Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

fattymuatty · 25-12-2019 11:48AM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, often. My partner and I always sleep naked whether we have sex or not. We always spoon going to sleep. It's part of a normal, loving relationship between two people who are closely bonded. No one has to ask anyone to forego their urges. We wouldn't dream of sharing a bed together clothed. The skin to skin contact and intimacy is important, it's not always about sex.

This. From the OPs post I would imagine she hasn't been in a long term relationship. After years of sharing the same bed with someone of course there are times you would be naked together and not have sex. I don't find it particularly meditative though and it is far from being about control and denying a man his sexual urges, it's just called going to sleep.

Mister Vain · 25-12-2019 11:51AM

Some weird fecking threads this Christmas morning.

anewme · 25-12-2019 12:06PM

Mister Vain wrote: »

Some weird fecking threads this Christmas morning.

I was just thinking the same thing.

This one is the oddest.

The best bit is people answering the question seriously resulting
in a weird row about feminism on Christmas morning.

Happy Christmas Boards!

Edgware · 25-12-2019 12:25PM

anewme wrote: »

I was just thinking the same thing.

This one is the oddest.

The best bit is people answering the question seriously resulting
in a weird row about feminism on Christmas morning.

Happy Christmas Boards!

Next is a survey asking "How often have you tossed off holding a Barbie doll?"

25-12-2019 12:50PM

Edgware wrote: »

Next is a survey asking "How often have you tossed off holding a Barbie doll?"

"Have you ever used Action Man as a dildo?"

Insect Overlord · 25-12-2019 01:19PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Yeah its just something you do with your imzadi! :P

or like ..a friend who wants a new experience!

Pardon my ignorance, but what is an imzadi?

phill106 · 25-12-2019 02:22PM

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Also, how does one get to naked but no sexual activity...

Easy. Get married!

25-12-2019 02:27PM

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Naked cuddles FTW. Nothing weird about that at all.

Exactly! I would be of the same line of thinking as you.

Dunno why the staff in the local cafe get so annoyed.

Rufeo · 25-12-2019 02:28PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Lol what ..the....fuk

Insect Overlord · 25-12-2019 02:38PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Exactly! I would be of the same line of thinking as you.

Dunno why the staff in the local cafe get so annoyed.

25-12-2019 02:38PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, often. My partner and I always sleep naked whether we have sex or not. We always spoon going to sleep. It's part of a normal, loving relationship between two people who are closely bonded. No one has to ask anyone to forego their urges. We wouldn't dream of sharing a bed together clothed. The skin to skin contact and intimacy is important, it's not always about sex.

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

Victor · 25-12-2019 02:38PM

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Is there a problem here?

banie01 · 25-12-2019 02:39PM

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

Careful there Candie, or you will be selectively quoted in a manner contrived to make you appear a penis waving mysoginist

25-12-2019 02:41PM

banie01 wrote: »

Careful there Candie, or you will be selectively quoted in a manner contrived to make you appear a penis waving mysoginist

I only waved my penis the once

Edgware · 25-12-2019 03:04PM

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

As long as she dont mind you coming on her back

25-12-2019 07:28PM

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Agreed - I wonder if what the OP was getting at in their usual unclear way was whether you have ever spooned naked with someone of the opposite sex - with whom you have never had sex before it, during it, or since.

That would at least make the question somewhat more sensible to ask.

The answer to that would be yes for me - on a few occasions. It is pleasant but of course there are trust issues involved.

Certain body parts are likely to react of course - but once that is accepted and expected rather than something you have to try and conceal - it just becomes part of the experience.

Widdershins · 25-12-2019 08:25PM

I never have, Vibes. It'd be a sin not to!

Ubbquittious · 25-12-2019 08:32PM

i have done a few times.

Millionaire only not · 25-12-2019 08:35PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Does a certain body part not find it’s way home From spooning anyway ?
Upps

we'llallhavetea · 26-12-2019 08:23PM

Spooning? Too fcuking warm, stay away unless I say its sexy time.

a very cool kid · 27-12-2019 08:46PM

blackcard wrote: »

I just feel that it is my duty on behalf of Boards to try this out and report back on the success or otherwise. Not sure how you define success though

So how did this work out in the end?!?

Aglomerado · 27-12-2019 08:48PM

Spooning leads to forking.

EmmetSpiceland · 27-12-2019 08:58PM

Aglomerado wrote: »

Spooning leads to forking.

Always use condiments.

rosmoke · 27-12-2019 09:10PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Yeah in the gym in men's changing room.
There was a dad with 2 young ~8 years old girls drying their hair, awful and really disgusting to see swinging dicks 3m away from them, especially because there are family changing rooms nearby!!
Sick people.

banie01 · 27-12-2019 09:47PM

rosmoke wrote: »

Yeah in the gym in men's changing room.
There was a dad with 2 young ~8 years old girls drying their hair, awful and really disgusting to see swinging dicks 3m away from them, especially because there are family changing rooms nearby!!
Sick people.

You spooned someone in a public changing room?
Now there's a whole new level of weird!

27-12-2019 11:21PM

Aglomerado wrote: »

Spooning leads to forking.

There is a joke here about the Spork that I am not quite putting the punch line together for

un5byh7sqpd2x0 · 27-12-2019 11:32PM

Victor wrote: »

Is there a problem here?

Someone with a higher post ratio than you! Wonders will never cease.

ILoveYourVibes · 28-12-2019 06:54PM

Millionaire only not wrote: »

Does a certain body part not find it’s way home From spooning anyway ?
Upps

Not if she is big spoon!

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

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