would you be embarassed by fussy eating?

Robsweezie

i was at a meal in a chinese place when i was scoffed at for suggesting id just have the plain old rice, nuggets, chips. nothing serious, there was just a sense of ''is that all, you're not having that are you?'' it was just surprise that i wasnt having something more...exotic. thats all id have usually in the chinese, im not adventurous with it. better what you know, than some dish i cant pronounce that i wouldnt eat anyway,for the sake of it.

i was a ''fussy'' eater when i was younger and, in that id eat a different meal to the proper stuff parents would make.at weddings id be happier with nuggets and chips than the ''adult'' main course of meat,veg,whatever. i always felt a bit self conscious, not that i was made to that much.

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

super_furry

I dunno, I don't think I'd be embarrassed but I'd probably think it's odd. It sounds like you have the palate of six-year-old.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

Grown men eating turkey dinosaurs is unacceptable.

o1s1n

I'd find it extremely odd, but eat whatever you want.

Just don't be giving out when you get scurvy :pac:

ED E

Personally I'd be mortified if we sat down at a wedding and the OH asked for nuggets and chips.

The J Stands for Jay

Robsweezie wrote: »

the plain old rice, nuggets, chips.

Love the way you use "the plain old" to try and normalise that. No-one orders that. Is that even a thing on the kiddies menu?

Pac1Man

What's your health like Rob?

Pat Mustard

Robsweezie wrote: »

say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

Adults ordering from the children's menu will get the hairy eyeball from me.

tomwaterford

I dont see anything wrong with tbh


So long as your not having sauces i dont mind....fukking hate sauces

super_furry

Still trying to get my head around the concept that a Chinese would be considered even remotely exotic these days. Sounds like something out of Bridget and Eamon.

Robsweezie

McGaggs wrote: »

Love the way you use "the plain old" to try and normalise that. No-one orders that. Is that even a thing on the kiddies menu?

it wasnt even off the kiddies menu. thats what i normally eat from the chinese, bar chicken balls instead of nuggets. ive expanded my palate to the odd bit of noodles. im the same with indian. i have enjoyed the odd tikka masala and rogan josh but find them too much. just base food for me usually.

freshpopcorn

I never understand why people get so worked up about what other people are eating. It's embarrassing that they care so much.

Pat Mustard

Pac1Man wrote: »

What's your health like Rob?

Healthy as a horse with a touch of malnutrition on the side?

bellylint

Do what makes you happy and dont give a toss what idiots think you need to be doing to make them happy.
If you told people you had major allergies to most foods people would be bending over backwards to help you, but because you really dislike other foods people give you ****... like said, idiots.

Junkyard Tom

I have a friend who goes for a Chinese and orders chaken balls, chups, and gravy, if he's feeling particularly adventurous he'll get curry instead of gravy.

Chups are those floppy fat yokes that are supposed to be chips.

Robsweezie

Pac1Man wrote: »

What's your health like Rob?

its fine, and my eating has improved with age. i eat all the major stuff now with some exceptions like fish.

when i was about 14, i was at a wedding where i couldnt stomach the proper set meal so i just had the kiddie option. i felt like i was ''representing the family'' or something like that and felt a bit self conscious. its stupid now i know.

Pac1Man

Robsweezie wrote: »

its fine, and my eating has improved with age. i eat all the major stuff now with some exceptions like fish.

What about fish fingers cut up on a plate with a bit of sauce?

Burial.

I really couldn't give a damn. As long as you're not one of those snobby "I'm not eating that" clowns that feel the need to be seen to have precise tastes I couldn't care less. I certainly wouldn't look down at an adult having nuggets and chips at a wedding. It's just food. Once I'm locked at a wedding all I want is nuggets and chips too.

Baron Kurtz

Never got why the kiddies get the real shyte food on the menu. Are we not looking to set an example to parents with smallies of eating healthier etc? Here's some nuggets, chips and half-cooked cocktail sausages for ya, kids. It's all about the cost I suppose.

freshpopcorn

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Never got why the kiddies get the real shyte food on the menu. Are we not looking to set an example to parents with smallies of eating healthier etc? Here's some nuggets, chips and half-cooked cocktail sausages for ya, kids. It's all about the cost I suppose.

