Have you ever had an unwanted sexual experience? Mod warning in op - updated 6/3/18

B0jangles wrote: »

https://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=106192862&postcount=228

Whether you intended to or not, you felt it was necessary to offer your opinion on whether or not Anna's post was credible. Neither she, nor any other person describing their own experiences needs to know whether or not you believe them

To be fair to wibbs I really don't think he was doing that, or at least I personally didn't interpret it that way.
TBH I don't give two hoots who believes me and who doesn't. Like why would I even make that story up? It's not even juicy
I know by the tone of a few of the responses that they were deriding in tone but I couldn't give two fcuks, I wasn't looking for approval! Just sharing me sceal.
For what it's worth I've respected wibbs' contributions to this thread as much as I have everyone else's.

kylith wrote: »

An attitude which isn’t helped by the first couple of replies in this thread; ostensibly men claiming that there is no such thing as unwanted sexual contact for men. Attitudes like that lead to men who have been molested and feel negatively about it thinking that there’s something wronb with them because ‘men’ should always be up for it

I went back and read the first few posts in the thread just to be sure, and to try and see where you were coming from, but I think you may have taken those posts up wrong. The way I read the posts was those men saying that for them, there was no such thing as a woman sexually assaulting them. I don't think they intended for their posts to be extrapolated out as a representative opinion of how all men are supposed to think or feel about the issue.

I also think your conclusion is a bit simplistic if I'm being honest, and doesn't take account of the fact that if someone, regardless of their sex, doesn't imagine or doesn't feel they were sexually assaulted, or doesn't feel traumatised by having been sexually assaulted, then that too provides another perspective of an experience from their point of view that again I don't think is intended to be extrapolated out to anyone else, but is a legitimate perspective of their experience.

I don't think that the attitude you're describing actually has the effect you imagine it does. I think it's a lot more complex than that tbh. I think it has a lot more to do with the shame of the act itself, and the knowledge that they aren't invulnerable.

Kyson Witty Vestibule wrote: »

I think men need to stop excusing women hitting or assaulting them as it not being a big deal. It enables and excuses women to keep doing it. I am a firm believer of hitting a woman back if she hits you first. If she wants to act like billy big balls then she can’t be surprised when people treat her like billy big Balls

I'm only speaking for myself, but I just wouldn't ever be able to see me being hit by a woman as a big deal. I don't care what a woman thinks of herself if she thinks she's billy bigballs, it's not about her. It's about whether or not I feel threatened by being hit by a woman, and I can't pretend to feel something I don't, so I wouldn't see it as a big deal. I don't see that as enabling or excusing a woman if it's something she was going to do anyway, and I wouldn't see it as teaching her a lesson or that I have bigger balls because I have the knowledge that I'd be easily able to give her a receipt as Omackerel says*


*I don't like the idea, but I love that phrase :pac:

Ajsoprano wrote: »

Not really. We have an anonymous post on an Internet forum that something happened. We weren’t told what exactly happened. I’m not disputing something happened.
He could have thought they were jokey friends and it’d all be funny and it blew all out of proportion which you can kinda say look lad have a word with yourself or he could have been some freak secretly filming someone for **** material which is indefensible.
We haven’t been told.

We were told what happened. Did you not read it?
This is not an internet mob. These people have met in real life.

Hector Savage wrote:

* 1 her husband shouting at me cos I was crying - saying "Would your older brother XXXXX be crying would he????" - getting down into my face and shouting this ... * 2 Been thrown onto the bed with my pants around my ankles.

Please tell me this person is no longer working or around children......

I was going to, but fcuk it, I wont bother.
The place is full of victims, victim blamers, the outraged, and the pi$$takers,.

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