Anyone else not want children?

At this moment in time I'm fairly indifferent, don't think about it much. Defo don't want any at the moment but that may change over the next few years.

It's an indication of a healthy attitude if someone decides they don't want children. They can determine the consequences, the sacrifices, the responsibility and the work involved and chose to not go that way.

I don't have a big desire either way.
Myself and then wife are happy at the moment and doing well financially. Having a kid would definitely ruin the financial part.

Maybe in a few years if we have some more income and live in a nicer area.

I go different ways on this depending on the day to be honest.

On one hand, I love having the freedom to do whatever I want in a way I couldn't if I was responsible for the life of a little human that's completely dependant on me. I'm getting into my 30s now but I feel I still have quite a selfish young person mentality that isn't fitting of parenthood.

That said, not one person I know who's had a child has ever given me the impression that they'd trade their child for being able to go on the lash/go on holiday/whatever anytime they like. For them, any sacrifice is worth it as they just love this little person like nothing else. I like to hope I'd be like that if I ended up having a child that was unplanned.

Another aspect is that I'd worry about my ability to provide for a child and the responsibility of doing so. I make a bang-average salary and I do fine on it but kids seem so expensive. My parents both made great salaries when I was growing up and were able to take me on lots of great holidays, give me great presents etc. Not saying for a second that you need to do this to be a good parent but I think it's natural to want to give your child the same kind of upbringing you had (if it was good) or better (if things were tight), and I doubt my ability to do that.

Basically, I'm not sure. Love kids though. The fact they're discovering the world for the first time and things that are mundane to us can hold so much wonder to them is adorable.

VivaMessi wrote: »

I'm 25 with my partner and the thoughts of having children makes me literally sick. Looking after them non stop till their 11 or 12. Then leeching money off you till they finish college or longer. Anyone else feel like this because I don't know what I'm gonna say to my partner when she wants to start trying. I never want children

if you think you only look after them till there 11 or 12 you better off not having them :pac::pac: the shock alone mite kill you

victor8600 wrote: »

Tell her that she is too old now to have children? That will really make you a darling

I'll tell you a real story about my friend. He is now 45. Ages ago, in his 20s, he and his wife decided not to have children. Then he turns 43 and has an affair. Bam, his new lover gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby. So he dumps his wife and goes to live with the lover and to raise the baby. He is now everywhere with the little guy, making pictures, teaching him to walk and stuff. Happy man.

Who's not happy? Any guesses?

Probably his wife, who he betrayed by cheating on?

Don't blame her tbh.

Cina wrote: »

I do "want" children but I also don't want them to grow up in the potential future, which is their lives being terrible due to the lifestyles we and our previous generations have lived. Ultimately if things keep going this way, by the time they are in their 30's - 40's things will be very, very bad for them. I'd feel guilty bringing a child into the world knowing that, especially as, let's face it, the main reason we have kids is for purely selfish reasons.

I' m sorry but this is absolute horse sh*t
Its one of the easiest time to be alive in human history ,

Imagine in the past you had to worry about being cut down by someone with a sword in a forest looking to rape and pillage you village while you where out hunting and scrambling for any bit of food you could get,

Or when the famine was around and you couldn't eat

Or when the plague or small pox's killed all your family,

Or when women couldn't vote and you had to do everything the church told you ,

We live In the most easiest and pampered time in human history ,
Its tuff if you LET your self get caught up in the nonsense and owe your arse out but that's all your own fault ,