Sexism you have personally experienced or have heard of? READ POST 1

runawaybishop · 15-11-2019 11:16pm

No

Crock Rock wrote: »

Looks up picture of Larissa Waters ..... dear God what the fuck is it? It doesn't need to worry about domestic abuse because no one would marry it :P

That's not really helpful and not what this thread is about.

Reviews and Books Galore · 16-11-2019 1:49pm

Crock Rock wrote: »

Looks up picture of Larissa Waters ..... dear God what the fuck is it? It doesn't need to worry about domestic abuse because no one would marry it :P

I don't really like the whole monitoring male behaviour (as the reverse very rearely happens), but it's probably best to avoid personal insults about weight or facial atributes.

Outlaw Pete · 19-11-2019 3:47am

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

Check out Candace Owen's. They really do not know how to argue with her as they can't shout racism or sexism.

They try though :P Here she was accused of laughing at white supremacy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cUQqPxw3hc

The Black Oil · 19-11-2019 10:46am

Candace Owens as a metric of good debate? Christ, that's a low bar if she's being championed.

Outlaw Pete · 19-11-2019 12:49pm

You missed the point there as neither I (nor Pawwed Rig) were championing Candace's debating skills. Merely pointing out that she is someone who is a thorn in the side of those who use allegations of racism on a dime as a debate tactic to lazily control and silence those whose views they disagree with, given that she is a high profile Black American, but nevertheless they do still attempt it anyway, like the following group who assembled outside a cafe she was having breakfast in last year.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrhTYEYnUuQ

Padraig Mor · 25-11-2019 10:04am

The week is only just beginning and already Ireland's journalists are filling their pages with the usual unfettered anti-men scutter.

Let's start with today's Oirish Toimz which tells us that women cyclists are being attacked because they're.....women. Comes complete with a very suspect sounding description of an alleged assault. And decries that women must avoid areas known for antisocial behaviour (really.....only women avoid them?).
https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/harassment-adds-more-danger-for-women-cycling-in-dublin-1.4093485

Today's Examiner enters the fray with a report on a study on use of pornography and sexual assault etc among young people. Pornography is, at least according to the reporter "predominantly sexualised images of men being sexually violent and degrading towards women for pleasure" and "relentless misogny". It also decries that young men view pornography "unfortunately.....without...significant negative impact on their mental wellbeing." (Yes, you read that correctly).
The same study claims that "1 in 4 women (aged 18-25) reported being raped". Sounds dodgy to me so I decided to look a bit further and downloaded the report. Surprise surprise - a report produced by a soft 'science' department has significant methodology issues. Approx half of those surveyed came from randomly selected secondary schools - no problem there. Yet, only half of the forms were returned and it seems those did return were......self selected. Most of the rest of the subjects were from third level institutes and were entirely self selected - that the third level results are unrepresentative are reflected by the fact that women were much more likely to include themselves in the study than men (naturally that is not how they describe the methodology, but that's the long and short of it). Self selected participants = highly questionable results. Yet the '1 in 4 women raped' "fact" will no doubt be repeated ad nauseum.
https://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/views/analysis/we-must-recognise-how-pornography-affects-young-women-966274.html
edit: just copped that the 1 in 4 rape stat is limited to 18 - 25 year olds. Two problems with that. 1. Did they remove the younger cohort to make the figure more dramatic? 2. This means the stat is based almost entirely on the wholly dodgy third level data.

Friday also saw this doozy of a piece in the Examiner:
https://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/specialreports/we-need-to-aim-for-zero-women-or-children-or-men-for-that-matter-being-killed-in-a-domestic-situation-966024.html
Apparently "our society considers men’s feelings as more important than the lives of women and children". Yes that quote is verbatim. Really? I mean really - do these people actually believe that?
Regarding the Alan Hawe's murder of his family, the piece complains that "much of what was said in the aftermath of that travesty revolved around an attempt to understand why the unthinkable had happened." (i.e. to understand why the man did it). Call me an idiot......but would trying to understand why it happened not be a good idea?

I wonder what delights Tuesday will bring us!

Reviews and Books Galore · 25-11-2019 1:04pm

The funny thing about pornography is that women have been masturbating to those kind of fantasies since the written word.

