Do relationships with big age gaps last?

Pablo_Picasso

Do you believe relationships, where there is a significant age gap(10 years and over), actually work/ last? Are they based on lust?

DontThankMe

Yes they work just look at Hugh Hefner for example.

my3cents

My wife is 10 years older than me and we have been married 35 years, so I'd say they're fine.

andekwarhola

The relationships where the older person is loaded or the other handful of examples?

Omackeral

If one is 50 and one is 95, I can't imagine it lasting long.

diomed

parent / child works ok.

Cheerful Spring

Of course my father and mother have an age gap of 10 years, and they are married over 45 years. I'm with a girl there is 8 year age gap. And have lot of friends who dating people there is a big age gap.

biko

Sure, see Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte Trogneux

testicles

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bucketybuck

Plenty of other inequal relationships last, so I'm sure those with big age gaps do as well.

Ten years isn't a big gap though. The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

pauliebdub

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

Omackeral

pauliebdub wrote: »

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

And how's it going for you?

Pablo_Picasso

bucketybuck wrote: »

Plenty of other inequal relationships last, so I'm sure those with big age gaps do as well.

Ten years isn't a big gap though. The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

I agree with this. I know a lady who's 47 and she's seeing a guy who's 28. She thinks he's 'The One', but I know for a fact that he's seeing another girl his own age behind her back. I feel sorry for her, she started getting botox and it's obvious how grateful she is.

somesoldiers

pauliebdub wrote: »

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

I used to go out with a Belgian girl years back.

her uncle was in his 50's and going out with a man of a similar age.then the uncle started going out with a French student in his 20's. The first man was heart broken.then the uncle died and the French student started going out with first man...left leg in,left leg out

I always thought it was a funny set up. Dunno if they are still together

Hector Bellend

Only if you are trying to ride them

RayCon

I read the thread title as "Do relationships with big apes last ?" .....

Zaph

bucketybuck wrote: »

The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

Carnmore

Gap of 23 years.

Nope.

Fr_Dougal

Zaph wrote: »

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

Living the dream. 😎

bucketybuck

Zaph wrote: »

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

I'm sure you are very happy in your very equal relationship.

Zaph

bucketybuck wrote: »

I'm sure you are very happy in your very equal relationship.

And would you care to tell me what's unequal, apart from our ages, about our relationship?

rossie1977

My mother was 21 when she married my dad who was 41. They were pretty inseparable until the day my dad died in June 2015 just a few days shy of his 83rd birthday and their 42nd wedding anniversary.

Mozzeltoff

My best friend is in a relationship with a man who is about 10 years older than her. Been with each other a couple of years now and they both seem to be very happy with each other.

Then there's my brother in law. When he was 28 he met and started seeing a girl who was 18. At first they were mad about each other but it turned sour and both were fighting like cat and dog. She was jealous and a nasty piece of work with a lot of issues. Chip on her shoulder and thought the world was out to get her. And despite all that their relationship lasted two and a half years.

But I don't blame the age gap on the failure of the relationship. Obviously she was nuts. And that's the point I am getting to, like any relationship I think it's down to how compatible the people are with each other regardless of the age gap.

bucketybuck

Zaph wrote: »

And would you care to tell me what's unequal, apart from our ages, about our relationship?

I'm quite sure that there is nothing I can say that you would accept.

Just as I'm sure that when I am 41 I won't be trying to pick up 23 year old girls.

whoopsadoodles

One of the best couples I know is a 28 yr old and a 52 year old.

He'd never been with anyone much younger before and she'd never been with anyone out of her own age range until they met.

They're extremely happy. Married now with a family.

Burial.

There's no real reason why they shouldn't last than a 'normal' age gap relationship. I do find them a bit weird. I struggle to see the attraction of being in a relationship with a 40+ when you're in your early to mid 20s. Aside from financial security of course.... I've been with quite a few 40+ women from my late teens to early twenties but to think of being in a solid relationship with them would make me scream.

Zaph

bucketybuck wrote: »

I'm quite sure that there is nothing I can say that you would accept.

Just as I'm sure that when I am 41 I won't be trying to pick up 23 year old girls.

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

bucketybuck

Zaph wrote: »

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

You just keep telling yourself that.

