Anyone else not want children?

eisenberg1

VivaMessi wrote: »

I'm 25 with my partner and the thoughts of having children makes me literally sick. Looking after them non stop till their 11 or 12. Then leeching money off you till they finish college or longer. Anyone else feel like this because I don't know what I'm gonna say to my partner when she wants to start trying. I never want children

Looking after kids until they are 11 or 12? I think you are making the right choice.

anncoates

kunst nugget wrote: »

Mind you, anytime I see the Peppa Pig, the portrayal of the Dad I find really annoying..

You're over thinking it somewhat.

wolfpawnat

anncoates wrote: »

You're over thinking it somewhat.

Not really, kids learn a lot from cartoons. I personally don't take too many cartoons too seriously, but with that, the go far too far overboard on the dad. Literally that he is barely able to function he is so stupid!

Jesus Wept

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Not really, kids learn a lot from cartoons. I personally don't take too many cartoons too seriously, but with that, the go far too far overboard on the dad. Literally that he is barely able to function he is so stupid!

Peppa is ****ing annoying.
George however is a boss.

whiskeyman

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I want a baby but I dont want a child. How does that work? When I see a baby I can actually feel my biological clock clanging and jumping around and I get all panicky about my decreasing egg reserve, but when I see noisy kids screaming in supermarkets I shudder. Is this normal? Because babies have a tendancy to turn into kids... Do you just love your baby and then by extensio love your bratty child because it used to be your baby? Is that how nature works?

I'm the other way... want a child, but the thought of a 24/7 poop factory that requires 100% care freaks me out!

anncoates

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Not really, kids learn a lot from cartoons. I personally don't take too many cartoons too seriously, but with that, the go far too far overboard on the dad. Literally that he is barely able to function he is so stupid!

He's a self-aggrandising, overnight pig that likes to think he's the master of all household tasks but fails miserably to the cruel mirth of his kids and missus so takes refuge in the den with his weird jazz records.

In other words: completely true to life.

wolfpawnat

anncoates wrote: »

He's a self-aggrandising overnight pig that likes to think he's the master of all household tasks but fails miserably to the cruel mirth of his kids and missus so takes refuge in the den with his weird jazz records.

In other words: completely true to life.

Maybe yours, but not everyones. Men can be wannabe know-it-alls, but have you ever met the self righteous know it all mother? That bítch is a dose and a half!

josip

whiskeyman wrote: »

I'm the other way... want a child, but the thought of a 24/7 poop factory that requires 100% care freaks me out!

They sleep a lot during the poop years.

Holsten

I don't want kids at all.

Nearly every woman or girlfriend I've talked to wants them, some very broody in their mid twenties without steady jobs or anything... absolutely mind boggling. I mean it's got to be different for women but come on.

I may change my mind later on in life, I could comfortably have children till my 40's I reckon so zero want at the moment.

anncoates

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Maybe yours, but not everyones. Men can be wannabe know-it-alls, but have you ever met the self righteous know it all mother? That bítch is a dose and a half!

None of them are a patch on that potato man with the ludicrous French accent that keeps getting caught out spoofing by the kids.

wolfpawnat

anncoates wrote: »

None of them are a patch on that potato man with the ludicrous French accent that keeps getting caught out spoofing by the kids.

That programme is a breeding ground of terrible stereotypes in all fairness.

kunst nugget

anncoates wrote: »

He's a self-aggrandising, overnight pig that likes to think he's the master of all household tasks but fails miserably to the cruel mirth of his kids and missus so takes refuge in the den with his weird jazz records.

In other words: completely true to life.

Wow, you must have a great relationship with your partner…

anncoates

wolfpawnat wrote: »

That programme is a breeding ground of terrible stereotypes in all fairness.

It's awesome. I love the Potato Man and Daddy Pig.

As for the stereotypes, if my kids are learning more about masculinity from a cartoon pig than me, then blame me.

anncoates

kunst nugget wrote: »

Wow, you must have a great relationship with your partner…

We just roll around in muddy puddles as a method of conflict resolution

Cienciano

Peppa is the most over rated kids show ever.

anncoates

Cienciano wrote: »

Peppa is the most over rated kids show ever.

It's no Spongebob.

ibarelycare

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I want a baby but I dont want a child. How does that work? When I see a baby I can actually feel my biological clock clanging and jumping around and I get all panicky about my decreasing egg reserve, but when I see noisy kids screaming in supermarkets I shudder. Is this normal? Because babies have a tendancy to turn into kids... Do you just love your baby and then by extensio love your bratty child because it used to be your baby? Is that how nature works?

I'm the same! I adore babies. As they get older and start talking, I like them less and less.

Fighting Irish

Tombo2001 wrote: »

Oh let me guess......by having a 'career'?

Thats just a cliche.....you've only one life, so why not live it?

What does that mean....

Live life to the fullest every day.....

Easily said, but at the same time completely meaningless.......how exactly do you live your life to the fullest......doing a bungee jump? trekking around Machu Pichu? selling buns at a farmers market?

There is no formula for 'living your life to the fullest', some people have extraordinary lives but more often than not good luck plays a huge part in it. History tells us that having children is one of the most fulfilling things anyone can do.

I'm not sure tbh but it's nice to have the freedom to do anything you want whenever you want

maguic24

Fighting Irish wrote: »

I'm not sure tbh but it's nice to have the freedom to do anything you want whenever you want

Yeah and not have to squeeze something that size out of your vagina!

I hate people who think they are so selfless for having kids and then judge the rest of us as selfish pr*cks because we don't want kids.

Either way, it's equally as selfish.