Here's an interesting article that will highlight the hypocrisy between the acceptance of young male and female fantasies.

https://bookriot.com/2019/01/21/sexist-problem-in-fantasy/

So, we have a writer spreading untrue studies (you should read the questions being asked as I imagine there as leading as the other nonsensical studies) and attacking young men who cannot defend themselves. Are there any women who are going to stand up for their brothers, sons, husbands or fathers?

25-11-2019 6:35pm

I have a friend whose girlfriend writes erotic fiction for a female audience. Guys, you gotta have a read of some of the stuff out there. It's chock full of borderline rape fantasies, male stereotypes, etc. The funny thing about porn is that it's the audience that tends to drive the production of it, except on the internet where everything goes (since categories become popular and less popular so often). Female porn (not mainstream porn but what's marketed directly for women) which includes males, leans heavily towards the very things that apparently men are bad for doing. Female on female porn reflects many of the same characteristics or behavior with the more "manly" female partners.

Honestly, Western society has gone barmy.

Reviews and Books Galore · 25-11-2019 6:45pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I have a friend whose girlfriend writes erotic fiction for a female audience. Guys, you gotta have a read of some of the stuff out there. It's chock full of borderline rape fantasies, male stereotypes, etc. The funny thing about porn is that it's the audience that tends to drive the production of it, except on the internet where everything goes (since categories become popular and less popular so often). Female porn (not mainstream porn but what's marketed directly for women) which includes males, leans heavily towards the very things that apparently men are bad for doing. Female on female porn reflects many of the same characteristics or behavior with the more "manly" female partners.

Honestly, Western society has gone barmy.

Ever heard of Anna Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy? :P

More power to them, imo, but men should be able to enjoy their sexuality also.

Edit: I should mention that most paranormal romance/Ya novels/Urban fantasy contains 'violence' in regards to sexuality. Sort of a he was so lustful he might kill me vibe before anybody says it's because of young male teens watching it.

razorblunt · 13-12-2019 11:21am

Massive pay gap disparity in the I'm a Celeb payments revealed earlier this week.
Women come off better in it.
No complaints to be heard.

13-12-2019 11:39am

razorblunt wrote: »

Massive pay gap disparity in the I'm a Celeb payments revealed earlier this week.
Women come off better in it.
No complaints to be heard.

And one of them wasnt a woman.

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 2:59pm

I've about 6 mates who work in different multi nationals, all of them have been told in no uncertain terms, not to apply for promotion, morale is pretty low amongst the male workers in all 6 organisations....you are going to see huge burnout rates across the workforce in the coming years, if it is not happening already!

H3llR4iser · 13-12-2019 3:04pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

I've about 6 mates who work in different multi nationals, all of them have been told in no uncertain terms, not to apply for promotion, morale is pretty low amongst the male workers in all 6 organisations....you are going to see huge burnout rates across the workforce in the coming years, if it is not happening already!

Yeah, experienced the same way ahead of time - large multinational that makes stuff that's inside your computer. Same concept - I started noticing a weird pattern in promotions and appointments, until some of the more senior colleagues told me over lunch - you ain't getting anywhere in here if you got a d1ck. That was about 5-6 years ago.

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 3:09pm

H3llR4iser wrote: »

Yeah, experienced the same way ahead of time - large multinational that makes stuff that's inside your computer. Same concept - I started noticing a weird pattern in promotions and appointments, until some of the more senior colleagues told me over lunch - you ain't getting anywhere in here if you got a d1ck. That was about 5-6 years ago.

Can I ask, how has that impacted the day to day running of the organisation?

Reviews and Books Galore · 13-12-2019 3:20pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

I've about 6 mates who work in different multi nationals, all of them have been told in no uncertain terms, not to apply for promotion, morale is pretty low amongst the male workers in all 6 organisations....you are going to see huge burnout rates across the workforce in the coming years, if it is not happening already!

I'm wondering is it a good idea to become self employed as a form of promotion so to speak.

You know, if you can't move up move out.

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 3:28pm

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

I'm wondering is it a good idea to become self employed as a form of promotion so to speak.

