How to prevent social media sharing of our wedding pics

theyoungchap · 03-07-2018 04:44PM

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They are both sharing photos without your consent and against your will.

NIMAN · 03-07-2018 04:46PM

Ban smart phones?

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lsjmhar · 03-07-2018 04:53PM

Don't invite anyone. Just get married with two witnesses. Done!!!

meeeeh · 03-07-2018 04:53PM

This is pointless going back and forward. People have e different and sometimes very valid reasons for not wanting their photos on social media. Op explained theirs.

Not posting pics doesn't cost anything unless one thinks they are God's gift to humanity and need to inform wider world constantly what they are doing or what are they wearing.

03-07-2018 05:06PM

At a wedding last year and the priest asked on behalf of the bride, before the start of the ceremony not to share any photos till the next day. She wanted people coming to the afters to see her dress for the first time & not on Facebook. I thought it a reasonable request & as far as I know everyone waited till the following day to post.

It's a bit much to expect people not to post photos of wedding ever imo.

endacl · 03-07-2018 05:48PM

A good friend got married last year and simply requested that pics were not posted to BookFace. The couple’s very simple and reasonable request was accommodated. No issue.

GingerLily · 03-07-2018 05:54PM

endacl wrote: »

A good friend got married last year and simply requested that pics were not posted to BookFace. The couple’s very simple and reasonable request was accommodated. No issue.

How did they communicate it?

shenanagans · 03-07-2018 05:54PM

It's a sad day if your own friends or family can't respect your privacy and a simple request not to post pics of your special day.

Have a sign at the entrance, put a nice message in the order of service.... 'We welcome you but kindly ask you don't share......' If you know there's a few Facebook obsessed people, message them asking them not to share. Beyond that enjoy your day and don't worry about it.

I for one can't understand how anyone would face the bride/groom after the wedding if they shared and disregarded their request. I mean it's their f**King wedding. Posting pics more important than you friend/family member... WTF.

theyoungchap · 03-07-2018 06:03PM

shenanagans wrote: »

I for one can't understand how anyone would face the bride/groom after the wedding if they shared and disregarded their request. I mean it's their f**King wedding. Posting pics more important than you friend/family member... WTF.

Same as that. If you put it on the information leaflet with the invite you are one hell of a **** to not follow the couples request.
To be fair, our guests didn't do it. Now there was probably less twenty somethings who are more social media obsessed

kunst nugget · 03-07-2018 06:07PM

theyoungchap wrote: »

Same as that. If you put it on the information leaflet with the invite you are one hell of a **** to not follow the couples request.
To be fair, our guests didn't do it. Now there was probably less twenty somethings who are more social media obsessed

They could have posted them and simply blocked you from seeing them.

Icsics · 03-07-2018 06:16PM

My Sils' friend put her photo on FB before she got to the altar!

endacl · 03-07-2018 06:22PM

GingerLily wrote: »

How did they communicate it?

Conversationally.

DivingDuck · 03-07-2018 06:23PM

It baffles me when people can't understand that some folks don't want their personal business online when every day there seems to be some new story about the security risks of doing so.

If you feel those risks are worth taking because sharing your life online is important to you, that's your choice. You can still respect the choices of others by not sharing their life online.

How difficult is it to only post pics of yourself/your friends who are also happy to have their image shared with some variation of "great wedding, great people!" rather than a photo with the bride and groom and "at John and Mary's wedding at the Shelbourne and I'm so jealous they're going to Mauritius tomorrow for their honeymoon!"

You can share your own business without sharing everyone else's.

cbyrd · 03-07-2018 06:23PM

My friend had a notice in a frame done at the venue walking in the door, it just politely asked people to respect their wishes and not post photos on social media. It was very tastefully done and I think you'd have to be a bit mean to ignore it. I haven't seen any pictures of them online yet.

You could probably put the same one at the church too

endacl · 03-07-2018 06:24PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

They could have posted them and simply blocked you from seeing them.

What sort of a tool would you have to be to go to the trouble...?

Effects · 03-07-2018 06:46PM

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What does the difference matter if they don't know about it anyway?

Addle · 03-07-2018 06:47PM

I don't have any social media accounts (anymore) and if there are pictures of me online, I hope I remain ignorant of them.

However, a wedding is a public ceremony, that anyone can attend.
And anyone can take photos of.
Whatever controls you try to put on the people you know, what about the people you don't?

Effects · 03-07-2018 06:48PM

endacl wrote: »

A good friend got married last year and simply requested that pics were not posted to BookFace. The couple’s very simple and reasonable request was accommodated. No issue.

Nobody uses Bookface, whatever that is, so it's doubtful people knew what she was talking about.

Effects · 03-07-2018 06:51PM

Addle wrote: »

However, a wedding is a public ceremony, that anyone can attend.
And anyone can take photos of.
Whatever controls you try to put on the people you know, what about the people you don't?

Strangers rarely wander into weddings and take photos to upload to social media.
Just because it's public doesn't mean the public will attend.
Wedding couples are making a request of their guests, not the public.

Addle · 03-07-2018 06:53PM

I disagree with rarely, especially with church weddings.
I've seen tourists ask wedding guests for photos.

Vestiapx · 03-07-2018 07:14PM

Bacchus wrote: »

Wow, I'd love to hear more about this survey you conducted to come up with that figure. There are MANY reasons. Sure one is probably a very controlling bride (or groom) but they're plenty of other reasons too.

I'd agree with that one alright. Couple spends thousands of euro on professional photographer... spends the next few days having her feed filled with unflattering, blurry, badly lit photos from guests.

Church = public I think. I assume public areas such as beaches, parks, etc. would also be public. If it's on private grounds though, then it's a private event.

I'm open to correction on that though in case there is some rule about civil marriages being open to the public.

All weddings have to be open to the public
Including celebrity weddings but somehow they aren’t

theyoungchap · 03-07-2018 07:17PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

theyoungchap wrote: »

Same as that. If you put it on the information leaflet with the invite you are one hell of a **** to not follow the couples request.
To be fair, our guests didn't do it. Now there was probably less twenty somethings who are more social media obsessed

They could have posted them and simply blocked you from seeing them.

I doubt it. Our friends aren't social media obsessed bell ends

meeeeh · 03-07-2018 07:50PM

funkey_monkey wrote: »

Is there going to be a veil of secrecy around talking about the wedding too?

I think a previous poster got it correct when they said it is more likely due to them not wanting unflattering photos of them all over the internet.

Why do you care about the reasons so much? And for purposes of this thread op explained their reasons and it's certainly not vanity but avoiding unnecessary hassle.

GingerLily · 03-07-2018 08:40PM

endacl wrote: »

Conversationally.

I can't see that being very effective for a large wedding

splinter65 · 03-07-2018 09:50PM

I’m probably a kill joy but, I think if the celebrant asked people not to take pictures of the bridal party before ceremony was over and I was sitting near someone who was standing up to take a photo that I’d probably smilingly remind them that they’d been asked not too.
It doesn’t matter if you think the bride is being a total diva. It is her moment, her day.
Your not being asked something very very difficult. Your human rights aren’t being breached. Take as many pictures of yourself and your partner/family as you like in your finery and post them, that’s not a problem.
Why do people make such an ordeal out of these things?

endacl · 03-07-2018 11:54PM

funkey_monkey wrote: »

I think a previous poster got it correct when they said it is more likely due to them not wanting unflattering photos of them all over the internet.

Maybe not. I know I don't like it when people post pictures of me, no matter how flattering or otherwise. I never approve the tags, and friends and family know I'm not into it, so they don't post them. Just because posting to social media has become ubiquitous, not wanting to be part of it isn't an aberrant position. A minority position, certainly, but a valid one.

convert · 04-07-2018 08:39AM

I've been to a few weddings recently where guests were asked not to share photos of the wedding online. And months later I've yet to see photos of the church, venue, couple, etc. on social media. There are a few selfies or a friend group shot, but they were taken in such a way that it could have been anywhere; no comment was made that it was taken at X's wedding, and it was uploaded a few days later, so not on the day.

Generally, if asked, I think people do respect the couple's wishes.

Effects · 04-07-2018 09:04AM

Addle wrote: »

I disagree with rarely, especially with church weddings.
I've seen tourists ask wedding guests for photos.

But you haven't asked strangers not to take your photo and post it online, you've asked your guests and friends.

I've seen strangers take photos of a wedding, but not that often.

What I found far worse was a wedding in Poland where locals filled the pews of the church leaving guests to stand at the back of the church!

Bacchus · 04-07-2018 09:05AM

Vestiapx wrote: »

All weddings have to be open to the public
Including celebrity weddings but somehow they aren’t

Any idea on how that works though if it's held in a private venue? Are the doors to the venue effectively open for the day? Can someone ask you to leave as it's a private event? Just curious.

This is sort of a side point anyway, just because it's a public event doesn't mean that the couple's wishes should be disrespected.

Heck, we now have new strict data protection governance for a persons interactions with businesses, but anyone can still freely go about posting photos of you online, not just without your consent, but with an explicit request not to do so.

How to prevent social media sharing of our wedding pics

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