Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

ILoveYourVibes

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

ILoveYourVibes

If you have who was little spoon? And did you manage to not have sex the whole night? and did you talk?

Miike

no no them no yes.

Go to bed vibes.

tdf7187

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

ILoveYourVibes

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

We all all know i am cray cray ..we just accept me as i am and move on!

Lighten up!

ILoveYourVibes

I read it in a sci fi novel ...it was part of some kind of mating ritual to build intimacy

Hoboo

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Aye, it's 30 odd a day. Every single day. Boards.ie need to take more responsibility for this behavior, it's a form of addiction for some.

Hoboo

Hoboo wrote: »

Aye, it's 30 odd a day. Every single day. Boards.ie need to take more responsibility for this behavior, it's a form of addiction for some.

God I hope you’re being sarcastic.

ILoveYourVibes

Hoboo wrote: »

Aye, it's 30 odd a day. Every single day. Boards.ie need to take more responsibility for this behavior, it's a form of addiction for some.

i can do boards coke gambling and be a hooker if i want to


internet addiction is good

how else would i know my bra could potentially be unsafe :eek:

besides i am the one keeping the most beautiful women thread bearable quite frankly you need to thank me

ILoveYourVibes

ReginaldSmythV wrote: »

God I hope you’re being sarcastic.

hes just shy about naked spooning and wants to avoid the subject:D

sk8erboii

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Jesus. That is disturbing pathological behavior.

ILoveYourVibes

sk8erboii wrote: »

Jesus. That is disturbing pathological behavior.

no.it isn't really but carry on

Consistently trolling a thread with the intent to make yourself feel cooler than someone else based on the number of posts you have is kind of pathetic though. But carry on please

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

no.it isn't really but carry on

Consistently trolling a thread with the intent to make yourself feel cooler than someone else based on the number of posts you have is kind of pathetic though. But carry on please

I think they meant the seedy stalker looking up your post stats.

Johnny Sausage

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Would remind you of that other loop the loop Planespeaking haha

She posted unreal amounts of scutter too

ILoveYourVibes

ReginaldSmythV wrote: »

I think they meant the seedy stalker looking up your post stats.

oops sorry.

ILoveYourVibes

Johnny Sausage wrote: »

Would remind you of that other loop the loop Planespeaking haha

She posted unreal amounts of scutter too

i liked her

you wanna nakey spoon me?

Johnny Sausage

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

i liked her

you wanna nakey spoon me?

Best offer I've had for a while tbh 😂

ILoveYourVibes

Johnny Sausage wrote: »

Best offer I've had for a while tbh ��

I bags big spoon!

Potential-Monke

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Christ, i'm here 12 years and don't have that! Fair play, think I might have had similar numbers on the old official PlayStation forums though. Maybe more, I remember 4x0's at some stage.

Anyway, no I haven't, nor could I. I have no control over himself, and he's not going to be a good boy stay asleep if I'm naked beside a woman, spooning. I'd have trouble keeping it hidden clothed!

Also, how does one get to naked but no sexual activity...

Johnny Sausage

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I bags big spoon!

No that's non negotiable

Macdarack

sk8erboii wrote: »

Jesus. That is disturbing pathological behavior.

They're looking for planning on a data centre in Meath on the back of his posting. It's od for the economy.

Pinch Flat

I forked someone once

ILoveYourVibes

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Also, how does one get to naked but no sexual activity...

Its meant to be like a mediation exercise ..to overcome your urges and build a deeper bond.

You do couples meditation and breathing exercises while spooning naked.


Or at least that's how it was in the sci fi novel. I want to try it sometime.

ILoveYourVibes

Johnny Sausage wrote: »

No that's non negotiable

your safe im female i aint got nothing to fork you with

plus i reckon if you can't see me you will be less distracted from the meditation...

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Its meant to be like a mediation exercise ..to overcome your urges and build a deeper bond.

You do couples meditation and breathing exercises while spooning naked.


Or at least that's how it was in the sci fi novel. I want to try it sometime.

Is your sci-fi novel actually an autobiography of Ghandi?

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

Is your sci-fi novel actually an autobiography of Ghandi?

No ...it was a star trek novel called Imzadi.:o

Still waters

No, i usually **** up on her back if i get no bitty

ILoveYourVibes

Still waters wrote: »

No, i usually **** up on her back if i get no bitty

Please ..i am trying to have an evolved spiritual experience here.

ILoveYourVibes

That's when you know you have a good one ...when he is willing to meditate naked with you.

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

That's when you know you have a good one ...when he is willing to meditate naked with you.