You know, if you can't move up move out.

Depends on the industry really, not always easy for a man with a family and mortgage to take that risk.

If you look at hollywood, media and advertising industries, the industries most visible to ordinary people.....they are not exactly booming as a result of all this huge shift....and remember, to shift back is going to be extremely difficult, which is why ideology has no place in the workplace!

H3llR4iser · 13-12-2019 4:24pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

Can I ask, how has that impacted the day to day running of the organisation?

I would need a book for it: plenty of talk about the more senior female members of staff, about how "great" they were and how "hard" they worked to get where they were, nobody dared criticize or say otherwise.

In reality, younger or less senior people (in terms of position/employment) did all the job with the "super mommies" team leads taking credit. I worked on a project with one of them - long story short, she had NO IDEA where to even begin; No technical knowledge whatsoever, just a lot of corporate mumbo-jumbo to shield herself behind. I'm talking basics here - no idea how to perform an SQL query, no idea how to set up a VM, no idea what Visual Studio was. And she was a "Technical Lead".

Lots of initiatives to promote "Women in tech" and sh1t like that, but when the rubber hit the road none of the women in the office ever volunteered for anything. We had a CoderDojo program - for three years I volunteered and tutored with the same 3-4 other guys; for three years we had ZERO female tutors but a lot of "we need to get more girls into CoderDojo!" talk.
A few teenage girls DID show up every now and then, saw an entirely male environment, got discouraged and never came back as it's understandable for somebody who's 12 years old.

Obviously, at the end of the year it was all a "Let's recognize Jane, Sue, Susan and Bridget for their contribution to initiatives for Women in Tech!". Laughable, really.

Many more small and big things of the same type.

FishOnABike · 13-12-2019 4:39pm

H3llR4iser wrote: »

Yeah, experienced the same way ahead of time - large multinational that makes stuff that's inside your computer. Same concept - I started noticing a weird pattern in promotions and appointments, until some of the more senior colleagues told me over lunch - you ain't getting anywhere in here if you got a d1ck. That was about 5-6 years ago.

Time for all male employees to self identify as female I think.

H3llR4iser · 13-12-2019 4:49pm

FishOnABike wrote: »

Time for all male employees to self identify as female I think.

:D:D

The Eric Cartman vibes are strong with this one!

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 5:06pm

H3llR4iser wrote: »

I would need a book for it: plenty of talk about the more senior female members of staff, about how "great" they were and how "hard" they worked to get where they were, nobody dared criticize or say otherwise.

In reality, younger or less senior people (in terms of position/employment) did all the job with the "super mommies" team leads taking credit. I worked on a project with one of them - long story short, she had NO IDEA where to even begin; No technical knowledge whatsoever, just a lot of corporate mumbo-jumbo to shield herself behind. I'm talking basics here - no idea how to perform an SQL query, no idea how to set up a VM, no idea what Visual Studio was. And she was a "Technical Lead".

Lots of initiatives to promote "Women in tech" and sh1t like that, but when the rubber hit the road none of the women in the office ever volunteered for anything. We had a CoderDojo program - for three years I volunteered and tutored with the same 3-4 other guys; for three years we had ZERO female tutors but a lot of "we need to get more girls into CoderDojo!" talk.
A few teenage girls DID show up every now and then, saw an entirely male environment, got discouraged and never came back as it's understandable for somebody who's 12 years old.

Obviously, at the end of the year it was all a "Let's recognize Jane, Sue, Susan and Bridget for their contribution to initiatives for Women in Tech!". Laughable, really.

Many more small and big things of the same type.

The 6 mates of mine all had the exact same experiences, all "empowering" female jargon but absolutely no contribution to the more difficult technical aspects of the different roles/projects...

You'd have to wonder, what will be the price of all of this, for instance, I know in the family owned enterprises there is a huge issue maintaining a company over a few generations because you are only drawing the management talent from the same pool who because they never had to work hard for their positions (not all the time I stress) have no ability to manage people who do work hard...it is a huge issue for 3rd generation business in particular!

Reviews and Books Galore · 13-12-2019 5:35pm

I guesd all you can do is focus on upskilling and wait for the storm to pass.

