'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

jeanjolie

What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?

Nervous Wreck

Once ended a thing because she had a stupid looking coat. /dope

the_pen_turner

Tattoos , too many piercings,
Smoking.
Excess drinking
Too much makeup
Face tan.

tomwaterford

jeanjolie wrote: »

What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?

Whats yours first?

The Backwards Man

Must be smart, but not too smart

gramar

The use of the word 'dealbreaker'.

Kylo Ren

When their pool is not deep enough.

jeanjolie

tomwaterford wrote: »

Whats yours first?

Have a few

1.) Accent - can be the most pretty and/or sexy girl but if she has that thick Dublin accent or any other thick Irish accent.....

2.) 'Traditional beliefs' - Can't really deal with people who believe in a 'tough love' mentality in parenting (even though don't want kids), discipline, advice. This also includes believing in traditional gender dynamics. Should at least be nurturing and open minded.

3.) Height - I'm 5ft 5in and don't want a girl who is below too much. Nothing to do with femininity or masculinity rather its simply attraction. I tend to find shorter women (with a fair number of exceptions) do not portray a look of seriousness. Height is the main focus in a negative fashion.

Roger Hassenforder

If she has a willy

jeanjolie

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

If she has a willy

don't you mean a feminine penis?

GingerLily

When you don't actually like someone that much trivial things will annoy you about them, shallow or otherwise!

me_irl

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

If she has a willy

"Oi Bruce!" :pac:

Permabear

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Zebra3

Smoking.

Your clothes smell.

Your breath smells.

Your fingers are stained.

And worst of all, you just constantly stink, but you're surrounded by it so much you don't even realise how disgusting you are.

beertons

Bigger ned kelly than me.

Ush1

Permabear wrote: »

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They are when you get to your age.

TerrorFirmer

None of the ones posted so far are really 'shallow' though apart from the guy who said someone's choice of coat was a deal-breaker!

Widdershins

I smoke and my fingers are perfectly normal, as is the rest of me, probably because I don't smoke eighty woodbines a day, or in an enclosed space, and I'm a clean person, but a yellowed, growly old smoker would be off putting to me, too.
People who don't just not smoke themselves but behave like smokers are something that crawled out of the sulphurous pits of hell. Very extreme judgement is off putting. They usually see no irony about it because they don't count their own vices as bad habits.

I'm not keen on stretched ears, board shorts, caps on backwards,skinny jean, converse type shoes, lots of piercings on men (I have a few and I think they suit some women).

Not trivial but I couldn't go out with a racist or someone with offensive attitudes to people with disabilities.

Bad breath
smoking
orange face

Ash.J.Williams

Manufactured music fans that watch reality TV.....I won't even talk let alone embark on a relationship

draiochtanois

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riemann

jeanjolie wrote: »

Have a few

1.) Accent - can be the most pretty and/or sexy girl but if she has that thick Dublin accent or any other thick Irish accent.....

2.) 'Traditional beliefs' - Can't really deal with people who believe in a 'tough love' mentality in parenting (even though don't want kids), discipline, advice. This also includes believing in traditional gender dynamics. Should at least be nurturing and open minded.

3.) Height - I'm 5ft 5in and don't want a girl who is below too much. Nothing to do with femininity or masculinity rather its simply attraction. I tend to find shorter women (with a fair number of exceptions) do not portray a look of seriousness. Height is the main focus in a negative fashion.

'Traditional Gender Dynamics' - I'd lead with that.

At 5'5 you might want to be a bit more open minded

Boom_Bap

Not being able to fill a dishwasher properly :pac:


actually, Mrs. Bap is terrible at filling the dishwasher now that I come to think about it.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Zebra3 wrote: »

Smoking.

Your clothes smell.

Your breath smells.

Your fingers are stained.

And worst of all, you just constantly stink, but you're surrounded by it so much you don't even realise how disgusting you are.

But you initially found them attractive before those issues started to bother you...

TimeToShine

Ush1 wrote: »

They are when you get to your age.

Yep. Can't expect a fat 45 year old to have the same prospects as a young fit 25 year old. Something's gotta give.

Tell me how

When describing a conversation that rambled on she used to use the phrase, "Blah de blah de blah" instead of "Blah blah blah". I remember thinking, this isn't going to work.

lazybones32

Once broke up with a girl because of her laugh - it sounded like a moan.

