'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

Gravelly wrote: »

There's no s in etiquette, and the guys probably needed sobriety, not elocution.

I was actually pointing out the irony of objecting to childish demands, then making what some might consider to be childish demands.....

I think the men of east galway need help & lessons in life the rudeness was disgraceful not the fact that had to much to drink maybe they shouldn't drink at all as it doesn't agree with them it turns them into little boys throwing their toys out of the stroller when they don't get what they want,very sad in grown up men

rawn wrote: »

I remember hitting it off really well with a guy before, really intelligent, funny, good looking etc. He got my number a few days later from a mutual friend and text me something along the lines of

"hey its XXX wu up2"

Completely turned me off him.

Because his name was xxx? Didn't they make a couple of films about him? Kind of like a steroid-filled James Bond if I remember correctly.

Snobs but especially music ones, you know the ones that look down their nose at you if mention anything that is mainstream. 
Drug takers would be a big no no for me.  Doesn't matter what they are taking I just wouldn't be interested.
Anyone that laughs like a donkey.

Floppybits wrote: »

Anyone that laughs like a donkey.

Even if they were a donkey?

Candie wrote: »

Smoking.

Poor manners.

Farting with joyous abandon regardless of company or location.

High pitched voice.

Belief in any nonsense like homeopathy or horoscopes or crystals.

Once I had an all-consuming crush on what I thought was the perfect man. He was just perfect. Until I saw him holster his cellphone in a little holder on his belt. Talk about your metaphorical cold shower, it was an instant crush cure.

Did this happen in the late 90's ?

Deleted User wrote: »

Sounds like we could be a match, I tailor my farts carefully to the setting.

Ah but do you let them off with joyous abandon, or with sober reserve?

Murrisk wrote: »

Lux23 wrote: »

Anyone who likes to portray themselves as a nice guy, if you're nice you don't need to go around saying it.

Especially as the 'I'm a nice guy' guys often seem to think being nice is being a pushover. Don't they realise how ineffectual and unattractive that makes them seem? And then of course when women don't bite, they curse womankind for going after 'assholes' instead of 'nice guys' like them. Men who highlight their 'niceness' are often not that nice.

Truly nice fellas are also assertive and confident and don't think that their niceness qualifies them to have whatever poon they desire. None of us are entitled to what we want just because we are nice. People shouldn't want to be rewarded for being a decent human being.

Ah, I think it's confusion. Wimmins say "all I want is a nice fella". that's not true though in practice. They want other things too but for whatever reason (society or cultural) don't say it.
Nice=pushover only because people take advantage and don't appreciate it. Fella who never makes compromises or considers someone else in their decisions = arsehole. Fella/eejit who does is dismissed as nice = pushover.
Irish women often don't appreciate decent fellas. I probably have more Irish friends with foreign wives/serious-girlfriends than have Irish ones (apart from the ones that were going out since they were young)......and a lot of 30's/40's Irish women moaning about lack of "quality" for dating :unsure: . Irish women take a bit longer to realize that the queue of fellas trying to bang you down the local nightclub when you are in your early 20's isn't necessarily going to magically morph into the greatest love-story and happy ending the world has ever seen (well, unless you consider a specific type of temporary "happy ending" )

Murrisk wrote: »

I'd judge someone for disliking 1989-1997 Simpsons, the classic era.

However, if someone thought Season 10-present day Simpsons was actually good, that would also be a problem.

yes and yes.

BetsyEllen wrote: »

Agreed, but also long fingernails on a man *shudder*
A guy I know doesn't bite or trim his and they get pretty long, it makes my skin crawl.

Over-long fingernails in general, yes. They creep me out on females as well. Particularly those over thick fake ones

Manky I know...but.
Smelly nethers.
and yes, I experienced it once, and it spelled the end of the relationship.

I don't get all the "women/men who refer to me as" bashing.

While I certainly don't want a stranger calling me their fella, or my girlfriend darlin'

I don't mind if someone I'm sexing calls me that. God knows I'd call them worse.

One I vividly remember from my early teenage years - I was completely infatuated with this gorgeous girl I only saw at some youth club thing at the weekends. She didnt know me at all, but I spent the week looking forward to seeing her, and the chance of having some trivial interaction with her.

Anyway, on it went, being honest, never really getting any closer, and then bam - some sports day event, and I see her run... Yep, like some spin off from the ministry of silly walks, she had the gait of a newborn foal, ice skating through treacle, and that was that (onto the next daft infatuation..!)