And it will pass as I imagine it will affect the bottom line IMO.

Calhoun · 13-12-2019 5:59pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

The 6 mates of mine all had the exact same experiences, all "empowering" female jargon but absolutely no contribution to the more difficult technical aspects of the different roles/projects...

You'd have to wonder, what will be the price of all of this, for instance, I know in the family owned enterprises there is a huge issue maintaining a company over a few generations because you are only drawing the management talent from the same pool who because they never had to work hard for their positions (not all the time I stress) have no ability to manage people who do work hard...it is a huge issue for 3rd generation business in particular!

Its quite stupid for businesses to be taking this approach from a tech perspective right now. Its an employees market and peoiple are very mobile.

I can guess the price, you only have to go online and look at the "what did your boss do to piss everyone off question" and people will end up moving on to different companies. It normally works like, the best and brightest move on first as they see the writing on the wall, then your left with people who are there for the pay check and couldn't care less about the company. Eventually leading to high rates of attrition they cannot fill.

Calhoun · 13-12-2019 6:10pm

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

I guesd all you can do is focus on upskilling and wait for the storm to pass.

And it will pass as I imagine it will affect the bottom line IMO.

For sure, it will have an impact on the bottom line. It shows you that companies only care about optics and not individuals. Don't kill yourself and take all you can from them.

Most should know this already but employment is a two way relationship.

Huntergonzo · 13-12-2019 9:32pm

Padraig Mor wrote: »

The week is only just beginning and already Ireland's journalists are filling their pages with the usual unfettered anti-men scutter.

Let's start with today's Oirish Toimz which tells us that women cyclists are being attacked because they're.....women. Comes complete with a very suspect sounding description of an alleged assault. And decries that women must avoid areas known for antisocial behaviour (really.....only women avoid them?).
https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/harassment-adds-more-danger-for-women-cycling-in-dublin-1.4093485

Today's Examiner enters the fray with a report on a study on use of pornography and sexual assault etc among young people. Pornography is, at least according to the reporter "predominantly sexualised images of men being sexually violent and degrading towards women for pleasure" and "relentless misogny". It also decries that young men view pornography "unfortunately.....without...significant negative impact on their mental wellbeing." (Yes, you read that correctly).
The same study claims that "1 in 4 women (aged 18-25) reported being raped". Sounds dodgy to me so I decided to look a bit further and downloaded the report. Surprise surprise - a report produced by a soft 'science' department has significant methodology issues. Approx half of those surveyed came from randomly selected secondary schools - no problem there. Yet, only half of the forms were returned and it seems those did return were......self selected. Most of the rest of the subjects were from third level institutes and were entirely self selected - that the third level results are unrepresentative are reflected by the fact that women were much more likely to include themselves in the study than men (naturally that is not how they describe the methodology, but that's the long and short of it). Self selected participants = highly questionable results. Yet the '1 in 4 women raped' "fact" will no doubt be repeated ad nauseum.
https://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/views/analysis/we-must-recognise-how-pornography-affects-young-women-966274.html
edit: just copped that the 1 in 4 rape stat is limited to 18 - 25 year olds. Two problems with that. 1. Did they remove the younger cohort to make the figure more dramatic? 2. This means the stat is based almost entirely on the wholly dodgy third level data.

Friday also saw this doozy of a piece in the Examiner:
https://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/specialreports/we-need-to-aim-for-zero-women-or-children-or-men-for-that-matter-being-killed-in-a-domestic-situation-966024.html
Apparently "our society considers men’s feelings as more important than the lives of women and children". Yes that quote is verbatim. Really? I mean really - do these people actually believe that?
Regarding the Alan Hawe's murder of his family, the piece complains that "much of what was said in the aftermath of that travesty revolved around an attempt to understand why the unthinkable had happened." (i.e. to understand why the man did it). Call me an idiot......but would trying to understand why it happened not be a good idea?

I wonder what delights Tuesday will bring us!

Boycott the mainstream media, I've completely blanked it out because the anti-male bile is absolutely incessant. The nazi propoganda machine would be proud of the job the modern media are doing at painting men in a bad light.