I know from working in hotels and studying it. Kids often don't eat adult meals at events. They tend just to muck around with them.

I wouldn't be embarrassed by someone ordering that kind of food, but I would wonder why they bothered going to a restaurant at all if that's the only thing they'll order.

If dietary choices are limited to or regularly involve nuggets and chips, you have bigger issues than embarrassment to contend with. Or you will, when it catches up with you.

freshpopcorn

Candie wrote: »

I wouldn't be embarrassed by someone ordering that kind of food, but I would wonder why they bothered going to a restaurant at all if that's the only thing they'll order.

If dietary choices are limited to or regularly involve nuggets and chips, you have bigger issues than embarrassment to contend with. Or you will, when it catches up with you.

I know people and they find Chinese/Indian Restaurants very mucky because they like plain simple food or more traditional food. They go along with it so they can meet the people and they don't want to be seen as fussy.

the_syco

I generally check the menu online first, and find something I may like. If I find nothing on the menu that I may possibly like, I don't goto that restaurant.

The only bad manners here is from people having the temerity to tell a grown adult what he should/shouldn't be eating. Bad breeding.

I can't abide when idiots in cafés and restaurants insist upon putting things on my order that I never asked for. This is widespread. If I order a sandwich, and specifically say I don't want salad dressing, coleslaw, crisps or anything else with it but you still put it on my plate that's just ignorant, patronising, disrespectful. You do not have some finer understanding of taste, and no, I don't feel happy to get something "free" on my plate. Just ignorant people, really.

Carry

The eating habits and/or preferences of a lot of Irish people never ceases to amaze me.

I often found that they prefer starchy fatty food even in fine dining restaurants. It's not only about the unhealthy eating but apparently about the fear to expand their tastebuds - what I don't know I don't eat.

I once was actually mortified when a friend I invited to a decent restaurant complained that the vegetables weren't properly cooked - because they weren't soggy as he was used to.

Fussy is different, like being allergic or just not liking certain foods. Otherwise it's just childish.

But eat as you like. It's your body and your wellbeing (or not-wellbeing).
And now butcher me for being judgemental

Robsweezie

Carry wrote:

But eat as you like. It's your body and your wellbeing (or not-wellbeing). And now butcher me for being judgemental

Can I deep fry you with chocolate?

endacl

Deleted User wrote: »

I can't abide when idiots in cafés and restaurants insist upon putting things on my order that I never asked for. This is widespread. If I order a sandwich, and specifically say I don't want salad dressing, coleslaw, crisps or anything else with it but you still put it on my plate that's just ignorant, patronising, disrespectful. You do not have some finer understanding of taste, and no, I don't feel happy to get something "free" on my plate. Just ignorant people, really.

Ah, it's not really any of those things. It's just inattentive. Probably as a result of firing out hundreds of sandwiches a day for minimum dollar.

Your problem could easily be solved with a dollop of fcukit and a side order of get over yourself.



On the other hand, if your attitude at the counter is similar to your attitude in your post, perhaps they're deliberately trying to piss you off in the hope you won't come back?

riffmongous

Don't worry about it OP, if anyone ever says anything just fire back with a 'it's far from X you were rared'

Canis Lupus

It wouldn't bother me that much but I'd likely comment on it. I don't really expect an adult to eat 'kids' food.

FanadMan

Robsweezie wrote: »

i was at a meal in a chinese place when i was scoffed at for suggesting id just have the plain old rice, nuggets, chips. nothing serious, there was just a sense of ''is that all, you're not having that are you?'' it was just surprise that i wasnt having something more...exotic. thats all id have usually in the chinese, im not adventurous with it. better what you know, than some dish i cant pronounce that i wouldnt eat anyway,for the sake of it.

i was a ''fussy'' eater when i was younger and, in that id eat a different meal to the proper stuff parents would make.at weddings id be happier with nuggets and chips than the ''adult'' main course of meat,veg,whatever. i always felt a bit self conscious, not that i was made to that much.

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

Right, you're off my Come Dine With Me list :P

AllForIt

Carry wrote: »

The eating habits and/or preferences of a lot of Irish people never ceases to amaze me.

I often found that they prefer starchy fatty food even in fine dining restaurants. It's not only about the unhealthy eating but apparently about the fear to expand their tastebuds - what I don't know I don't eat.

