Sisters wanting sites

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:06PM

Becks610 wrote: »

I don’t think this should be an issue for ye as such. Surely the parents should decide.

Have they thought about what will happen if they need care etc and who will pay etc. cos that could be a large cost down the line. Obviously one would assume that if the son gets the farm and three sisters don’t get the sites then the obligation would be on the son re care etc.

Was the issue of the sites ever discussed cos we can all give our own opinion here ( probably all biased on our view and situation) but each family and situation is different.

Also re the sisters not doing any work etc on the farm often that isn’t a choice. I think the sites and all other practicalities should be discussed and if people are in a huff over perceived unfairness then at least everyone knows where they stand.

My hubby will have to pay for nursing homes if needed the girls won't

TooOldBoots · 22-10-2018 10:07PM

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

Alrigghtythen · 22-10-2018 10:08PM

3 years ago you posted you had no problem giving one of them a site. Why the change of heart?

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:08PM

kingdom fan wrote: »

You need to read my post to answer that

As I said there will be no family fall out over the sites.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:09PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

They don't want paying off they want sites

endacl · 22-10-2018 10:10PM

littelady wrote: »

My hubby will have to pay for nursing homes if needed the girls won't

Side note: Use of the word ‘hubby’ makes it difficult to see things from your point of view.

shenanagans · 22-10-2018 10:10PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

Hope that son looks after you when you old. For sure your daughter won't be looking after you.

You know that old saying...
A son is a son til he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter all her life.

James Bond Junior · 22-10-2018 10:11PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

I'm only lurking here but that is an awful way to speak about your own flesh and blood.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:11PM

Alrigghtythen wrote: »

3 years ago you posted you had no problem giving one of them a site. Why the change of heart?

I don't like her anymore lol

kingdom fan · 22-10-2018 10:11PM

littelady wrote: »

As I said there will be no family fall out over the sites.

We can't tell the future.
All it needs is a bad odour from slurry. Some kids nose out of joint cause he wasn't let on d tractor. Etc etc. For a feud to start.
I have seen it happen

kurtainsider · 22-10-2018 10:12PM

kingdom fan wrote: »

You need to read my post to answer that

I did read your post kingdom fan and to while I sympathise with you for having such dreadful neighbours it's (thankfully) hardly a typical senario.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:13PM

littelady wrote: »

I don't like her anymore lol

She gets on my nerves ....we talk all the time were just two opposites

blackbox · 22-10-2018 10:13PM

littelady wrote: »

I agree he is inheriting allot of land and machinery but also inheriting the debts and he is expected to keep it for the next generation. He will never see the millions. His dad will give up the sites.

Once the farm is in his name, it is entirely up to him whether he wishes to sell it or keep it. He may feel pressure to pass it on, but he still has the choice.
He mightn't have any children. If he does, they might not want it.
Not many people are given a choice like that.

Panch18 · 22-10-2018 10:13PM

littelady wrote: »

I know my hubby would be happy to give money for a deposit instead. But that's a no go

That’s what we did, bought a site for my sister

That’s the best approach in my opinion

Alrigghtythen · 22-10-2018 10:14PM

littelady wrote: »

I don't like her anymore lol

Really, She should be denied her father's land and to live in the neighbourhood she grew up in, because the sons wife doesn't like her anymore.

kurtainsider · 22-10-2018 10:15PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him???

Please, please tell us that you're a troll. If that's a genuine attitude you'd make the Bull McCabe look like a hipster.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:15PM

blackbox wrote: »

Once the farm is in his name, it is entirely up to him whether he wishes to sell it or keep it. He may feel pressure to pass it on, but he still has the choice.
He mightn't have any children. If he does, they might not want it.
Not many people are given a choice like that.

We have a son and daughter if they don't want it. It will be handed over to the next generation or close relative. We would never want it sold

L1985 · 22-10-2018 10:16PM

kurtainsider wrote: »

Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him???

Please, please tell us that you're a troll. If that's a genuine attitude you'd make the Bull McCabe look like a hipster.