Now there's certainly no harm highlighting abuse and discrimination, the vast majority of us will experience it to at least some degree at some point in our lives. But it has become apparent over the last few years that the media are only interested in highlighting the 'bad man' and all terrible things he done to the victim, which is nearly always a woman.

That's not responsible or balanced media reporting, it's a pernicious witch hunt and it's going to harm all of us in the long run.

I mean just look at the suicide rate in Ireland, many people are struggling. Two men I knew very well took their own lives this year, they were in a bad place mentally but unfortunately they didn't reach out, but rather put on a strong front and hid it very well. "our society considers men’s feelings as more important than the lives of women and children"......indeed, fúck the Irish Examiner!!!

Now I know people are encouraged to reach out these days but when a vulnerable man turns on the tele or the radio or picks up the newspaper in 2019 (and soon to be 2020), he's far more likely to be exposed to some horror story about how a man did all sorts of terrible things to a woman, and how there are 'no excuses' anymore or about how privileged they are and how they need to 'do better' etc etc

But the reality is when they look around them, the privileged world they're supposed to live in simply doesn't exist, nor does it for the majority of people. It's a strawman argument that's been perpetuated by the media to beat men with and it's damaging.

But the best way to beat the media is boycott it, these fúckers don't care and never will, so hit them in their pockets, that'll focus the minds!!

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 9:54pm

Huntergonzo wrote: »

Boycott the mainstream media, I've completely blanked it out because the anti-male bile is absolutely incessant. The nazi propoganda machine would be proud of the job the modern media are doing at painting men in a bad light.

Now there's certainly no harm highlighting abuse and discrimination, the vast majority of us will experience it to at least some degree at some point in our lives. But it has become apparent over the last few years that the media are only interested in highlighting the 'bad man' and all terrible things he done to the victim, which is nearly always a woman.

That's not responsible or balanced media reporting, it's a pernicious witch hunt and it's going to harm all of us in the long run.

I mean just look at the suicide rate in Ireland, many people are struggling. Two men I knew very well took their own lives this year, they were in a bad place menrally but unfortunately they didn't reach out, but rather put on a strong front and hid it very well. "our society considers men’s feelings as more important than the lives of women and children"......indeed, fúck the Irish Examiner!!!

Now I know people are encouraged to reach out these days but when a vulnerable man turns on the tele or the radio or picks up the newspaper in 2019 (and soon to be 2020), he's far more likely to be exposed to some horror story about how a man did all sorts of terrible things to a woman, and how there are 'no excuses' anymore or about how privileged they are and how they need to 'do better' etc etc

But the reality is when they look around them, the privileged world they're supposed to live in simply doesn't exist, nor does it for the majority of people. It's a strawman argument that's been perpetuated by the media to beat men with and it's damaging.

But the best way to beat the media is boycott it, these fúckers don't care and never will, so hit them in their pockets, that'll focus the minds!!

It's funny you mention that, I can never discern the difference between "straight white male privilege" and "Jew Privilege"...in fact, if you watch WW2 documentaries you will see how exactly they dehumanised Jewish people in the most grotesque manner...I saw recently, feminists on Australian National TV advocating violence against men.

Remember when you are consuming media, the media you are consuming is in crisis...from TV stations to Newspapers, Online news platforms, they are all in crisis...it is actually advisable for both men and women to avoid the car crash consequences of a dying industry.

Huntergonzo · 13-12-2019 10:07pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

It's funny you mention that, I can never discern the difference between "straight white male privilege" and "Jew Privilege"...in fact, if you watch WW2 documentaries you will see how exactly they dehumanised Jewish people in the most grotesque manner...I saw recently, feminists on Australian National TV advocating violence against men.

Remember when you are consuming media, the media you are consuming is in crisis...from TV stations to Newspapers, Online news platforms, they are all in crisis...it is actually advisable for both men and women to avoid the car crash consequences of a dying industry.

I honestly don't want to come across as dramatic but the way men are talked about and the near constant stream of "bad men" stories being 'reported', it really does remind me of how the nazi's spreaded so much hate and propaganda about the jews.

When you constantly cast one particular group of people in bad light (in modern times, the straight white male) then that is 100% a witch hunt, there's nothing else you can call it without being unrealistic.

