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would you be embarassed by fussy eating?

Robsweezie

i was at a meal in a chinese place when i was scoffed at for suggesting id just have the plain old rice, nuggets, chips. nothing serious, there was just a sense of ''is that all, you're not having that are you?'' it was just surprise that i wasnt having something more...exotic. thats all id have usually in the chinese, im not adventurous with it. better what you know, than some dish i cant pronounce that i wouldnt eat anyway,for the sake of it.

i was a ''fussy'' eater when i was younger and, in that id eat a different meal to the proper stuff parents would make.at weddings id be happier with nuggets and chips than the ''adult'' main course of meat,veg,whatever. i always felt a bit self conscious, not that i was made to that much.

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

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Beasty

As a kid I was definitely the fussiest eater I have ever known of. I've improved but remain very much a creature of habit when it comes to food. However I will give a lot more stuff a try nowadays (although it has to be vegetarian). Am I embarrassed by all of this? No I really don't give a toss if others have an issue with it (fortunately my kids are much more open minded when it comes to food!)

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IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Eh, my 5 year old hates chips and nuggets...

Wait til he's 6 so

Beasty

Thought nuggets only came in gold when I was 5....

Chips we had, but when it came to processed meat it was fish fingers and corned beef - neither of which I've eaten in 50 years or so

dr.bollocko

Beasty wrote: »

Thought nuggets only came in gold when I was 5....

Chips we had, but when it came to processed meat it was fish fingers and corned beef - neither of which I've eaten in 50 years or so

I reckon you're not missing much.

Ray Palmer

What people often miss with eating like this is it never ends well. A limited diet will affect your health it is just a matter of time. As you get older your taste buds change so nothing you like now is going to keep tasting that way .
The other part is food you didn't like before doesn't taste the way you remember either. Your whole brain perceives taste differently as you get older too.

I don't know why you would want to deprive yourself of so much interesting experiences.

McCrack

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Ive memories of this as well...liver being given to me for dinner and being told to eat it and I absolutely hated it and would end up in tears at the kitchen table!!

freshpopcorn

Gebgbegb wrote: »

Who the heck has rice and chips in one meal...

it's either rice OR chips...
insane

Lots of people get in my local Chinese. You say you want half rice and chips and they basically give you a full portion of each.

Glenster

My brother was picky about food. it didn't embarrass anyone, we all just used to laugh at him for being an idiot.

If I was at a semi-formal thing and the girl I was with asked for chicken dippers, I'd be worried that everyone there would think I was getting with a simpleton.

MilesMorales1

My dad would have battered me if I'd been fussy about food growing up, in the house or outside of it, so no at all these days. Be as fussy as you like.

johnnyskeleton

Robsweezie wrote: »

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

Context is key. If you are just after winning the turner prize and go to a 3 star restaurant and order egg and chips they would think you are so amazingly cool that theyd all follow suit and think it is some kind of avant guard artistic expression.

If they look at you and think theres something wrong with you because your food seems, to them, unsophisticated, then they are not nice people.

Generally speaking people are stupid, and stupid people are even stupider when they are in a group and something unexpected happens. But because they are stupid, just tell them that you are intelligent and your unexpected meal order is because of your intelligence. They will believe it because, well, see above.

pangbang

If you use the cake fork instead of the fish fork you're dead to me

Dynomutt

I never considered myself a fussy eater until I was in America and friends were always wanting to go to Indian/Chinese/Ethiopian/Arabic-Transylvanian Fusion/etc. restaurants.

I would never find anything I liked there so would just say, "I'll meet you for a drink afterwards" and get a pizza or something at a diner type place.

I get embarrassed for the number of self-congratulatory food adventurists who can't seem to use a knife and fork properly. You're supposed to be eating your dish of deconstructed champagne infused curried quail's eggs, not trying to knit it.

rainbow kirby

Used to be a fussy eater but grew up in my 20s! I'm trying to encourage my son to try everything - at 15 months he's fruit mad and is a big fan of black pudding, olives, smoked salmon and mummy's Pad Thai

Spanish Eyes

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Used to be a fussy eater but grew up in my 20s! I'm trying to encourage my son to try everything - at 15 months he's fruit mad and is a big fan of black pudding, olives, smoked salmon and mummy's Pad Thai

If that child doesn't live in a leafy omg loike suburb, he will be bullied by his nugget eating peers. LOL.

rainbow kirby

It's alright, we live in north London. My foodie toddler is far from the weirdest thing around here.

