Do relationships with big age gaps last?

Dirty Dingus McGee · 22-07-2017 04:54PM

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

But sure what he said is true, you know nothing about him, his wife or their relationship. You can debate it all you want, there's nothing untrue about that.

Why is yer man even bothering responding.

Seems quite odd to me.

KERSPLAT! · 22-07-2017 04:56PM

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

Why is yer man even bothering responding.

Seems quite odd to me.

You can let someone talk shyte or stand up and tell everyone they're talking shyte, I suppose. It is a discussion board.

22-07-2017 05:07PM

Pretty clear who has the relationship problems in this thread.

Koptain Liverpool · 22-07-2017 05:18PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

Zaph wrote: »

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

You just keep telling yourself that.

Do you have a long term partner?

I ask because I'm interested to know if relationships with **** can last??

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freshpopcorn · 22-07-2017 05:21PM

They do last in my experience once the people are on the same page!

Paleblood · 22-07-2017 05:24PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

Single?

Paleblood · 22-07-2017 05:26PM

My sister married a man 23 years older than her. 4 kids, beautiful home, great quality of life. They even stayed friends after she had an affair.

suicide_circus · 22-07-2017 05:30PM

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

Yourself isit · 22-07-2017 05:33PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

What's your problem exactly? We've seen people whose parents had good relationships despite large age gaps. It clearly worked for them. Why do you care. Live your life. Let others live theirs.

Yourself isit · 22-07-2017 05:33PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

?

august12 · 22-07-2017 05:35PM

bucketybuck wrote:

You just keep telling yourself that.

Would you give it a rest, people here are giving their honest opinion to the OPs question, you are just showing how immature and ignorant you are, if you have nothing useful to add to this conversation, would you log off please?

KERSPLAT! · 22-07-2017 05:36PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

You need to word that better

22-07-2017 05:38PM

Yourself isit wrote: »

?

It's basically a take on that joke..

"This man came over and was so rude to us because my girlfriend was 20 and I was 30. Totally ruined our 10th anniversary."

Bambi985 · 22-07-2017 05:46PM

It tends to be older men, younger women almost as a rule, unless you're JLO or Madonna or someone of that stature.

Back in my grandparents' time those age gaps of 10-20 years were the norm, one of my grandads was 14 years older than my grandmother and they had a long life together. What we forget when we hear those examples though is that divorce/separation simply weren't options back in old Ireland and women didn't have the educational opportunities they have today, with the marriage ban they were breadwinners who were expected to marry young and older men with good careers and stability were the most viable options.

Personally i can't imagine what the hell I'd have in common with a 20 year old guy as a 31 year old woman but it takes all types to make the world go round i guess.

Yourself isit · 22-07-2017 05:49PM

Bambi985 wrote: »

It tends to be older men, younger women almost as a rule, unless you're JLO or Madonna or someone of that stature.

Back in my grandparents' time those age gaps of 10-20 years were the norm, one of my grandads was 14 years older than my grandmother and they had a long life together. What we forget when we hear those examples though is that divorce/separation simply weren't options back in old Ireland and women didn't have the educational opportunities they have today, with the marriage ban they were breadwinners who were expected to marry young and older men with good careers and stability were the most viable options.

Personally i can't imagine what the hell I'd have in common with a 20 year old guy as a 31 year old woman but it takes all types to make the world go round i guess.

It was very common in the victorian ages too. And before. I mean just look at the literature.

PandaPoo · 22-07-2017 05:58PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

This was me and my husband when we met. I was 21 and he was 31. We got married a year after we met, to most people's disgust at the speed and the age difference.

4 years later, married and happy as ever.

eviltwin · 22-07-2017 06:03PM

I started going out with my other half when I was 16. He's five years older than me, not a big gap at all but was pretty significant at the time. Age gaps shouldn't matter if you have a lot in common.

suicide_circus · 22-07-2017 06:20PM

Yourself isit wrote: »

?

They're a funny couple.

But not haha funny

Glenster · 22-07-2017 06:22PM

diomed wrote: »

parent / child works ok.

You're sick.

Yourself isit · 22-07-2017 06:23PM

Glenster wrote: »

You're sick.

You're stupid. Relationship has many meanings.

LadyMacBeth_ · 22-07-2017 06:56PM

Five and a half years between myself and the missus, not a large gap but I have always gone for people older than me.

I think it can work but only if you're in the same place in your lives. A 55 year old who likes to take it easy is not going to get on too well with a 25 year old that wants to go clubbing. That could be said for any couple though, I've always hated clubbing no matter what age I was so I probably wouldn't be suited to someone who loves it.

I do think that an age gap beyond 15 years or so can cause problems, as people age and one person may be healthier and a lot more energetic than the other. That being said though, I'm the younger person in my relationship and my partner is far healthier and more energetic than me so there are no hard and fast rules.

For me, anyway, I don't think I'd be too keen on more than a 10-15 year age gap.

pumpkin4life · 22-07-2017 07:21PM

The research done on this says that the relationships with the greatest stability and happiness in terms of age gaps are when men are 7-10 years older than the woman, slowly, but very slowly declining after that. Older women/younger men relationships probability wise are much more likely to fall apart.

But the biggest predictor of relationships lasting are how many men a woman has slept with, even when age gaps has been controlled for.

Stheno · 22-07-2017 07:23PM

pumpkin4life wrote: »

The research done on this says that the relationships with the greatest stability and happiness in terms of age gaps are when men are 7-10 years older than the woman, slowly, but very slowly declining after that. Older women/younger men relationships probability wise are much more likely to fall apart.

But the biggest predictor of relationships lasting are how many men a woman has slept with, even when age gaps has been controlled for.

Ten years between me and himself

Tom Mann Centuria · 22-07-2017 07:23PM

My aunt is 25 years younger than her husband and they celebrated their silver wedding anniversary this year.

miezekatze · 22-07-2017 07:53PM

An old friend of mine is married to a guy who's over 20 years older than her. His oldest daughter from his previous marriage is just a year or two younger than my friend. I used to think it was a bit weird when they first got together, but they are actually really good together. Whatever works for people I guess.

Permabear · 22-07-2017 07:56PM

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Burial. · 22-07-2017 08:56PM

pumpkin4life wrote: »

The research done on this says that the relationships with the greatest stability and happiness in terms of age gaps are when men are 7-10 years older than the woman, slowly, but very slowly declining after that. Older women/younger men relationships probability wise are much more likely to fall apart.

But the biggest predictor of relationships lasting are how many men a woman has slept with, even when age gaps has been controlled for.

What does the research say about this?

myshirt · 22-07-2017 09:02PM

So, Debbie, tell me - being 23 years old - what first attracted you to the multi-millionaire Paul Daniels?

That was Debbie McGee and Paul Daniels, people slagged them, but they were together nearly 3 decades.

Dr Turk Turkelton · 22-07-2017 09:07PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It's basically a take on that joke..

"This man came over and was so rude to us because my girlfriend was 20 and I was 30. Totally ruined our 10th anniversary."

Remember in the bar years ago we all about 18/19 one of the lads came out with "I'd love to ride a young one around ten".
Straight away another lad jumped in "so would I".
First lad looking at him strangely said "and another around half ten"
Second lad sheepishly said "well I meant around 14/15".
We all dispersed fairly quickly after that.

killanena · 22-07-2017 09:09PM

My dad is 65 my mam is 53, 12 years difference and they've been married 31 years so yeah my guess is they do

Do relationships with big age gaps last?

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