I hope the modern media is dying, they will leave a shameful legacy behind them. But in truth the media never really dies, it evolves and permeates through all available platforms. The newspaper will probably slowly die out granted but there's news left right and centre online.

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 10:16pm

Huntergonzo wrote: »

I honestly don't want to come across as dramatic but the way men are talked about and the near constant stream of "bad men" stories being 'reported', it really does remind me of how the nazi's spreaded so much hate and propaganda about the jews.

When you constantly cast one particular group of people in bad light (in modern times, the straight white male) then that is 100% a witch hunt, there's nothing else you can call it without being unrealistic.

I hope the modern media is dying, they will leave a shameful legacy behind them. But in truth the media never really dies, it evolves and permeates through all available platforms. The newspaper will probably slowly die out granted but there's news left right and centre online.

You are not coming across as dramatic at all...I believe we are in peak feminism, it is why it is everywhere, it has sucked in a load of believers, it has also alienated a larger number of people, it is failing at the ballot box which is why they are pushing for quotas....the women who have been empowered by it will in time realise that is a movement that at it's core is hard left ideology and a fairly deep hatred of men and or male culture.

The language is utterly toxic, Mansplaining, Mans Spreading, Pale Male and Stale, Toxic Masculinty, rape culture...it is sheer unadulterated bigotry.

It is also the reason why women are just as miserable as men are if not more so, there are three times as many women on anti depressants as men...collectively, we are not in a happy place!

Watch all the things that have been infected, the gaming industry, the comic book industry, the super hero movie industry all part of the broader male culture that has entertained boys and young men for decades....

The hard left (just like the hard right) does not create, it destroys.

Calhoun · 13-12-2019 10:27pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

It's funny you mention that, I can never discern the difference between "straight white male privilege" and "Jew Privilege"...in fact, if you watch WW2 documentaries you will see how exactly they dehumanised Jewish people in the most grotesque manner...I saw recently, feminists on Australian National TV advocating violence against men.

Remember when you are consuming media, the media you are consuming is in crisis...from TV stations to Newspapers, Online news platforms, they are all in crisis...it is actually advisable for both men and women to avoid the car crash consequences of a dying industry.

This is a hugely important point, the industry is on its knees and has reverted to click bait/identity political baiting to get people to tune into what they are saying. I try and keep away from those type of articles, i wont say i boycott all of the publication because reducing what we consume is really bad.

Look at the results over in the UK, i have seen commentary in a few places where people on the left are blindsided. The likes of twitter and reddit which are huge echo chambers for the hard left who seem to have it out for the nuclear family and male roles in it where oblivious to how bad labour were being received.

I am not going to be as bold to say that the reason they lost is because of their anti-white male stance but its part of it. A part that they missed because they were too busy smelling their own collective farts.

iptba · 13-12-2019 10:29pm

Silentcorner wrote: »

You are not coming across as dramatic at all...I believe we are in peak feminism, it is why it is everywhere, it has sucked in a load of believers, it has also alienated a larger number of people,

Loads and loads of people get indoctrinated in education and the like, and there are lots of feminists in academia who look like they are not going away anytime soon, so I've no particular confidence that we are at peak feminism.

Silentcorner · 13-12-2019 10:41pm

iptba wrote: »

Loads and loads of people get indoctrinated in education and the like, and there are lots of feminists in academia who look like they are not going away anytime soon, so I've no particular confidence that we are at peak feminism.

Well, feminism is proving to be utterly useless at anything other than get in the way of business being done efficiently, that will manifest itself in the coming years, it already is...they can preach from whatever alter they want....people will just stop going!

The likes of the pay gap, rape culture, violence against women narratives are being picked apart bit by bit...what will be left will be it's hard left roots which believes in the destruction of the family unit and Marxism...that and it's utter disdain for man and or male culture...hating men/male culture (even subconsciously) gets exhausting after a few years!!

And that is not considering how many women turn on the ideology as they begin to realise that they have been duped into expensive and useless Gender Studies Degrees....how can they blame The Patriarchy for that one??

Feminism has never gone mainstream like this before...now it can no longer hide in the universities!!!

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