Grandeeod

Robsweezie wrote: »

i was at a meal in a chinese place when i was scoffed at for suggesting id just have the plain old rice, nuggets, chips. nothing serious, there was just a sense of ''is that all, you're not having that are you?'' it was just surprise that i wasnt having something more...exotic. thats all id have usually in the chinese, im not adventurous with it. better what you know, than some dish i cant pronounce that i wouldnt eat anyway,for the sake of it.

i was a ''fussy'' eater when i was younger and, in that id eat a different meal to the proper stuff parents would make.at weddings id be happier with nuggets and chips than the ''adult'' main course of meat,veg,whatever. i always felt a bit self conscious, not that i was made to that much.

would a loved ones eating habits embarrass you in company?is it disrespectful?say they get something off the kiddie menu at a wedding or whatever because its what they want, that ok with you?

First and foremost Chinese restaurant food in Ireland is not exotic. That said, I would have no problem with what you ordered and wouldn't pass comment. My Dad was like that. A real meat and two veg guy. (although you appear to be a nugget and chips person.) Getting him into a Chinese restaurant was a struggle until he realised that he could have a steak or chicken with rice or chips.

However, I'd be a little concerned by your preference for fast food. Sounds like you were over indulged as a child and never made try actual food. If I was at a wedding table with you and you opted for the Kids menu over the main meal, I would class you as a total fooking spacer with issues.

Spanish Eyes

rainbow kirby wrote: »

It's alright, we live in north London. My foodie toddler is far from the weirdest thing around here.

Gwan, tell us more!

Robsweezie

GLaDOS wrote: »

Call them goujons instead of nuggets and it becomes acceptable.

exactly. they offer goujons on many an adult menu for starters. people see nuggets and its unacceptable.

its crazy the wild assumptions that are made on based on your choice of food.

ive tried bits and pieces of the chinese and im not fond of the meat offerings. duck, beef, not my thing. but i love beef generally. i think some have taken one example of the chinese and made me out to be some kind of man child.

[Deleted User]

This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

meeeeh

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

I think there is nothing wrong with eating meat and two veg if people like that. There is nothing wrong with eating simple food. I have also think the world won't end if you eat chicken nuggets every so often. But let's not pretend they are simple food. They are probably a lot more processed and complex than a meal in high end restaurant.

That being said I don't think op ordering nuggets in Chinese restaurant is a big sin. The only authentic food typical Chinese takeaway in Ireland sells is usually boiled rice. The rest is as far removed from authentic Chinese food as chicken nuggets and fries.

Minderbinder

Deleted User wrote: »

This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

What the hell are you on about?

Fanny Wank

I originally misread the title - thought it was about escapades similar to Junior Soprano's....

Minderbinder

Have to laugh at them utilising the term 'neophobia' to make eating chicken nuggets everyday sound like something they have no control over. You can still overcome this 'affliction' by growing the f**k up and changing your habits.

You're an utter embarrassment if you go to any sort of social function and order that, and you should just stay at home to be honest.

It's a pretty sad existence and I'll bet these people are weird in all sorts of other ways too.

Other people should stop making excuses for these big babies too. That only validates them and won't help them grow up and be respectable members of society.

Samaris

Minderbinder wrote: »

Have to laugh at them utilising the term 'neophobia' to make eating chicken nuggets everyday sound like something they have no control over. You can still overcome this 'affliction' by growing the f**k up and changing your habits.

You're an utter embarrassment if you go to any sort of social function and order that, and you should just stay at home to be honest.

It's a pretty sad existence and I'll bet these people are weird in all sorts of other ways too.

Other people should stop making excuses for these big babies too. That only validates them and won't help them grow up and be respectable members of society.

Christ on a bike, I tell you, I'd prefer to be out at a dinner with every other person ordering boiled rice and chips and being very nervous of the vinegar than spend an hour eating fancy food in an atmosphere of judgement. I hope your tadpoles are sufficiently braised, milord.

Not liking unfamiliar food is really not as sad as dismissing the entire lives of someone else because you can't see eye to eye with them on ONE topic. That's also quite a lot weirder than merely not liking new food. Just maybe tis you that needs to grow up a bit rather than anyone that doesn't share your food preferences?