I once was actually mortified when a friend I invited to a decent restaurant complained that the vegetables weren't properly cooked - because they weren't soggy as he was used to.

Fussy is different, like being allergic or just not liking certain foods. Otherwise it's just childish.

But eat as you like. It's your body and your wellbeing (or not-wellbeing).
And now butcher me for being judgemental

Irish ppl are totally like this. They would order a fry-up in a fancy restaurant if they could get it.

Irish ppl are very weird about good food. Even the one's who have money. They will say 'oh you can't beat the spuds', kinda attitude.

The English as just as bad. They will brag about their English breakfast and when they go on hols they demand that they get same. Not that the English have anything to brag about when it come to good food, when they promote their disgusting greasy "Fish & Chips" as their national dish.

The truth is is that every other county in the EU aside from Ireland and the UK have a much finer taste in meals and cuisine than we have here in the British Isles, as has been much ridiculed in Europe, and rightly so.

There are ppl out there who eat Heinz baked beans as part of their breakfast, and they think that's good. How embarrassing.

freshpopcorn

AllForIt wrote: »

Irish ppl are totally like this. They would order a fry-up in a fancy restaurant if they could get it.

Irish ppl are very weird about good food. Even the one's who have money. They will say 'oh you can't beat the spuds', kinda attitude.

The English as just as bad. They will brag about their English breakfast and when they go on hols they demand that they get same. Not that the English have anything to brag about when it come to good food, when they promote their disgusting greasy "Fish & Chips" as their national dish.

The truth is is that every other county in the EU aside from Ireland and the UK have a much finer taste in meals and cuisine than we have here in the British Isles, as has been much ridiculed in Europe, and rightly so.

There are ppl out there who eat Heinz baked beans as part of their breakfast, and they think that's good. How embarrassing.

If your so embarrassed by those types of people don't associate with them then. You'd be doing the people and yourself a favor!

Fathom

Robsweezie wrote: »

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?

Not if I truly "loved" them.

endacl

AllForIt wrote: »

The truth is is that every other county in the EU aside from Ireland and the UK have a much finer taste in meals and cuisine than we have here in the British Isles, as has been much ridiculed in Europe, and rightly so.

Bullsh*t. This line always comes out when the topic comes up. We have the finest meat and produce of anywhere I've ever eaten, and I've eaten on four continents. I was in a restaurant in Leuven (Belgium) earlier this year, ordered a stew, and just 'knew' the beef was Irish. It had that flaky juicy tenderness that we take for granted. I asked the waiter, who checked with the chef, who confirmed it. In fact he said he wouldn't use anything else, and that once he'd introduced Irish meat to the menu he couldn't use anything else. His regulars would complain if he had to substitute.

You're either:
(a) eating in the wrong places, with the wrong people, or
(b) a bad cook with no eye for picking decent raw materials.

Soggy Irish veg is a thing of the past.

freshpopcorn

endacl wrote: »

Bullsh*t. This line always comes out when the topic comes up. We have the finest meat and produce of anywhere I've ever eaten, and I've eaten on four continents. I was in a restaurant in Leuven (Belgium) earlier this year, ordered a stew, and just 'knew' the beef was Irish. It had that flaky juicy tenderness that we take for granted. I asked the waiter, who checked with the chef, who confirmed it. In fact he said he wouldn't use anything else, and that once he'd introduced Irish meat to the menu he couldn't use anything else. His regulars would complain if he had to substitute.

You're either:
(a) eating in the wrong places, with the wrong people, or
(b) a bad cook with no eye for picking decent raw materials.

Soggy Irish veg is a thing of the past.

People love saying Irish food isn't good enough/to boring/etc.

Summer wind

If I'm going out for a meal with anyone I want to be happy in their company and I want them to be happy to be with me too. This means if they want to eat nuggets and chips or sausages and chips with beans that's totally fine with me. It's also totally fine if they want to eat something posh like tadpoles arse holes. What's most important is that we enjoy ourselves and have a laugh.

snowflaker

You can't sit with us!

Samaris

Summer wind wrote: »

If I'm going out for a meal with anyone I want to be happy in their company and I want them to be happy to be with me too. This means if they want to eat nuggets and chips or sausages and chips with beans that's totally fine with me. It's also totally fine if they want to eat something posh like tadpoles arse holes. What's most important is that we enjoy ourselves and have a laugh.