You WANT kids, you don't WANT kids. Want being the main word in that last sentence. You have kids because you choose to have them, it's selfish. You are only doing it to make yourself happy, the same with not having kids.

Newsflash parents: You are just as selfish for having kids!!!

Paddy Cow

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I want a baby but I dont want a child. How does that work? When I see a baby I can actually feel my biological clock clanging and jumping around and I get all panicky about my decreasing egg reserve, but when I see noisy kids screaming in supermarkets I shudder. Is this normal? Because babies have a tendancy to turn into kids... Do you just love your baby and then by extensio love your bratty child because it used to be your baby? Is that how nature works?

And don't forget, bratty kids grow into bratty teenagers! I'm with you though. Babies are cute and they do something to your mind. I think when you have a baby you love it so much it takes you through the harder years. Someone once said to me that he doesn't always like his kids but he always loves them.

madmaggie

Tombo2001 wrote: »

Have to laugh at this......

A person can decide in their 20s whatever the hell they want.

Say a couple who dont want to have kids......they dont ultimately make that decision until just before the female partner becomes biologically too old.

A view might be formed when the person is in their 20s. The decision is ultimately made when the woman is in her late 30s or early 40s.

True, I came to that view in my 20's, just no maternal instinct at all. My mother wasn't maternal either, I was an 'accident'. My neighbours kids call over, they're great fun, but jesus am I worn out after a couple of hours! :P

chrissb8

This thread has made me realise there are alot of idiots out there with a one track mind. Considering this country used to have over 4 kids per a catholic family during the church ruling days which nearly broke some families due to sheer constraints. I think it's nice that it has gone the other way. Kids are no easy task and need full commitment. Shame on you people questioning other peoples choices to not have kids. Absolutely closed minded.

Addle

This is one of the most patronising articles I've ever had the misfortune of reading.
https://m.independent.ie/life/katie-byrne-why-do-women-who-are-childless-by-circumstance-feel-compelled-to-take-the-road-less-travelled-36453045.html
I certainly don't choose extra curricular activities just to justify my childless existence. Such sh!te.

Sephiroth_dude

I love my little cousins and I have a niece and nephew on the way who I can't wait to meet but I definitely don't want kids of my own.

Addle

Addle wrote: »

This is one of the most patronising articles I've ever had the misfortune of reading.
https://m.independent.ie/life/katie-byrne-why-do-women-who-are-childless-by-circumstance-feel-compelled-to-take-the-road-less-travelled-36453045.html

"If you're one of the unfortunate women trying to buy Cystopurin today, you've probably discovered by now that your local pharmacy is out of stock.

Why, you might ask? Because yesterday was National Baby-Making Day - the annual festival of bonking that bookends the festive season with a literal, and figurative, bang."

Christ.

me_irl

chrissb8 wrote: »

This thread has made me realise there are alot of idiots out there with a one track mind. Considering this country used to have over 4 kids per a catholic family during the church ruling days which nearly broke some families due to sheer constraints. I think it's nice that it has gone the other way. Kids are no easy task and need full commitment. Shame on you people questioning other peoples choices to not have kids. Absolutely closed minded.

So "closed minded" in fact that when a "childfree" forum was suggested, it was quickly disregarded and voted against. :rolleyes:

Addle wrote: »

This is one of the most patronising articles I've ever had the misfortune of reading.
https://m.independent.ie/life/katie-byrne-why-do-women-who-are-childless-by-circumstance-feel-compelled-to-take-the-road-less-travelled-36453045.html
I certainly don't choose extra curricular activities just to justify my childless existence. Such sh!te.

EDIT: Just realised the age of this thread!

Also, the term is "childFREE". "Less" implies you're missing out on something. "Free" as in free-will, as in the choice not to want or have children.

Vela

I was adamant for years that I was absolutely never having kids. These days, I'm still not feeling that whole maternal thing I'm apparently meant to be feeling (I'm 31), but at the same time I'd say I'm more open to it. Mainly because I found myself in a relationship with someone a while back who did want them, and I wasn't completely a "no" on the idea. I think, for me, I'd have to be in a very secure relationship and very confident about my ability to provide for a child before I'd even consider it. And it'd probably have to be the guy pushing for it. If I was with a guy who wasn't sure/didn't mind, I could see myself never having kids and I wouldn't be disappointed at all.

It's a weird thing to think about, especially since at my age most women I know are all about kids etc. It's just never been a big thing on my radar. I mean, I like them well enough and they always love me for some mad reason, but it's very different when you can give them back at the end of the day!

misstearheus

Ya just gotta tell her O.P. You just have to break it to her. The sooner the better.

There's 34 Pages in this. I'm not going reading them all, I see this is from 2013, - is there anyway to check if I've written in this Thread already?!? I'm doubting what my Reply would be has changed anyway! :rolleyes::rolleyes::(

Have to say the amount of fellas in the Online-Dating World, that already have kids and appear to be open to having more, is surprisingly impressive lol! Just would have thought, with Past Relationships not working out, and the baby-making part over with, that it wouldn't be a popular choice to go back there again! But surprisingly a fair few I see still say they're open to having more.

keith_sixteen

me_irl wrote: »

Also, the term is "childFREE". "Less" implies you're missing out on something. "Free" as in free-will, as in the choice not to want or have children.

my god we are precious aren't we? And I suppose the term "childFREE" comes without any implications at all, does it?

Spanish Eyes

Everone is different.

But the having a baby, poo nappies, colic, crying, toddler, potty training, paying for childcare, babysitting, going to A+E, dealing with tantrums, life on hold, teen madness is for you, go for it.

Get the conversation out of the way from the get go though. But recognise the reality of it all.

Some love kids, but would be hopeless with their own.