Unfortunately with this poster I think he probably does believe that.
You reap what you sow comes to mind!!!

Alrigghtythen · 22-10-2018 10:17PM

littelady wrote: »

We have a son and daughter if they don't want it. It will be handed over to the next generation or close relative. We would never want it sold

What happens to it if you and he divorce?

Purple Mountain · 22-10-2018 10:17PM

littelady wrote: »

Ed E ...the sites would be side by side, but I like your thinking

I'd just love to be your sis in law!

Limestone Cowboy · 22-10-2018 10:17PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Nothing worse than 1 off houses siting on the farm. If I were him I'd be looking to pay them off.
Had a similar situation myself where my daughter was looking for a site. I discussed it with my son and neither he or I were in favor of it.
As I told her she had no entitlement to the farm as She was hardly gonna go farming it. I paid towards her education, and thats more than enough.
Raising Daughters is like ploughing another mans field for him

That's very harsh.

Becks610 · 22-10-2018 10:17PM

littelady wrote: »

We have a son and daughter if they don't want it. It will be handed over to the next generation or close relative. We would never want it sold

Little lady- what will happen if both children want to farm- will the farm be split?

If anything I think you are lucky that the other brother or sisters didn’t want to farm as the situation could be a lot worse.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:17PM

Alrigghtythen wrote: »

Really, She should be denied her father's land and to live in the neighbourhood she grew up in, because the sons wife doesn't like her anymore.

AHe no I am keeping out of it leave it to my hubby and his dad. I like my sister in law in small doses ! She's grand as I said we're just opposites

TooOldBoots · 22-10-2018 10:18PM

shenanagans wrote: »

Hope that son looks after you when you old. For sure your daughter won't be looking after you.

You know that old saying...
A son is a son til he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter all her life.

Shes happy out, as she ended up buying a nice house in town at the height of the recession, I lent her a fair deposit for it, worth much more than any one off house in the countryside thats for sure. Must be worth 3 times what it was bought for at this stage

Mam of 4 · 22-10-2018 10:20PM

littelady wrote: »

We have a son and daughter if they don't want it. It will be handed over to the next generation or close relative. We would never want it sold

If this happened and you'd be willing to hand it over to a close relative , why not hand over the sites to his sisters now so ?

They're close relatives in my eyes anyway .

shenanagans · 22-10-2018 10:20PM

littelady wrote: »

We have a son and daughter if they don't want it. It will be handed over to the next generation or close relative. We would never want it sold

Now you are talking non sense.

You'd leave your biggest asset to strangers rather then sell and divide between your kids. Or give cash to grandkids??? Or enjoy you old age with comfort.

Now your defo saying what will keep bloggers happy. Rubbish.

shenanagans · 22-10-2018 10:21PM

TooOldBoots wrote: »

Shes happy out, as she ended up buying a nice house in town at the height of the recession, I lent her a fair deposit for it, worth much more than any one off house in the countryside thats for sure. Must be worth 3 times what it was bought for at this stage

Good for her.

littelady · 22-10-2018 10:21PM

Becks610 wrote: »

Little lady- what will happen if both children want to farm- will the farm be split?

If anything I think you are lucky that the other brother or sisters didn’t want to farm as the situation could be a lot worse.

I guess my kids would enter a partnership. My husbands sisters showed no interest ever if they had they would have gotten a share

bb12 · 22-10-2018 10:22PM

i'm a daughter who was given a site as well as my sisters on the family farm. being girls we were never given the option of working on the farm and were sent off to be educated although i would have loved to work on the land instead.

anyhow we were given the sites so that no future dispute would arise where we could claim against our brothers if we hadn't been given anything. my elderly parents are now very glad to have their daughters living beside them in their more fragile years.

kurtainsider · 22-10-2018 10:22PM

littelady wrote: »

I guess my kids would enter a partnership. My husbands sisters showed no interest ever if they had they would have gotten a share

Doubt it

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