would you be embarassed by fussy eating?

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Ive memories of this as well...liver being given to me for dinner and being told to eat it and I absolutely hated it and would end up in tears at the kitchen table!!

My brother was picky about food. it didn't embarrass anyone, we all just used to laugh at him for being an idiot.

If I was at a semi-formal thing and the girl I was with asked for chicken dippers, I'd be worried that everyone there would think I was getting with a simpleton.

I never considered myself a fussy eater until I was in America and friends were always wanting to go to Indian/Chinese/Ethiopian/Arabic-Transylvanian Fusion/etc. restaurants.

I would never find anything I liked there so would just say, "I'll meet you for a drink afterwards" and get a pizza or something at a diner type place.

I get embarrassed for the number of self-congratulatory food adventurists who can't seem to use a knife and fork properly. You're supposed to be eating your dish of deconstructed champagne infused curried quail's eggs, not trying to knit it.

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Used to be a fussy eater but grew up in my 20s! I'm trying to encourage my son to try everything - at 15 months he's fruit mad and is a big fan of black pudding, olives, smoked salmon and mummy's Pad Thai

If that child doesn't live in a leafy omg loike suburb, he will be bullied by his nugget eating peers. LOL.

Robsweezie wrote: »

i was at a meal in a chinese place when i was scoffed at for suggesting id just have the plain old rice, nuggets, chips. nothing serious, there was just a sense of ''is that all, you're not having that are you?'' it was just surprise that i wasnt having something more...exotic. thats all id have usually in the chinese, im not adventurous with it. better what you know, than some dish i cant pronounce that i wouldnt eat anyway,for the sake of it.

i was a ''fussy'' eater when i was younger and, in that id eat a different meal to the proper stuff parents would make.at weddings id be happier with nuggets and chips than the ''adult'' main course of meat,veg,whatever. i always felt a bit self conscious, not that i was made to that much.

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

First and foremost Chinese restaurant food in Ireland is not exotic. That said, I would have no problem with what you ordered and wouldn't pass comment. My Dad was like that. A real meat and two veg guy. (although you appear to be a nugget and chips person.) Getting him into a Chinese restaurant was a struggle until he realised that he could have a steak or chicken with rice or chips.

However, I'd be a little concerned by your preference for fast food. Sounds like you were over indulged as a child and never made try actual food. If I was at a wedding table with you and you opted for the Kids menu over the main meal, I would class you as a total fooking spacer with issues.

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This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

I think there is nothing wrong with eating meat and two veg if people like that. There is nothing wrong with eating simple food. I have also think the world won't end if you eat chicken nuggets every so often. But let's not pretend they are simple food. They are probably a lot more processed and complex than a meal in high end restaurant.

That being said I don't think op ordering nuggets in Chinese restaurant is a big sin. The only authentic food typical Chinese takeaway in Ireland sells is usually boiled rice. The rest is as far removed from authentic Chinese food as chicken nuggets and fries.

I originally misread the title - thought it was about escapades similar to Junior Soprano's....

Minderbinder wrote: »

Have to laugh at them utilising the term 'neophobia' to make eating chicken nuggets everyday sound like something they have no control over. You can still overcome this 'affliction' by growing the f**k up and changing your habits.

You're an utter embarrassment if you go to any sort of social function and order that, and you should just stay at home to be honest.

It's a pretty sad existence and I'll bet these people are weird in all sorts of other ways too.

Other people should stop making excuses for these big babies too. That only validates them and won't help them grow up and be respectable members of society.

Christ on a bike, I tell you, I'd prefer to be out at a dinner with every other person ordering boiled rice and chips and being very nervous of the vinegar than spend an hour eating fancy food in an atmosphere of judgement. I hope your tadpoles are sufficiently braised, milord.

Not liking unfamiliar food is really not as sad as dismissing the entire lives of someone else because you can't see eye to eye with them on ONE topic. That's also quite a lot weirder than merely not liking new food. Just maybe tis you that needs to grow up a bit rather than anyone that doesn't share your food preferences?

I wouldn't be embarrassed by a fussy eater if there was a reason behind it as such. My friend is a fussy eater - she has numerous allergies that can be life threatening so she is going to ask questions. Likewise I've a lactose intolerance so need to check if there's cream or milk used in dishes before ordering sometimes. If I know someone genuinely hates an ingredient or a type of flavouring then fair enough.

That said we did have a friend who would only eat plain chicken and chips. No veg & no deviation from that. We went away together a few times and trying to find a place that did that in France was not easy at all. And there was no attempt to even try anything else. Ever. She even made her parents make that for her for Christmas dinner every year and this was when we were in our mid-20's. That I found annoying to be honest as my friend with the allergies was more willing to try places even though she could have faced a reaction.

As for the OP - to be honest I know a few people who order the same in Chinese as they just don't like it. I would have been similar until I was in my early 20's. The most exotic I got was lemon chicken. I wouldn't be embarrassed in that situation. The wedding thing, maybe though. I don't often like the mains at a wedding (not a fan of beef) but I'll generally have something before so that I'm not over reliant on the meal in case.

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This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

Well, aren't you the shining example of tolerance and acceptance.

Seriously though, what the absolute fúck has The Famine got to do with it!? What point are you even trying to make? I don't even ...