I'd never go out with a woman with brown eyes. Personality counts for little if i don't like looking you in the eyes.

Boom_Bap

Using spaces instead of tabs.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsoOG6ZeyUI

Cee-Jay-Cee

I will admit to the following shallow hal moments in my past:

1) Her boobs were too small in fact they were almost non existant and she wore a padded bra. I didn't realise this for a few weeks and it was extremely off putting when we got intimate for the first time, I couldn't get over it and so there ended that.

2) She had a really gravelly voice, I thought it was ok at first for a few months but it then started to really annoy me to the point where I simply couldn't stand it any longer and ended the relationship.

3) She was very religious and was always going to mass. She also made it very clear from the start that she didn't believe in sex before marriage which I was actually ok with at the start. What got to me in the end was the religion and god bless this and god bless that and thank god for this and that and so on. I 'ghosted' on her.

Edit: the above are 3 different girls.

me_irl

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

I will admit to the following shallow hal moments in my past:

1) Her boobs were too small in fact they were almost non existant and she wore a padded bra. I didn't realise this for a few weeks and it was extremely off putting when we got intimate for the first time, I couldn't get over it and so there ended that.

2) She had a really gravelly voice, I thought it was ok at first for a few months but it then started to really annoy me to the point where I simply couldn't stand it any longer and ended the relationship.

Was her name Lola?

Roger Hassenforder

me_irl wrote: »

Was her name Lola?

or Mike?

Permabear

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One eyed Jack

TimeToShine wrote: »

Yep. Can't expect a fat 45 year old to have the same prospects as a young fit 25 year old. Something's gotta give.

Curiously enough...


(although I'm about five years off 45 yet :pac:)


If they have no idea how to apply makeup properly. They could be incredibly attractive, fantastic personality, etc... but outside the lines with their lipstick, or badly done eyeliner wings, or a half-on/half-off fake lash... jaysis

me_irl

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

or Mike?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LemG0cvc4oU

5rtytry56

Making a human ATM out of me.

Ubbquittious

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

I will admit to the following shallow hal moments in my past:

1) Her boobs were too small in fact they were almost non existant and she wore a padded bra. I didn't realise this for a few weeks and it was extremely off putting when we got intimate for the first time, I couldn't get over it and so there ended that.

2) She had a really gravelly voice, I thought it was ok at first for a few months but it then started to really annoy me to the point where I simply couldn't stand it any longer and ended the relationship.

3) She was very religious and was always going to mass. She also made it very clear from the start that she didn't believe in sex before marriage which I was actually ok with at the start. What got to me in the end was the religion and god bless this and god bless that and thank god for this and that and so on. I 'ghosted' on her.

Lord save us and guard us

judeboy101

If they are from mayo

Mr.Plough

Eating sloppily or very noisily with mouth open. One of those things that wouldn't bother me at first but as time went on it would drive me insane.

Cutie 3.14

No indoor voice, if we're out and about and having a conversation I dont want the whole bloody restaurant hearing our conversation...or at least his side of it because he doesn't have an indoor voice!

Matt.ie

If the person is a liberal,I'm out of there.

Totally shallow of me, but if a guy is shorter than me , 5'5'', I tend to dismiss him as boyfriend/ whatever else material.
Not meanly to his face, just in my head.....

Flibble

My friend pointed out that mah new beau looked a bit like a hedgehog.

It was in the back of my mind when we attended a show together, where he volunteered himself for an act. Up on stage, noticeably shorter than everyone else & blinking rapidly/squinting into the bright stage lighting from behind his glasses. Then the song 'Bright Eyes' from Watership Down came on... And the transformation was complete in my mind's eye.

He was legit a woodland creature.

I broke up with him the next day.

Lux23

Anyone who likes to portray themselves as a nice guy, if you're nice you don't need to go around saying it.

rawn

I would never go out with someone who wears tracksuits on a daily basis.

raze_them_all_

mouth breathers and loud eaters

Outlaw Pete

Deflatability.

Your Face

Being a socialist.
Its just not cricket old girl.

Elemonator

Accent. The Northern Irish accent grinds my gears. I had this gorgeous blonde coming onto me at a party a few years ago, but I avoided her because of her accent

Permabear

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Pat Mustard

Wearing a GAA jersey when it's not match day

jester77

Asking silly questions during a movie, especially in the cinema :mad: