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Belfast rape trial - all 4 found not guilty Mod Note post one

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 469 ✭✭RuMan


    irishrebe wrote: »
    Is this a sick joke? I'm banned from the thread, but not the person who has admitted to, and repeatedly justified performing sexual acts on someone who is asleep, an act which is officially classed as rape in Ireland? That's it, I'm done.

    Again rape requires penetration


  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    Your saying the law is black and white. I have never ever in any country seen it other than grey. well apart from north Korea. Do you not understand why we have judges ?

    I said it was black and white when it comes to this issue, which it is. A person who is sleeping cannot consent to a sexual act being performed on them.

    Where's the grey area here?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73,930 ✭✭✭✭FrancieBrady


    Mrsmum wrote: »
    You truly need consent classes urgently.

    I don't. I need to continue to associate with adult people who can say no and be respected.

    Have you ever initiated a sex act?
    Is spontaneous sex now a thing of the past because there is a law that says it is assault?


  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    I don't. I need to continue to associate with adult people who can say no and be respected.

    Have you ever initiated a sex act?
    Is spontaneous sex now a thing of the past because there is a law that says it is assault?

    Not when someone is sleeping, no.

    You have to understand someone who is sleeping can't say no.

    You really need sexual consent classes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,818 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    irishrebe wrote: »
    Is this a sick joke? I'm banned from the thread, but not the person who has admitted to, and repeatedly justified performing sexual acts on someone who is asleep, an act which is officially classed as rape in Ireland? That's it, I'm done.

    Mod noteYou've got two cards for personal abuse Today and ignored a mod instruction.
    Your banned from the thread.
    I won't ban you from After Hours at the moment but if you post in the thread I will again.
    PS others since irishrebe is banned from the thread reply to them.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 469 ✭✭RuMan


    Faugheen wrote: »
    Not when someone is sleeping, no.

    You have to understand someone who is sleeping can't say no.

    You really need sexual consent classes.

    Ok you have wild sex, nod off. Do you need to get a legal contract out for round 2 in ur world?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,933 ✭✭✭robp


    irishrebe wrote: »
    jr86 wrote: »
    The Northern Irish team were out last night...

    Disgraceful ratting them out like that. Could have got fines off the IFA for unprofessionalism

    What has the Irish farmer's association got to do with anything?
    irishrebe wrote: »
    What's really hilarious to me is how so many men on here view these things as a 'punishment'. Attending consent classes means they are all automatically considered rapists, for example. I had to attend mandatory 'racism awareness' classes when I worked in London. Did I throw my toys out of the pram and tell them to stop accusing me of being racist and stop disrespecting me? Or did I welcome the opportunity to put myself in the shoes of people of other races and consider issues I might not have thought about before as a white person? I know I'm not a racist, so it didn't bother me having to go to that course. But a consent class for a man is assuming that all men are rapists?

    Did women have to also attend those same classes?  The racism one? And were other races made attend?
    If both men and women had to attend, that would be fine-but too many seem to think it's men only.  Consent is down to both men and women-as in clearly stating what you're cool with.
    Well, it's worth noting that the alleged victim said the other girls were acting "slutty" (her word, not mine) downstairs and so it could be that they were all up for a little action and that that's (partly at least) why Dara went upstairs mooching. Would certainly explain why she didn't immediately close the door when she saw the three having sex and it would also explain why Paddy asked her did she want to join in. The girl's reaction to Dara however (turning her head away etc) maybe made her feel that she wasn't up for her joining in (even if the lads were) and so she left.

    Here's a pic from the party for anyone that didn't see it. Was published in a few papers during the week (alleged victim not in it obviously)

    pjp1.jpg



    If they knew each other it would have come out by now for sure.

    Possibly-but then again, one could argue they were barely acquaintances-all involved have locked their twitter accounts.

    What does show a level of narcissism of those involved was Florence 'delight' at the picture taken.

    https://twitter.com/MariaGallagher_/status/979036629074620416

    I can only speak for myself, but even far younger than they are now, I was more responsible. And I am not the only one.  I don't think they quite understood the seriousness of the crime-more like they enjoyed the limelight.
    Definitely a few hangers on there.  

    I would question the sobriety of so many involved too. Many have speculated the deleted texts related to substances that were less than legal. (Even the photo posted of McIllroy hints at something--'pay attention to his nose-hint hint'.)
    Yes, of course people of all races were made to attend. It wasn't some sort of punishment for being white any more than consent classes are a punishment for being a man.
    The premise of consent classes are bogus though. Is there any evidence that screaming 'there is no grey area' actually reduces rape?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 262 ✭✭emeraldwinter


    Faugheen wrote: »
    I said it was black and white when it comes to this issue, which it is. A person who is sleeping cannot consent to a sexual act being performed on them.

    Where's the grey area here?

    What if the person wakes up after you touch there breast or penis while you were sleeping ? Again it's penetration that is the act under the legislation. And due to the lack of the courts falling apart from cases being brought I think adults understand what is what.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73,930 ✭✭✭✭FrancieBrady


    What if the person wakes up after you touch there breast or penis while you were sleeping ? Again it's penetration that is the act under the legislation. And due to the lack of the courts falling apart from cases being brought I think adults understand what is what.

    This.

    The Catholic church wouldn't have entered into this level of control. It's crazy stuff.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,739 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    RuMan wrote: »
    Ok you have wild sex, nod off. Do you need to get a legal contract out for round 2 in ur world?

    No. You need them to be AWAKE to consent to more sex acts.


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  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    RuMan wrote: »
    Ok you have wild sex, nod off. Do you need to get a legal contract out for round 2 in ur world?

    If you fall asleep then there is no round two, unless you wake them up and seek consent for it.

    If you start round 2 while someone is asleep then you are committing a crime. That's a fact.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,480 ✭✭✭wexie


    Faugheen wrote: »
    unless you wake them up and seek consent for it.

    Any particular formula for how to wake them up?

    Sucking a nipple okay?

    How bout cupping a crotch?

    Rubbing an ass?

    Licking a lobe?

    Rubbing your morning wood against them?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,536 ✭✭✭Silentcorner



    We should start referring to sex as tea on here...it might cool a few tempers...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,496 ✭✭✭Will I Am Not




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,536 ✭✭✭Silentcorner


    wexie wrote: »
    Any particular formula for how to wake them up?

    Sucking a nipple okay?

    How bout cupping a crotch?

    Rubbing an ass?

    Licking a lobe?

    Rubbing your morning wood against them?

    You need to watch the tea video...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,536 ✭✭✭Silentcorner


    Have we really come to this?

    Sadly...yes


  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    What if the person wakes up after you touch there breast or penis while you were sleeping ? Again it's penetration that is the act under the legislation. And due to the lack of the courts falling apart from cases being brought I think adults understand what is what.

    It's not 'penetration'.

    The legislation actually covers 'An act which is done without consent which constitutes sexual assault.'

    It doesn't just cover penetration...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 469 ✭✭RuMan


    Faugheen wrote: »
    If you fall asleep then there is no round two, unless you wake them up and seek consent for it.

    If you start round 2 while someone is asleep then you are committing a crime. That's a fact.

    I suspect " awake" will be difficult to define especially after a few drinks.
    Have certainly felt i nodded off and woke up receiving oral. Not entirely sure i was asleep or half asleep.I may have been dreaming who knows enjoyed it anyway.

    Being an adult is complicated!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,480 ✭✭✭wexie


    You need to watch the tea video...

    No....No I don't

    You know why? Cause I'm a grownup, married to another grownup.

    And if one of us wakes the other one up looking for a little jiggery-pokery and one of us isn't in the mood usually a grunt or just turning over suffices to get the message across.

    Y'know....like grownups


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 262 ✭✭emeraldwinter


    Faugheen wrote: »
    It's not 'penetration'.

    The legislation actually covers 'An act which is done without consent which constitutes sexual assault.'

    It doesn't just cover penetration...

    I'm sure you have a definition for the act... and can you link it in the text. Again why we have judges.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 469 ✭✭RuMan


    Faugheen wrote: »
    It's not 'penetration'.

    The legislation actually covers 'An act which is done without consent which constitutes sexual assault.'

    It doesn't just cover penetration...

    Ok the poster was called a rapist. His " crime" has been downgraded has it?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,496 ✭✭✭Will I Am Not


    Sadly...yes

    I don’t think we have. I don’t believe there are many men around that would learn something from that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,800 ✭✭✭tretorn


    If you kick someone who is nudging you with his woodie does that count as assault or could you pretend it was a reflex action.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,480 ✭✭✭wexie


    tretorn wrote: »
    If you kick someone who is nudging you with his woodie does that count as assault or could you pretend it was a reflex action.

    I think that would greatly depend on the how and where....

    Down the pub?

    On the Luas?

    In the shower at the gym?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,536 ✭✭✭Silentcorner


    I don’t think we have. I don’t believe there are many men around that would learn something from that.

    Sadly, I'm inclined to agree...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,037 ✭✭✭✭The Talking Bread


    RuMan wrote: »
    I suspect " awake" will be difficult to define especially after a few drinks.
    Have certainly felt i nodded off and woke up receiving oral. Not entirely sure i was asleep or half asleep.I may have been dreaming who knows enjoyed it anyway.

    Being an adult is complicated!

    Simple question.

    Can't make this any simpler.

    If you engaged in a sexual act on a girl while she was asleep and she woke up shocked and freaked out. (which, unbeknownst to you may be a pretty normal reaction for some)

    Would you find it absurd or ridiculous that she may report you? Do you think you have just committed a crime under Irish law.

    Yes, No?

    Just yes or No.


  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    RuMan wrote: »
    Ok the poster was called a rapist. His " crime" has been downgraded has it?

    Justifying performing a sex act on someone when they sleep is rapey, no?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,480 ✭✭✭wexie


    If you engaged in a sexual act on a girl while she was asleep and she woke up shocked and freaked out.

    Would you find it absurd or ridiculous that she may report you? Do you think you have just committed a crime under Irish law.

    Yes, No?

    Just yes or No.

    **** yeah, we've been married over 10 years and usually it's her waking me up like that :D

    (I'm not an early riser)


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 262 ✭✭emeraldwinter


    Simple question.

    Can't make this any simpler.

    If you engaged in a sexual act on a girl while she was asleep and she woke up shocked and freaked out. (which, unbeknownst to you may be a pretty normal reaction for some)

    Would you find it absurd or ridiculous that she may report you? Do you think you have just committed a crime under Irish law.

    Yes, No?

    Just yes or No.

    Would that not be "Person ?"


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