs at least one day off as its either a Friday wedding so need the day off for it or if its a Saturday wedding need the Monday off so you can do the second night properly.

If you can get time off it's a no brainer alright.

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

How a thread about the British monarchy has dragged on for so long, with so many strong opinions on both sides.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

It's their job ffs. Also they aren't up all day, if you ever stayed in a residents bar until the early hours you would see that they have staff on the bar until around 4am (not staff that have been serving all day) and generally if they keep serving later its the night porter who pops in and out from behind the bar to serve out drinks.

When I was organising my wedding one of the first questions I had for each perspective hotel was how late can we keep the residents bar open as the absolute minimum that I was going to accept was serving until 4am, you can line up a few drinks before it closes then to see you though another hour or so and approaching 5am will keep most people happy.

jr86 wrote: »

This

haha do people honestly think they have a member of bar staff behind the bar until about 7am? :pac:

Any residents bar I've been to in the very early hours has - as you say - involved a night porter popping in behind the bar to serve the drinks. He'll often be hoovering the floor or whatever and just pop in behind the bar if needs be - that said they'll often give you a couple of drinks each to keep you going until eventual bedtime! They often have the craic with you anyway.

I've been to wedding residents bars - people insisting I stay up for it. And I've been in the fairly unusual position of seeing them through sober eyes. You are both absolutely deluded if you think a night porter alone is staffing the resident's bar at a wedding. It's always far too busy for just one staff member.



Being sober, I've also sometimes noticed them being staffed by people who served me at the post-ceremony drinks reception. They might not be there until 7am but they will be there very late with probably little choice in the matter if they want to keep their jobs (having had hotel jobs myself, staff are routinely used and abused in this way).

whisky_galore

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

How a thread about the British monarchy has dragged on for so long, with so many strong opinions on both sides.

**** on about the auld enemy as per usual.

Doubt a thread on any of the other European royal families would last more than a dozen posts as no ****er here would know who they were.

nthclare

I don't get people who are dishonest knowing full well they lied to me, they know I know they're lying.
But in order to save their brittle ego trip they'll twist it turn it then tell me its my fault they're lying.

And even if you prove them wrong, they'll do the whole "here we go again".

Its not hard to say my mistake I was wrong.
Nobody cares if one admits they're wrong kudos to them.

That's why Emailing nowadays is very important, leaves an electronic or digital signature...

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I've been to wedding residents bars - people insisting I stay up for it. And I've been in the fairly unusual position of seeing them through sober eyes. You are both absolutely deluded if you think a night porter alone is staffing the resident's bar at a wedding. It's always far too busy for just one staff member.



Being sober, I've also sometimes noticed them being staffed by people who served me at the post-ceremony drinks reception. They might not be there until 7am but they will be there very late with probably little choice in the matter if they want to keep their jobs (having had hotel jobs myself, staff are routinely used and abused in this way).

If you read my post you would see that I didn't claim the night porter would be serving in the residents bar all night. They will generally be staffed until maybe 4am now at this point many hotels very annoyingly close the bar (a hotel bar should be 24/7 imo) but some hotels will continue to serve the usually fairly small number of people remaining by having the night porter pop into the bar every so often and hand out a few rounds of drink.

I don't really know what your point is about staff, do you expect people to forgo the residents bar because people have to work in it? If so I never heard such nonsense in my life, what other activities should people forgo because people have to work to enable the activity? The staff themselves may not be too happy either getting paid less because you have decided everyone should go to bed early (miss out on one of the best parts of the night) so they are not needed.

I had hot served at my wedding at 3am in the residents bar, I suppose that shouldn't have happened either as people had to work in the kitchen to do it :rolleyes:.

The Nal

Gwynplaine wrote: »

Just because you dont like them, doesnt mean they're shyte.
The Wire "boring". Go back and watch Mrs. Brown.

I don't watch it. Your point is invalid.

jr86

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

If you read my post you would see that I didn't claim the night porter would be serving in the residents bar all night. They will generally be staffed until maybe 4am now at this point many hotels very annoyingly close the bar (a hotel bar should be 24/7 imo) but some hotels will continue to serve the usually fairly small number of people remaining by having the night porter pop into the bar every so often and hand out a few rounds of drink.

