Girlfriend wont allow me to have a TV in house

LegacyUser · 06-02-2019 09:17PM

abyrne888 wrote: »

are these signs she is controlling? i am starting to worry?

Yes, she seems extremely controlling. I house share and I wouldn't have a problem with one of them looking at a bill for the house that comes in my name - because, you know, it's a bill for the house!

Perhaps, as another poster said, she's not ready to share her space? Maybe sit down and have a talk with her about what you expect from a relationship and living together and what she expects. You're her partner, not a lodger, her behaviour is not on! But if things continue as they are then I'd be making a hasty retreat. Be careful and keep an eye on things.

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:20PM

no it clearly was an ESB bill.
look at the ESB bill the next time it arrives, you can clearly see it is an ESb bill, genuinely

06-02-2019 09:20PM

She sounds like a refreshing break from the vacuous airheads who drown out conversation and peace in the home with their definitely-not-reality or commercial soccer shows. A tv-free home is a quality of life statement and I can completely see where she's coming from.

Use your personal phone/laptop with headphones for that intrusive, commercial stuff.

salmocab · 06-02-2019 09:21PM

abyrne888 wrote: »

no it clearly was an ESB bill.
look at the ESB bill the next time it arrives, you can clearly see it is an ESb bill, genuinely

Nope it doesn’t say ESB

niallers1 · 06-02-2019 09:22PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

She sounds like a refreshing break from the vacuous airheads who drown out conversation and peace in the home with their definitely-not-reality or commercial soccer shows. A tv-free home is a quality of life statement and I can completely see where she's coming from.

Use your personal phone/laptop with headphones for that intrusive, commercial stuff.

Are you his girlfriend by any chance?

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:26PM

i dont know if ESB is tamped on the envelope but it was clearly an ESB bill. please look at the next bill you receive

posters
i am having serious doubts about her now. there is so much more.much more. and it is only 10 months.

thanks for the replies. after all everybody said i have made up my mind. either we are partners or not???? her choice now. i really shouldn't have to post on an internet forum to make up my mind. either we are partners or not. full stop

Liamario · 06-02-2019 09:26PM

This does read like an After Hours thread. For that reason alone I’d recommend you pack your stuff.

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:28PM

niallers
i wouldn't watch reality shows.
and i must be the only man who knows nothing about soccer at all. i'd say i havent watched a soccer match in five years. genuinely.
so there was no fear of me watching soccer shows

salmocab · 06-02-2019 09:28PM

abyrne888 wrote: »

i dont know if ESB is tamped on the envelope but it was clearly an ESB bill. please look at the next bill you receive

posters
i am having serious doubts about her now. there is so much more.much more. and it is only 10 months.

thanks for the replies. after all everybody said i have made up my mind. either we are partners or not???? her choice now. i really shouldn't have to post on an internet forum to make up my mind. either we are partners or not. full stop

I’m not sure your getting this it’s not an ESB bill. You said it was clearly marked ESB and it wasn’t. You need to do a little bit of homework before throwing pointless facts into your windup.

pwurple · 06-02-2019 09:30PM

Jesus, I have been married over twenty years and would never ever open post that wasn’t addressed to me. Nor would they open mine, unless I explicitly ask (if I was away or something).

This sounds like a class mismatch to me. You’re a bit rough around the edges for this girl I’d say.

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:30PM

wirelessdude

sadly, it is not a troll

i should have had more confidence though than to look online for advice and should have made up my own mind.
And i have made up my own mind now.
though that was after reading all the replies.
SHE IS WAY TOO CONTROLLING!!!!!!!!!!!! END OF

wirelessdude01 · 06-02-2019 09:32PM

Must be great in the sack to put up with this for 10months so if true.

dhaughton99 · 06-02-2019 09:33PM

I’m with her if she just doesn’t want a telly in the house to give two fingers to the tv license crowd.

FourFourRED · 06-02-2019 09:34PM

Was it a bill from Electric Ireland?

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:34PM

pwurple

but i pay the ESB bill. surely i can see the bill.

i total respect a persons right to privacy.

you must see the context here. it is a household bill. the clue is in the word HOUSEHOLD. it is not a personal bill . it is a household bill. i pay the bill. sure i can see it without saying having to say every time it arrives "please can I see the ESB bill"

no???????

punisher5112 · 06-02-2019 09:35PM

Get a monitor!!!!!