You have found a good man if instead of having sex with you, he withholds that urge?

Honestly, your views on men and sex are bizarre. It's well-documented all over this site.

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

You have found a good man if instead of having sex with you, he withholds that urge?

Honestly, your views on men and sex are bizarre. It's well-documented all over this site.

And turns that urge into something deeper YA so womantic!

And its not bizarre ....its about oxytocin.

ITs having a soul mate like connection!

Having a man love you ....and focus on that ...and not your body even when your naked

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

And turns that urge into something deeper YA so womantic!

And its not bizarre ....its about oxytocin.

ITs having a soul mate like connection!

If you want to have a soulmate-type connection, learn to enjoy sex and stop seeing it as something that men want and women provide.

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

If you want to have a soulmate-type connection, learn to enjoy sex and stop seeing it as something that men want and women provide.

So you are saying have sex ..even if you don't want to ....you just have to learn to want to when you want to??

So MY needs are not important ...as an individual ..i just have to learn to cater to YOUR needs only.

Right then just **** off on me back then ...just wipe it off with the sheet after

spoony spoony :P

banie01

If one is denying their "base' biological urge in the hope that meditation and self denial can improve upon the connection and attraction to allow a more spiritual or soul mate like connection....

One hasn't actually ever been naked with someone they love.
EVER!

Being naked isn't always about sex, sometimes it is just about cuddling, holding, caring and supporting the person you are laying with.

One of the symptoms of being afflicted with actual love for another person is having a connection, that simpatico that allows those moments to be recognised for what they are.

It is not following some nonsense from a book in the hope of creating or indeed forcing it.

ILoveYourVibes

banie01 wrote: »

If one is denying their "base' biological urge in the hope that meditation and self denial can improve upon the connection and attraction to allow a more spiritual or soul mate like connection....

One hasn't actually ever been naked with someone they love.
EVER!

Being naked isn't always about sex, sometimes it is just about cuddling, holding, caring and supporting the person you are laying with.

One of the symptoms of being afflicted with actual love for another person is having a connection, that simpatico that allows those moments to be recognised for what they are.

It is not following some nonsense from a book in the hope of creating it.

I just wanna try it! jeeze

peeps is so closed minded and judgemental

banie01

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I just wanna try it! jeeze

peeps is so closed minded and judgemental

I find it curious, that despite my agreeing with your thesis in the main and pointing out what I believe to be it's fairly obvious flaw...

That peeps are closed minded and judgemental?
How does that work?

ILoveYourVibes

banie01 wrote: »

I find it curious, that despite my agreeing with your thesis in the main and pointing out what I believe to be it's fairly obvious flaw...

That peeps are closed minded and judgemental?
How does that work?

Why is it such a big deal to ask a guy who loves you to lie naked with you and deny his urges for an hr?

I mean ....maybe he won't be distracted by his urges ...he will forget about them and focus on the connection

Still waters

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Why is it such a big deal to ask a guy who loves you to lie naked with you and deny his urges for an hr?

I mean ....maybe he won't be distracted by his urges ...he will forget about them and focus on the connection

He'll just spend an hour with a horn, why not sort him out first and he will a lot more pliant for doing your stupid spoon

ILoveYourVibes

Still waters wrote: »

He'll just spend an hour with a horn, why not sort him out first and he will a lot more pliant for doing your stupid spoon

cuz then it doesn't count. and he'll only fall asleep

its not going to last an hr

we could start off slow ..in our clothes....beginners :P

ILoveYourVibes

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

So you are saying have sex ..even if you don't want to ....you just have to learn to want to when you want to??

So MY needs are not important ...as an individual ..i just have to learn to cater to YOUR needs only.

Right then just **** off on me back then ...just wipe it off with the sheet after

spoony spoony :P

You missed my entire point in a comically opposite way. And while doing that, you showed that it's not the idea of meditation creating something deeper that makes this idea special, it's simply you wanting to feel romantically loved without the sexual component to the relationship. That's not deeper.. It's just validation.

I said to learn to enjoy it. You didn't refute that by saying you do enjoy it, you instead took it that you should only learn because as a woman, you would be catering to my needs by doing that. That's pretty messed up.

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I just wanna try it! jeeze

peeps is so closed minded and judgemental

Go for it. The next time you're in bed, say we can't touch for 30 mins. That'll give him time to appreciate you and build up to the moment, and it will give you time to post about it on here.

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

it's simply you wanting to feel romantically loved without the sexual component to the relationship. That's not deeper.. It's just validation.