Yeah this exactly

many of the weddings I've been to the bar even closed earlier than 4 (very annoying) but as you say there was a night porter on hand who popped in to serve whoever was left after that. Like its generally only a small group at this stage - and definitely no-one remotely sober :pac:. everyone tends to order 2 or 3 drinks in the one go anyhow at this stage so as to keep them going until bed. There's been absolutely no sign of any bar staff at this time at any wedding I've been to. Like the bar is actually closed

freshpopcorn

I think weddings are fine.
I wouldn't be into a big 2,3 days destination wedding abroad or at home tough.
Most couples I know only really want to keep it to close family and the odd friend on the 2nd and 3rd day but they've to invite everybody so they don't offend people.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I don't really know what your point is about staff, do you expect people to forgo the residents bar because people have to work in it? If so I never heard such nonsense in my life, what other activities should people forgo because people have to work to enable the activity? The staff themselves may not be too happy either getting paid less because you have decided everyone should go to bed early (miss out on one of the best parts of the night) so they are not needed.

I had hot served at my wedding at 3am in the residents bar, I suppose that shouldn't have happened either as people had to work in the kitchen to do it :rolleyes:.

Do you really need a wedding to stretch on until 5am? In the UK, things wrap up at around 1am and it's great. Lots of craic still had with the end-of-night messiness avoided. It's a much less drawn out affair. Later civil ceremonies generally (3pm and later) and finished around 1am. Much more palatable. A much less arduous day. And smaller gifts expected as standard. So much less faff all round.

My point re: residents bars is that staff would probably prefer to go home early rather than pick up a few paltry hours of extra pay serving Mad Bastards their 20th drink of the night. I witnessed this at one wedding I was sober at where the staff could not have looked more relieved when people finally started filtering out of the bar. And a friend of mine was so glad the last day of working at a wedding hotel, so sick was she of obnoxious wedding punters. So my point is, firstly, the whole residents bar thing is a bit sad and secondly, I have firsthand experience of the pressure hotel staff are under to work long, long shifts and thirdly, I've witnessed relief on hotel staff members' faces when people finally start to clear the bar. Easy to miss all this when you're utterly ratarsed.

Look, get as shitfaced as you like, but everyone doesn't think you're great craic for doing so.

jr86 wrote: »

Yeah this exactly

many of the weddings I've been to the bar even closed earlier than 4 (very annoying) but as you say there was a night porter on hand who popped in to serve whoever was left after that. Like its generally only a small group at this stage - and definitely no-one remotely sober :pac:. everyone tends to order 2 or 3 drinks in the one go anyhow at this stage so as to keep them going until bed. There's been absolutely no sign of any bar staff at this time at any wedding I've been to. Like the bar is actually closed

I have literally witnessed more than one staff member manning wedding residents bars until 4am.

jr86

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I have literally witnessed more than one staff member manning wedding residents bars until 4am.

So have I

Nox and I are talking about after 4am (which is not at all late in terms of wedding drinking!)

pgj2015

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I've been to wedding residents bars - people insisting I stay up for it. And I've been in the fairly unusual position of seeing them through sober eyes. You are both absolutely deluded if you think a night porter alone is staffing the resident's bar at a wedding. It's always far too busy for just one staff member.



Being sober, I've also sometimes noticed them being staffed by people who served me at the post-ceremony drinks reception. They might not be there until 7am but they will be there very late with probably little choice in the matter if they want to keep their jobs (having had hotel jobs myself, staff are routinely used and abused in this way).

I was talking to a barman lately who works in a hotel where there is at least 1 wedding a week, he said he works all day, gets paid until 3am but usually has to work on until 5am or 6am in the residents bar and doesnt get paid for them extra hours, I doubt he or the porters are having any craic with the guests either, i deal with drunk people all the time and i just zone out 99% of the time, drunk people are no craic to listen to when you are sober and just trying to do your job. talking absolute $hite and repeating the same story 10 times.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Raconteuse wrote: »

It's a nice day to... SHART AGAIN...

I lolled, so I did.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

pgj2015 wrote: »

I was talking to a barman lately who works in a hotel where there is at least 1 wedding a week, he said he works all day, gets paid until 3am but usually has to work on until 5am or 6am in the residents bar and doesnt get paid for them extra hours, I doubt he or the porters are having any craic with the guests either, i deal with drunk people all the time and i just zone out 99% of the time, drunk people are no craic to listen to when you are sober and just trying to do your job. talking absolute $hite and repeating the same story 10 times.

I totally agree. I don’t really drink these days and have no patience for drunk people at all. Repetitive, messy, often argumentative - just a total nightmare. And I was exact same when I was drunk. I’d say earlier in the night is better for chatting to guests at weddings. By the wee, small hours, they’re just going to be dealing with tedious drunks.

No surprise on the hours and pay there. Of course the owners are all for it and want to rake in as much money as they can but the staff benefit very little from it. I think people don’t realise how exploitative a lot of hotels are.

I went to my first UK wedding last year and it was a revelation. Still great fun and I was back in my lovely warm hotel room by 1:30am. I had long grown weary of the singsong, resident’s bar tedium and this confirmed how little it’s needed.