KERSPLAT!

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

But sure what he said is true, you know nothing about him, his wife or their relationship. You can debate it all you want, there's nothing untrue about that.

whoopsadoodles

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

Telling himself what? That you don't have the foggiest clue what you're on about? I don't think that's up for debate really - because you don't.

Noveight

There's 10 months between myself and the OH and I like our closeness in age, it means we have a lot in common.

Everyone's situation is different, and I can see how there may be challenges with a large age gap but in every challenge lies an opportunity.

No point in casting aspersions over a relationship from the outside when in truth we know little or nothing about it.

Dirty Dingus McGee

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

But sure what he said is true, you know nothing about him, his wife or their relationship. You can debate it all you want, there's nothing untrue about that.

Why is yer man even bothering responding.

Seems quite odd to me.

KERSPLAT!

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

Why is yer man even bothering responding.

Seems quite odd to me.

You can let someone talk shyte or stand up and tell everyone they're talking shyte, I suppose. It is a discussion board.

Pretty clear who has the relationship problems in this thread.

Koptain Liverpool

bucketybuck wrote: »

Zaph wrote: »

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

You just keep telling yourself that.

Do you have a long term partner?

I ask because I'm interested to know if relationships with **** can last??

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freshpopcorn

They do last in my experience once the people are on the same page!

Paleblood

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

Single?

Paleblood

My sister married a man 23 years older than her. 4 kids, beautiful home, great quality of life. They even stayed friends after she had an affair.

suicide_circus

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

Yourself isit

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

What's your problem exactly? We've seen people whose parents had good relationships despite large age gaps. It clearly worked for them. Why do you care. Live your life. Let others live theirs.

Yourself isit

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

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august12

bucketybuck wrote:

You just keep telling yourself that.

Would you give it a rest, people here are giving their honest opinion to the OPs question, you are just showing how immature and ignorant you are, if you have nothing useful to add to this conversation, would you log off please?

KERSPLAT!

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

You need to word that better

Yourself isit

Yourself isit wrote: »

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It's basically a take on that joke..

"This man came over and was so rude to us because my girlfriend was 20 and I was 30. Totally ruined our 10th anniversary."

Bambi985

It tends to be older men, younger women almost as a rule, unless you're JLO or Madonna or someone of that stature.

Back in my grandparents' time those age gaps of 10-20 years were the norm, one of my grandads was 14 years older than my grandmother and they had a long life together. What we forget when we hear those examples though is that divorce/separation simply weren't options back in old Ireland and women didn't have the educational opportunities they have today, with the marriage ban they were breadwinners who were expected to marry young and older men with good careers and stability were the most viable options.

Personally i can't imagine what the hell I'd have in common with a 20 year old guy as a 31 year old woman but it takes all types to make the world go round i guess.

Yourself isit

Bambi985 wrote: »

It tends to be older men, younger women almost as a rule, unless you're JLO or Madonna or someone of that stature.

Back in my grandparents' time those age gaps of 10-20 years were the norm, one of my grandads was 14 years older than my grandmother and they had a long life together. What we forget when we hear those examples though is that divorce/separation simply weren't options back in old Ireland and women didn't have the educational opportunities they have today, with the marriage ban they were breadwinners who were expected to marry young and older men with good careers and stability were the most viable options.

Personally i can't imagine what the hell I'd have in common with a 20 year old guy as a 31 year old woman but it takes all types to make the world go round i guess.

It was very common in the victorian ages too. And before. I mean just look at the literature.

PandaPoo

suicide_circus wrote: »

Know a guy who is 30 and the missus is 20. They got together 10 years ago and they seem like a solid couple.

This was me and my husband when we met. I was 21 and he was 31. We got married a year after we met, to most people's disgust at the speed and the age difference.

4 years later, married and happy as ever.

eviltwin

I started going out with my other half when I was 16. He's five years older than me, not a big gap at all but was pretty significant at the time. Age gaps shouldn't matter if you have a lot in common.

suicide_circus

Yourself isit wrote: »

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They're a funny couple.

But not haha funny

Glenster

diomed wrote: »

parent / child works ok.

You're sick.

Yourself isit

Glenster wrote: »

You're sick.

You're stupid. Relationship has many meanings.