Do relationships with big age gaps last?

Pablo_Picasso · 22-07-2017 02:44PM #1

Do you believe relationships, where there is a significant age gap(10 years and over), actually work/ last? Are they based on lust?

DontThankMe · 22-07-2017 02:49PM

Yes they work just look at Hugh Hefner for example.

my3cents · 22-07-2017 02:51PM

My wife is 10 years older than me and we have been married 35 years, so I'd say they're fine.

andekwarhola · 22-07-2017 02:51PM

The relationships where the older person is loaded or the other handful of examples?

22-07-2017 02:53PM

If one is 50 and one is 95, I can't imagine it lasting long.

diomed · 22-07-2017 02:56PM

parent / child works ok.

Cheerful Spring · 22-07-2017 03:07PM

Of course my father and mother have an age gap of 10 years, and they are married over 45 years. I'm with a girl there is 8 year age gap. And have lot of friends who dating people there is a big age gap.

biko · 22-07-2017 03:09PM

Sure, see Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte Trogneux

testicles · 22-07-2017 03:10PM

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bucketybuck · 22-07-2017 03:20PM

Plenty of other inequal relationships last, so I'm sure those with big age gaps do as well.

Ten years isn't a big gap though. The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

pauliebdub · 22-07-2017 03:24PM

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

22-07-2017 03:30PM

pauliebdub wrote: »

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

And how's it going for you?

Pablo_Picasso · 22-07-2017 03:37PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

Plenty of other inequal relationships last, so I'm sure those with big age gaps do as well.

Ten years isn't a big gap though. The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

I agree with this. I know a lady who's 47 and she's seeing a guy who's 28. She thinks he's 'The One', but I know for a fact that he's seeing another girl his own age behind her back. I feel sorry for her, she started getting botox and it's obvious how grateful she is.

somesoldiers · 22-07-2017 04:09PM

pauliebdub wrote: »

It's relatively common in gay relationships - an older guy in his 50s with a young lad in his 20s or 30s, with the older guy being more dominant and it often works out very well.

I used to go out with a Belgian girl years back.

her uncle was in his 50's and going out with a man of a similar age.then the uncle started going out with a French student in his 20's. The first man was heart broken.then the uncle died and the French student started going out with first man...left leg in,left leg out

I always thought it was a funny set up. Dunno if they are still together

Hector Bellend · 22-07-2017 04:12PM

Only if you are trying to ride them

RayCon · 22-07-2017 04:14PM

I read the thread title as "Do relationships with big apes last ?" .....

Zaph · 22-07-2017 04:17PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

The real sad ones are the creepy people in their 40's with their 20 year old toyboys and girls. Who do they think they are fooling.

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

Carnmore · 22-07-2017 04:17PM

Gap of 23 years.

Nope.

Fr_Dougal · 22-07-2017 04:22PM

Zaph wrote: »

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

Living the dream. 😎

bucketybuck · 22-07-2017 04:27PM

Zaph wrote: »

Thanks, it's good to know that I'm sad and creepy. When I met my wife I was 41 and she was 23. We've been together over 8 years and married for 5 of them, so I would like to think that your sweeping generalisation doesn't apply. :rolleyes:

I'm sure you are very happy in your very equal relationship.

Zaph · 22-07-2017 04:30PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

I'm sure you are very happy in your very equal relationship.

And would you care to tell me what's unequal, apart from our ages, about our relationship?

rossie1977 · 22-07-2017 04:33PM

My mother was 21 when she married my dad who was 41. They were pretty inseparable until the day my dad died in June 2015 just a few days shy of his 83rd birthday and their 42nd wedding anniversary.

Mozzeltoff · 22-07-2017 04:35PM

My best friend is in a relationship with a man who is about 10 years older than her. Been with each other a couple of years now and they both seem to be very happy with each other.

Then there's my brother in law. When he was 28 he met and started seeing a girl who was 18. At first they were mad about each other but it turned sour and both were fighting like cat and dog. She was jealous and a nasty piece of work with a lot of issues. Chip on her shoulder and thought the world was out to get her. And despite all that their relationship lasted two and a half years.

But I don't blame the age gap on the failure of the relationship. Obviously she was nuts. And that's the point I am getting to, like any relationship I think it's down to how compatible the people are with each other regardless of the age gap.

bucketybuck · 22-07-2017 04:36PM

Zaph wrote: »

And would you care to tell me what's unequal, apart from our ages, about our relationship?

I'm quite sure that there is nothing I can say that you would accept.

Just as I'm sure that when I am 41 I won't be trying to pick up 23 year old girls.

whoopsadoodles · 22-07-2017 04:37PM

One of the best couples I know is a 28 yr old and a 52 year old.

He'd never been with anyone much younger before and she'd never been with anyone out of her own age range until they met.

They're extremely happy. Married now with a family.

Burial. · 22-07-2017 04:42PM

There's no real reason why they shouldn't last than a 'normal' age gap relationship. I do find them a bit weird. I struggle to see the attraction of being in a relationship with a 40+ when you're in your early to mid 20s. Aside from financial security of course.... I've been with quite a few 40+ women from my late teens to early twenties but to think of being in a solid relationship with them would make me scream.

Zaph · 22-07-2017 04:44PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

I'm quite sure that there is nothing I can say that you would accept.

Just as I'm sure that when I am 41 I won't be trying to pick up 23 year old girls.

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

bucketybuck · 22-07-2017 04:45PM

Zaph wrote: »

You know nothing about our relationship so it's not a case of whether you could say anything that I'd accept and more a case of knowing that anything you said would just be you talking out of your arse. Similarly you don't know anything about the circumstances of us getting together, so you're simply making assumptions, and incorrect ones at that. But if that makes you feel good about yourself then who am I to stop you just because I'm actually in possession of the facts?

You just keep telling yourself that.

KERSPLAT! · 22-07-2017 04:49PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

But sure what he said is true, you know nothing about him, his wife or their relationship. You can debate it all you want, there's nothing untrue about that.

whoopsadoodles · 22-07-2017 04:52PM

bucketybuck wrote: »

You just keep telling yourself that.

Telling himself what? That you don't have the foggiest clue what you're on about? I don't think that's up for debate really - because you don't.

Noveight · 22-07-2017 04:53PM

There's 10 months between myself and the OH and I like our closeness in age, it means we have a lot in common.

Everyone's situation is different, and I can see how there may be challenges with a large age gap but in every challenge lies an opportunity.

No point in casting aspersions over a relationship from the outside when in truth we know little or nothing about it.

Do relationships with big age gaps last?

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