Has anyone been in this position ?

My doctor is keeping track of injuries he has caused to me for if ever I am in a position to use the information.

Would your doctor be aware of the situation and be able to advise? If someone has caused you physical injury which has required medical attention is that not a good enough position to use that information? I'm sorry a bit confused atm, just can't figure out when if not now you would ever be in a position. (Is your doctor waiting for you make complaint to Gardai?)

Beckie72 wrote: »

My doctor is waiting for me to make a complaint to the gardai,once im in a place of safety ot at a safe enough distance to make the complaint,then my doctor can forward the medical information onto the garda.

That's good to hear, I hope you get somewhere safe to stay. I know that you love your animals but maybe something short term for both of ye would help get things in motion for the longer term. I know I would love to give my animals a short holiday treat every now and again, some places have emergency accommodation and foster care facilities available in such situations, maybe you could look into those options and avail of short term accommodation for yourself in the meantime. It might be extreme but even if it meant travelling to a neighboring county until you were in a better position.
Do you have savings or access to lending facilities? Always helps to have a rainy day fund in these kind of situations.

As above an animal charity may be able to help you with the animals by finding you a fosterer. Phone woman's aid and talk to them, they won't put you under pressure and will help you make a decision in your own time.

I was in that situation many years ago, fortunately I had enough savings and used deposit of my rented accommodation to buy ticket to leave the country. I'm not sure I would recommend doing that without having good support structures in place, I had a young child with me at the time too which probably made things more complicated.

I don't know why but I always keep mind of such things and recently felt the need to up and move away again and discovered Wwoofing (working on organic farms) which is something I figured had it been available to me back then I'd definitely have jumped on as an alternative get away plan. There's an Irish website, lots of places available and you can make arrangements in advance, depending on what suits you the best. Accommodation, food, a safe space far away where no one can find you if thy don't have to and the idea of being engulfed in nature at it's finest would definitely help soothe some of the pain.

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Beckie I've been trying to gather my thoughts in the hope that I might have something to offer you from my experience and while I don't want to get into the bones of it, I think really if I were to give my younger self the same advice what I would say to her would be to go to the guards.

My father had brought me to hospital where I received medical attention and following that to the local garda station, where despite my injuries I was reluctant to press charges. A female garda there took me into an interview room and was very kind and even though I refused to do anything, she didn't give up on me. In hindsight I wish I had followed her advice.

She often came to see me at my place of work (I worked in a coffee shop so it wouldn't have been unusual to see customers I knew outside of work) and stayed on my case for a long time. I thought she was just a nice person, but she was genuinely concerned and it was her concern which led to his being cautioned. I had been unaware that he had been following me but they knew and because she had been keeping an eye on things was able to catch him in action. After that he left of his own accord, probably in order to avoid prosecution and I was able to return home and lived in safety after that.

So what I would say to my younger self knowing what I know now is to trust the gaurds, I really hope that you will find one who was as exceptional as the one who's concern allowed me to raise my daughter free of a life of violence and abuse.
I don't know if this will help, but I hope it encourages you to consider all the options.
(also, I did have to leave for a couple of months until he had left but it was a relief to get away during that time. Some of the wwoofers are allowed to bring pets btw and the work, while physical isn't too laborious, no more so than maybe the type that you would in your own garden)

Beckie72 wrote: »

I cant secure a job in it until im away as I wouldn't be able to explain my absence to him when I went for an interview, and unfortunately not many house shares accept pets.

Would you be willing to put your pets in foster care until you can find another place of your own? Just that one question for now leaving aside everything else.