Affair / Sexual chemistry

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 12:50AM #1

New to this so hope I'm posting in right place. Never had an affair. Very happily married. Clicked with someone recently. And the chemistry was unreal! Didn't have sex nearly did. Married 15 years. Have never experienced this sexual chemistry. Now can't get it out of my head and want him NOW! But afraid of how I'll feel afterwards, and can I really forget it if I get it out of my system?

me_irl · 22-12-2017 12:51AM

Have a ****, frig.

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 12:53AM

Did you presume I'm a man? Sorry should have said....I'm a mum.

22-12-2017 12:55AM

Sounds like a crush/lust rather than any real feelings.

Of course you can forget about it....it'll just take willpower and time, without seeing him.........and maybe a renewed focus on your marriage ....assuming you want to remain in it.

johnayo · 22-12-2017 12:56AM

This should get interesting:cool:

Outlaw Pete · 22-12-2017 12:56AM

Become swingers with your other half........ that way you both get to have extramarital liaisons.

worded · 22-12-2017 12:56AM

I trad that xmas is the most likely time to have an affair AND most likely
To get caught

Mid life crisis ? You are happily married ?

I can’t understand people having affairs, what about loyalty? Morals ?

eviltwin · 22-12-2017 12:58AM

If you are happy why would you want to shag someone else? Your husband doesn't deserve that.

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 12:59AM

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

LincolnHawk · 22-12-2017 01:00AM

I remember when I found out about chemistry
It was a long, long way from here
I was old enough to want it but younger than I wanted to be
Suddenly my mission was clear
So for awhile I conducted experiments
And I was amazed by the things I learned
From a fine fine girl with nothing but good intentions and a
Bad tendency to get burned
All about chemistry
Won't you show me everything you know
Ah wonder what you do to me
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh

LincolnHawk · 22-12-2017 01:00AM

Roger Hassenforder · 22-12-2017 01:01AM

If you're alright with potentially losing your other half and breaking up the family, go for it.

But remember grass isnt as easy to cut as it looks, and you'll never be able to buy anything in a jar again.

eviltwin · 22-12-2017 01:01AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

Is one shag worth losing your husband? What about the impact on your children? Are you really willing to risk that for what will probably be average sex.

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 01:02AM

eviltwin wrote: »

If you are happy why would you want to shag someone else? Your husband doesn't deserve that.

I actually think he'd b ok with it once I don't fall fie some one else..... The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

PandaPoo · 22-12-2017 01:03AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

Nope. It's something you can never take back. I love my husband, I could never do that to him. I would feel like I let myself down too, I treat him as I want him to treat me.

I adore him, our kids, our life together....i wouldn't ever risk it.

22-12-2017 01:03AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

I meant you can forget about the crush/lust in time if it's not acted on. As for acting on it, if it were me I'd carry it on my conscience forever, but maybe you won't.

In any event your sound like you're describing doing a parachute jump or something....just after the experience. How would you feel if this was your husband debating on whether to have sex with someone else because he thought it'd be a great shag?

Imagine trying to explain it if you got caught.....not that you had feelings for the guy..."you just knew it'd be great sex".

I'd have you out the door before you said anything else

Fr_Dougal · 22-12-2017 01:04AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I actually think he'd b ok with it once I don't fall fie some one else..... The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

PandaPoo · 22-12-2017 01:06AM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

Don't forget the consonants!

Joeseph Balls · 22-12-2017 01:07AM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

Why, is he some sort of spelling freak?

EndaHonesty · 22-12-2017 01:07AM

Kerri Ann stay with Decco!

Mondo's not worth it.

Fr_Dougal · 22-12-2017 01:07AM

PandaPoo wrote: »

Don't forget the consonants!

The consonants are not the problem...

FizzleSticks · 22-12-2017 01:08AM

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AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 01:08AM

PandaPoo wrote: »

Nope. It's something you can never take back. I love my husband, I could never do that to him. I would feel like I let myself down too, I treat him as I want him to treat me.

I adore him, our kids, our life together....i wouldn't ever risk it.

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

policy75 · 22-12-2017 01:09AM

I suggest you grow up. Dump your boyfriend. Have sex with somebody else. But can you please not have us to put up with your guilt writings. Please do or dont do but please leave us alone. Grow up

Joeseph Balls · 22-12-2017 01:11AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

Well tell him you want to ride the ****e out of another fella so. See how he reacts.

eviltwin · 22-12-2017 01:11AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

Tell him before or tell him after?

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 01:12AM

policy75 wrote: »

I suggest you grow up. Dump your boyfriend. Have sex with somebody else. But can you please not have us to put up with your guilt writings. Please do or dont do but please leave us alone. Grow up

That's a ridiculous response. I won't engage further with you and you don't have to read my posts. End of.

FizzleSticks · 22-12-2017 01:13AM

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The Princess Bride · 22-12-2017 01:13AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

You don't know that it's going to be good.
It could be the worst sex ever.
Then you'd never forget it for sure.

Outlaw Pete · 22-12-2017 01:16AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

Bring a female home some night..... he'd change his mind then, perhaps.

Whatever you do, just be honest about it, before you do it... there's always consequences for secrets and lies.

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 01:17AM

eviltwin wrote: »

Tell him before or tell him after?

I already mentioned the possibility of it. And said I wouldn't go there if it meant the end of marriage and he said it wouldn't. He's amazing really. Will love him til the day I die. Fact. As I say that's not the issue......

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