But sure, wouldn't you be totally scarlah for anyone who ate their tadpole arseholes with the fish fork rather than the winklepicker? :O

endacl

endacl wrote: »

Your problem could easily be solved with a dollop of fcukit and a side order of get over yourself.

On the other hand, if your attitude at the counter is similar to your attitude in your post, perhaps they're deliberately trying to piss you off in the hope you won't come back?

What a typically obtuse and ignorant response amounting to nothing more than if the restaurant/café give the paying customer the very thing they said they didn't want then the customer should just suck it up. Genius business acumen right there.

TerrorFirmer

I would find that a bit odd. I mean, is there nothing at all on the menu that you could eat? Chinese menu's have ridiculously varied options to pretty much suit every taste - whether you like greasy food, saucy food, dry food, meat, fish, whatever.

I think an adult who has to resort to nuggets and chips on a menu that probably has about 100 options is being way too fussy in that particular context. Would it embarrass me, though? No.

Samaris

I'd prefer a person to be comfortable enough to eat what they like at a meal out rather than be forcing themselves to eat something they don't like (and probably paying exorbitant prices for) just to look good.

My opinion will not change based on whether you're eating chicken nuggets or ravioli et...tadpole arseholes.

Actually, I'd probably be less weirded out by the nuggets and chips.

LimeFruitGum

I would find an adult who frequently orders from the kids menu a little bit embarrassing, yeah. On the other hand, I get that some people just are not that interested in food.

But Chinese takeaway food isn't that weird. Like, you can still have rice with chicken & mushrooms. Or beef with broccoli. They don't always come in some 'dodgy' sauce. Do you often cook for yourself, OP?
Do you at least try new/different ingredients?

Neon_Lights

OP has food neophobia

helimachoptor

2 of my sisters in law are like the op.

No sauce, can't have food touching other food etc. Don't like the breadcrumbs can't it be a plain chicken breast etc.

Retards tbh

Neon_Lights

Neon_Lights wrote: »

OP has food neophobia

For the unenlightened who would like to understand this rather than just dismiss it as the actions of "retards": Food neophobia

...Genetics seem to play a role in both food neophobia and general neophobia. Research shows that about two-thirds of the variation in food neophobia is due to genetics...

AudreyHepburn

I don't judge people for being fussy eaters although I would have to wonder why some-one would bother going to a fancy restaurant if you're not going to bother eating the food.

And I do feel that people who refuse to at least try different thing are really missing out.

IvyTheTerrible

super_furry wrote: »

I dunno, I don't think I'd be embarrassed but I'd probably think it's odd. It sounds like you have the palate of six-year-old.

Eh, my 5 year old hates chips and nuggets...

razorblunt

I've only had an issue once when out with someone over them being fussy. The thing is, it was a valid complaint they had but they just made a drama out of it. They didn't like their main as there was something in there they didn't like, said they dislike whatever caused that taste and they've had dishes before that had it. I tasted it and in fairness I could tell there was definitely some ingredient there, that I myself don't like. When the staff came to check on everything, the person who ordered the dish said nothing.
They must have noticed the plate wasn't touched as they came back later and asked her specifically if everything was ok with their dish.

The staff were great, ran through the ingredients again listing them out, none of them sounded familiar to her so she said she didn't think it was them. They offered another dish, on the house, but then she insisted she was fine and lost her appetite and made a bit of a drama out of the whole thing. The restaurant insisted she go home with something so cooked another dish (she had said "I wished I picked the chicken") so they gave her the dish to takeaway. Again she insisted she didn't want it but her husband took it. It lasted 5 minutes before we got home and she tucked into it!

Must try and recall what the potential cause was again. It was a very unique taste.

suicide_circus

We all have our little foibles and eccentricities, one of yours is an extremely limited palate, it's up to you to not be embarrassed by it but a lot of people will think it's odd.

GLaDOS

Call them goujons instead of nuggets and it becomes acceptable.

Teyla Emmagan

I had a friend who was a terribly fussy eater. She would only eat in about 2 places in the whole of Dublin city. It was a huge PITA. I love food, and restaurants and eating out. I get great enjoyment out of being with people who love their food too.

So i'm afraid OP you would drive me mad!