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Affair / Sexual chemistry

AwareWolf

New to this so hope I'm posting in right place. Never had an affair. Very happily married. Clicked with someone recently. And the chemistry was unreal! Didn't have sex nearly did. Married 15 years. Have never experienced this sexual chemistry. Now can't get it out of my head and want him NOW! But afraid of how I'll feel afterwards, and can I really forget it if I get it out of my system?

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me_irl

Have a ****, frig.

AwareWolf

Did you presume I'm a man? Sorry should have said....I'm a mum.

368100

Sounds like a crush/lust rather than any real feelings.

Of course you can forget about it....it'll just take willpower and time, without seeing him.........and maybe a renewed focus on your marriage ....assuming you want to remain in it.

johnayo

This should get interesting:cool:

Outlaw Pete

Become swingers with your other half........ that way you both get to have extramarital liaisons.

worded

I trad that xmas is the most likely time to have an affair AND most likely
To get caught

Mid life crisis ? You are happily married ?

I can’t understand people having affairs, what about loyalty? Morals ?

eviltwin

If you are happy why would you want to shag someone else? Your husband doesn't deserve that.

AwareWolf

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

LincolnHawk

I remember when I found out about chemistry
It was a long, long way from here
I was old enough to want it but younger than I wanted to be
Suddenly my mission was clear
So for awhile I conducted experiments
And I was amazed by the things I learned
From a fine fine girl with nothing but good intentions and a
Bad tendency to get burned
All about chemistry
Won't you show me everything you know
Ah wonder what you do to me
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh

LincolnHawk

Roger Hassenforder

If you're alright with potentially losing your other half and breaking up the family, go for it.

But remember grass isnt as easy to cut as it looks, and you'll never be able to buy anything in a jar again.

eviltwin

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

Is one shag worth losing your husband? What about the impact on your children? Are you really willing to risk that for what will probably be average sex.

AwareWolf

eviltwin wrote: »

If you are happy why would you want to shag someone else? Your husband doesn't deserve that.

I actually think he'd b ok with it once I don't fall fie some one else..... The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

PandaPoo

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

Nope. It's something you can never take back. I love my husband, I could never do that to him. I would feel like I let myself down too, I treat him as I want him to treat me.

I adore him, our kids, our life together....i wouldn't ever risk it.

368100

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

I meant you can forget about the crush/lust in time if it's not acted on. As for acting on it, if it were me I'd carry it on my conscience forever, but maybe you won't.

In any event your sound like you're describing doing a parachute jump or something....just after the experience. How would you feel if this was your husband debating on whether to have sex with someone else because he thought it'd be a great shag?

Imagine trying to explain it if you got caught.....not that you had feelings for the guy..."you just knew it'd be great sex".

I'd have you out the door before you said anything else

Fr_Dougal

AwareWolf wrote: »

I actually think he'd b ok with it once I don't fall fie some one else..... The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

PandaPoo

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

Don't forget the consonants!

Joeseph Balls

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

If he was here right now I’m sure he’d remind you of your vowels.

Why, is he some sort of spelling freak?

EndaHonesty

Kerri Ann stay with Decco!

Mondo's not worth it.

Fr_Dougal

PandaPoo wrote: »

Don't forget the consonants!

The consonants are not the problem...

FizzleSticks

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AwareWolf

PandaPoo wrote: »

Nope. It's something you can never take back. I love my husband, I could never do that to him. I would feel like I let myself down too, I treat him as I want him to treat me.

I adore him, our kids, our life together....i wouldn't ever risk it.

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

policy75

I suggest you grow up. Dump your boyfriend. Have sex with somebody else. But can you please not have us to put up with your guilt writings. Please do or dont do but please leave us alone. Grow up

Joeseph Balls

AwareWolf wrote: »

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

Well tell him you want to ride the ****e out of another fella so. See how he reacts.

eviltwin

AwareWolf wrote: »

There it is the line or thing I'm afraid of "it's some thing you can never take back" we have unbelievable trust. I'd tell him. I wouldn't go behind his back. Breaking the family isn't the issue. My question is can I go there knowing there are no risks with what I have and then mentally move on. Can a woman do that? I've never been with some one else!

Tell him before or tell him after?

AwareWolf

policy75 wrote: »

I suggest you grow up. Dump your boyfriend. Have sex with somebody else. But can you please not have us to put up with your guilt writings. Please do or dont do but please leave us alone. Grow up

That's a ridiculous response. I won't engage further with you and you don't have to read my posts. End of.

FizzleSticks

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The Princess Bride

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

You don't know that it's going to be good.
It could be the worst sex ever.
Then you'd never forget it for sure.

Outlaw Pete

AwareWolf wrote: »

The swingers idea I thought of but doubt he'd want to b with some one else he's likely to say....u work away...I'm fine...... Then I'd feel guilty.

Bring a female home some night..... he'd change his mind then, perhaps.

Whatever you do, just be honest about it, before you do it... there's always consequences for secrets and lies.

AwareWolf

eviltwin wrote: »

Tell him before or tell him after?

I already mentioned the possibility of it. And said I wouldn't go there if it meant the end of marriage and he said it wouldn't. He's amazing really. Will love him til the day I die. Fact. As I say that's not the issue......