There is nothing validating to me about a man's love. Sorry.

Its deeper.

ILoveYourVibes

people sometimes to it for other reasons too ..edgeplay ..

banie01

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Why is it such a big deal to ask a guy who loves you to lie naked with you and deny his urges for an hr?

I mean ....maybe he won't be distracted by his urges ...he will forget about them and focus on the connection

Because, and now read slowly what was posted previously...
Because you really seem to have missed the point.

banie01 wrote: »

Being naked isn't always about sex, sometimes it is just about cuddling, holding, caring and supporting the person you are laying with.

One of the symptoms of being afflicted with actual love for another person is having a connection, that simpatico that allows those moments to be recognised for what they are.

Or to simplify a little bit, being actually in love and connected with someone allows those needs to be recognised and appreciated for what they are.
Closeness, togetherness, bonding...

Without ILYV needing to dictate the terms of that closeness.
If you need to ask for that particular form of affection, you may be "in love" your chosen partner however is either emotionally retarded or just in lust.

Why is your need to have your emotion affirmed in a particularly celibate manner afforded more value than your partner's needs?
In what is an overtly sexual situation?

Than a potential partners need to bang?
Maybe he would find you easier to love, or at least to listen to in the warm afterglow of his post-orgasmic bliss?

cj maxx

To answer the OP, no I've never spooned without having sex. Maybe after sex when I'm done I might spoon but it normally leads to 2nds

ILoveYourVibes

cjmc wrote: »

To answer the OP, no I've never spooned without having sex. Maybe after sex when I'm done I might spoon but it normally leads to 2nds

Same here. I read the paragraph in the book ..and realized ..i have never done that. I have had sex before it or after it etc.

And i am not sure that some of the men's reactions on here ...are healthy.


Its like they think they have a right to sex. They are being denied etc.

its uncomfortable reading tbh

disappointing

Why is your need to have your emotion affirmed in a particularly celibate manner afforded more value than your partner's needs?

he cant handle one hr of his needs not being met??What is he a ****ing newborn?

I definitely need to try this!

blackcard

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Why is it such a big deal to ask a guy who loves you to lie naked with you and deny his urges for an hr?

I mean ....maybe he won't be distracted by his urges ...he will forget about them and focus on the connection

In the interest of science ILYB, I am willing to give it a go

ILoveYourVibes

blackcard wrote: »

In the interest of science ILYB, I am willing to give it a go

That's the spirit. Pmed you!

banie01

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Same here. I read the paragraph in the book ..and realized ..i have never done that. I have had sex before it or after it etc.

And i am not sure that some of the men's reactions on here ...are healthy.


Its like they think they have a right to sex. They are being denied etc.

its uncomfortable reading tbh

disappointing



he cant handle one hr of his needs not being met??What is he a ****ing newborn?

You really, really need to read and actually understand the entirety of what I posted.

Rather than quote a single line out of context in the hope of appearing to portray men as sexually motivated beasts.

The entire point is, that were you naked and spooning with a man who loved and just wanted to be "held"

You wouldn't need to ask, it wouldn't be a denial of his completion, his sexual urge, his desire to dominate and impregnate or any other feminist or patriarchal label you would want to put on getting fúcked...

Love is a level of simpatico and understanding that appreciates when someone just wants to be held...

Contrary to popular opinion, most men do know that being naked is not carte blanche to hit that...

It's not an open goal

Those are emotional responses that develop from trust, from learning how ones partner responds and reacts.

They are not developed as a Pavlovian response to "naked spooning"
Imposing celibacy, rather than actually being emotive is a piss poor idea.
If it's a bad way to train a dog, I'd love to think what a behavioural psychologist would make of it as a way of ensuring an emotional "bond" in humans.

blackcard

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

That's the spirit. Pmed you!

I just feel that it is my duty on behalf of Boards to try this out and report back on the success or otherwise. Not sure how you define success though

Insect Overlord

Naked cuddles FTW. Nothing weird about that at all.

ILoveYourVibes

banie01 wrote: »

You wouldn't need to ask, it wouldn't be a denial of his completion, his sexual urge, his desire to dominate and impregnate or any other feminist or patriarchal label you would want to put on getting fúcked...

ok you can stop posting i have dismissed any value in your opinion right here

They are not developed as a Pavlovian response to "naked spooning"
Imposing celibacy, rather than actually being emotive is a piss poor idea.
If it's a bad way to train a dog, I'd love to think what a behavioural psychologist would make of it as a way of ensuring an emotional "bond" in humans.

they would think its genius