Then you can say it's not a TV...

salmocab · 06-02-2019 09:35PM

FourFourFM wrote: »

Was it a bill from Electric Ireland?

No it was posted in the 1980s and said ESB

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:35PM

nothing to do with the licence at all
so are you still with her?

woodchuck · 06-02-2019 09:36PM

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Must be great in the sack to put up with this for 10months so if true.

Mod warning:

wirelessdude01, your post is well below the standard expected in PI.

All posters are reminded to post in a civil and constructive manner. Please only post if you have advice to offer the OP. If anyone has a problem with a post, report it and we'll look into it.

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:36PM

electric ireland, i mean
you know what i mean

Larbre34 · 06-02-2019 09:38PM

It does amaze me that such people exist and even more so that there are enablers who befriend or partner up with them who allow what they know to be bizarre and improper behaviour to persist.

My wife and I have a healthy relationship I feel, we have our joint lives and the separate parts of our lives too, which means we keep some personal money to do whatever the hell we like, within reason, and also that we never, ever look at each others phones.

To the OP, its not you its her, its not too late, get out ta fook.

odyssey06 · 06-02-2019 09:38PM

dhaughton99 wrote: »

I’m with her if she just doesn’t want a telly in the house to give two fingers to the tv license crowd.

Except her objection isnt about licence or cost or anything the OP could propose a solution to. They are more esoteric.

pwurple · 06-02-2019 09:39PM

abyrne888 wrote: »

pwurple

but i pay the ESB bill. surely i can see the bill.

i total respect a persons right to privacy.

you must see the context here. it is a household bill. the clue is in the word HOUSEHOLD. it is not a personal bill . it is a household bill. i pay the bill. sure i can see it without saying having to say every time it arrives "please can I see the ESB bill"

no???????

No. You pay 100 euro which is to cover bills. You don’t pay any bill directly.
It isn’t addressed to you, it is not yours to open. Was it addressed to ‘the householder’, or to this woman?

What do you want to see it for, it’s not yours. If anyone was being called controlling, it would be someone grabbing and opening bills in someone else’s house, and throwing a strop when told to knock it off.

Where is your house, go open the bills there.

salmocab · 06-02-2019 09:42PM

abyrne888 wrote: »

The ESB bill came the other day. It was clearly marked ESB.
BUT it was the household ESB bill, clearly marked ESB

Oh you meant electric Ireland

odyssey06 · 06-02-2019 09:42PM

pwurple wrote: »

No. You pay 100 euro which is to cover bills. You don’t pay any bill directly.
It isn’t addressed to you, it is not yours to open. Was it addressed to ‘the householder’, or to this woman?

What do you want to see it for, it’s not yours. If anyone was being called controlling, it would be someone grabbing and opening bills in someone else’s house, and throwing a strop when told to knock it off.

Where is your house, go open the bills there.

They are not a lodger. It is their business.

Del2005 · 06-02-2019 09:43PM

pwurple wrote: »

Jesus, I have been married over twenty years and would never ever open post that wasn’t addressed to me. Nor would they open mine, unless I explicitly ask (if I was away or something).

This sounds like a class mismatch to me. You’re a bit rough around the edges for this girl I’d say.

An Post deliver to an address. Once it's through the letter box it's delivered. So is it still mail once its delivered?

OP she is doing this after only a few months. Either man up or leave because it ain't going to get better doing nothing. You could always buy a monitor and use the Internet, no TV in the house but you can watch the news and rugby.

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:43PM

pwurple
respectfully, i have to disagree with you. just read what others are posting in their replies. it is almost unanimous. but i do respect your right to have a view.

dhaughton99 · 06-02-2019 09:43PM

Just curious but if the relationship continues, would you be willing to pay half the mortgage and bills?

odyssey06 · 06-02-2019 09:45PM

dhaughton99 wrote: »

Just curious but if the relationship continues, would you be willing to pay half the mortgage and bills?

I wouldnt without seeing the bill first! Would you split the bill in a restaurant without seeing it first...

abyrne888 · 06-02-2019 09:46PM

thanks odyssey
yes we are supposed to be partners.
i am not a lodger. god if i was a lodger it would not be my business in that case.

Girlfriend wont allow me to have a TV in house

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