OldMrBrennan83

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Lady is a tramp

At a wedding meal recently in a really really fancy French restaurant, I asked for a well done steak just because I knew that's what my teenage sister wanted to order but she'd have been too embarrassed to ask for it unless I asked first, because she knows well done steak just isn't "cool" or whatever.

It was actually lovely, not something I'd usually order but we both enjoyed them.

I dunno, life is too short to judge anyone or feel judged on what their food preferences are. I actually felt great that time to be able to make her feel a little bit more okay about eating what she actually wanted to eat!

sbsquarepants

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Used to be a fussy eater but grew up in my 20s! I'm trying to encourage my son to try everything - at 15 months he's fruit mad and is a big fan of black pudding, olives, smoked salmon and mummy's Pad Thai

Jaysus that's a blessing!
My 14 month old daughter sat on my lap and polished of half of my jalfrezi the other night, she'll basically eat anything myself or her mother are eating - her 2 and a half year old sister is kept alive solely by porridge, omelettes (inc. whatever microscopic traces of vegetables we can sneak into them), fruit, yoghurt and beans. That being said, she's somehow the picture of health and has never needed a doctor or anything like that, but I would really love her to eat something resembling a dinner a few times a week.
Some kids are just better eater than others!

witchgirl26

I wouldn't be embarrassed by a fussy eater if there was a reason behind it as such. My friend is a fussy eater - she has numerous allergies that can be life threatening so she is going to ask questions. Likewise I've a lactose intolerance so need to check if there's cream or milk used in dishes before ordering sometimes. If I know someone genuinely hates an ingredient or a type of flavouring then fair enough.

That said we did have a friend who would only eat plain chicken and chips. No veg & no deviation from that. We went away together a few times and trying to find a place that did that in France was not easy at all. And there was no attempt to even try anything else. Ever. She even made her parents make that for her for Christmas dinner every year and this was when we were in our mid-20's. That I found annoying to be honest as my friend with the allergies was more willing to try places even though she could have faced a reaction.

As for the OP - to be honest I know a few people who order the same in Chinese as they just don't like it. I would have been similar until I was in my early 20's. The most exotic I got was lemon chicken. I wouldn't be embarrassed in that situation. The wedding thing, maybe though. I don't often like the mains at a wedding (not a fan of beef) but I'll generally have something before so that I'm not over reliant on the meal in case.

IrishZeus

Minderbinder wrote: »

Have to laugh at them utilising the term 'neophobia' to make eating chicken nuggets everyday sound like something they have no control over. You can still overcome this 'affliction' by growing the f**k up and changing your habits.

You're an utter embarrassment if you go to any sort of social function and order that, and you should just stay at home to be honest.

It's a pretty sad existence and I'll bet these people are weird in all sorts of other ways too.

Other people should stop making excuses for these big babies too. That only validates them and won't help them grow up and be respectable members of society.

Ahhh, you sound like a real winner, so you do. Would you offer the same advice to people with "real" mental health illnesses? Even food related ones like anorexia, bulimia etc?* Or do they not exist too?

Only one person here that needs to do a bit of growing up, me thinks.

*I realise there is a world of difference between the seriousness of the different conditions but try and focus on the point being made.

FunLover18

Deleted User wrote: »

This whole thread reminds me of a valuable distinction in a FOT article years ago. Fintan was giving out that people were patting themselves on the back for how they "tolerated" various things. He pointed out that tolerance implies some sort of reluctance; we should accept difference, not merely tolerate it. Touché.

The food police here haven't even got as far as the tolerance stage yet. It's one thing, a positive thing, liking a particular food; it's decidedly another thing to sneer at people who don't share their, eh, "passion". You'd swear these Irish were alumni of Le Cordon Bleu the way they go on about their supposedly refined sense of food taste sneering at people who don't share their pretensions - not part of a nation who were starving in their millions not so long ago. See how choosy that lot would have been in 1847! If you can't be passionate about food without pissing on other people/accepting other people don't share your views then spare us the notions of culinary sophistication.

Well, aren't you the shining example of tolerance and acceptance.

Seriously though, what the absolute fúck has The Famine got to do with it!? What point are you even trying to make? I don't even ...