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'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

jeanjolie

What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?

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Barnum

Gravelly wrote: »

There's no s in etiquette, and the guys probably needed sobriety, not elocution.

I was actually pointing out the irony of objecting to childish demands, then making what some might consider to be childish demands.....

I think the men of east galway need help & lessons in life the rudeness was disgraceful not the fact that had to much to drink maybe they shouldn't drink at all as it doesn't agree with them it turns them into little boys throwing their toys out of the stroller when they don't get what they want,very sad in grown up men

[Deleted User]

Smoking.

Poor manners.

Farting with joyous abandon regardless of company or location.

High pitched voice.

Belief in any nonsense like homeopathy or horoscopes or crystals.

Once I had an all-consuming crush on what I thought was the perfect man. He was just perfect. Until I saw him holster his cellphone in a little holder on his belt. Talk about your metaphorical cold shower, it was an instant crush cure.

Gravelly

rawn wrote: »

I remember hitting it off really well with a guy before, really intelligent, funny, good looking etc. He got my number a few days later from a mutual friend and text me something along the lines of

"hey its XXX wu up2"

Completely turned me off him.

Because his name was xxx? Didn't they make a couple of films about him? Kind of like a steroid-filled James Bond if I remember correctly.

Gravelly

Barnum wrote: »

I think the men of east galway need help & lessons in life the rudeness was disgraceful not the fact that had to much to drink maybe they shouldn't drink at all as it doesn't agree with them it turns them into little boys throwing their toys out of the stroller when they don't get what they want,very sad in grown up men

Writing in one long sentence without any punctuation would completely wreck my head I don't think I'd be able to put up with it at all

Floppybits

Snobs but especially music ones, you know the ones that look down their nose at you if mention anything that is mainstream.
Drug takers would be a big no no for me. Doesn't matter what they are taking I just wouldn't be interested.
Anyone that laughs like a donkey.

Barnum

Gravelly wrote: »

Writing in one long sentence without any punctuation would completely wreck my head I don't think I'd be able to put up with it at all

Let's hope we don't bump into each other so, you my dear might just wreck my head

Gravelly

Floppybits wrote: »

Anyone that laughs like a donkey.

Even if they were a donkey?

Gravelly

Barnum wrote: »

Let's hope we don't bump into each other so, you my dear might just wreck my head

My etiquettes are up their with the best though

D3V!L

Candie wrote: »

Smoking.

Poor manners.

Farting with joyous abandon regardless of company or location.

High pitched voice.

Belief in any nonsense like homeopathy or horoscopes or crystals.

Once I had an all-consuming crush on what I thought was the perfect man. He was just perfect. Until I saw him holster his cellphone in a little holder on his belt. Talk about your metaphorical cold shower, it was an instant crush cure.

Did this happen in the late 90's ?

Gravelly

D3V!L wrote: »

Did this happen in the late 90's ?

I was wondering that too.

jeanjolie

Barnum wrote: »

I'm sorry but no one should have to put up with childish demands when things don't go the way they wanted yes I'd consider bad manners a deal breaker
Bring back etiquettes & elocution lessons

Elaborate....?

by the way, I think the other poster was in agreement with you that it isn't a minor dealbreaker.

[Deleted User]

Candie wrote: »

Smoking.

Poor manners.

Farting with joyous abandon regardless of company or location.

High pitched voice.

Belief in any nonsense like homeopathy or horoscopes or crystals.

Once I had an all-consuming crush on what I thought was the perfect man. He was just perfect. Until I saw him holster his cellphone in a little holder on his belt. Talk about your metaphorical cold shower, it was an instant crush cure.

Sounds like we could be a match, I tailor my farts carefully to the setting.

Gravelly

Deleted User wrote: »

Sounds like we could be a match, I tailor my farts carefully to the setting.

Ah but do you let them off with joyous abandon, or with sober reserve?

panda100

Lorelli! wrote: »

Yea a watch is nice but anytime I see a necklace or bracelet on a man, even if it's subtle, I just think of a 1970s Medallion Man

I'm glad to see I'm not the only women whose superficial when it some to jewellery on a man! It's just plain wrong

Donald Trump

Murrisk wrote: »

Lux23 wrote: »

Anyone who likes to portray themselves as a nice guy, if you're nice you don't need to go around saying it.

Especially as the 'I'm a nice guy' guys often seem to think being nice is being a pushover. Don't they realise how ineffectual and unattractive that makes them seem? And then of course when women don't bite, they curse womankind for going after 'assholes' instead of 'nice guys' like them. Men who highlight their 'niceness' are often not that nice.

Truly nice fellas are also assertive and confident and don't think that their niceness qualifies them to have whatever poon they desire. None of us are entitled to what we want just because we are nice. People shouldn't want to be rewarded for being a decent human being.

Ah, I think it's confusion. Wimmins say "all I want is a nice fella". that's not true though in practice. They want other things too but for whatever reason (society or cultural) don't say it.
Nice=pushover only because people take advantage and don't appreciate it. Fella who never makes compromises or considers someone else in their decisions = arsehole. Fella/eejit who does is dismissed as nice = pushover.
Irish women often don't appreciate decent fellas. I probably have more Irish friends with foreign wives/serious-girlfriends than have Irish ones (apart from the ones that were going out since they were young)......and a lot of 30's/40's Irish women moaning about lack of "quality" for dating :unsure: . Irish women take a bit longer to realize that the queue of fellas trying to bang you down the local nightclub when you are in your early 20's isn't necessarily going to magically morph into the greatest love-story and happy ending the world has ever seen (well, unless you consider a specific type of temporary "happy ending"

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draiochtanois

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stuboy01

Murrisk wrote: »

I'd judge someone for disliking 1989-1997 Simpsons, the classic era.

However, if someone thought Season 10-present day Simpsons was actually good, that would also be a problem.

yes and yes.

Gravelly

The more I read this thread, the more I realise how lucky I am that I married many years ago, or I would almost certainly be facing into a life of lonely bachelorhood.

Shenshen

BetsyEllen wrote: »

Agreed, but also long fingernails on a man *shudder*
A guy I know doesn't bite or trim his and they get pretty long, it makes my skin crawl.

Over-long fingernails in general, yes. They creep me out on females as well. Particularly those over thick fake ones

stuboy01

Zebra3 wrote: »

Smoking.

Your clothes smell.

Your breath smells.

Your fingers are stained.

And worst of all, you just constantly stink, but you're surrounded by it so much you don't even realise how disgusting you are.

LMAO - but the old ads made it look so glamorous.

stuboy01

Manky I know...but.
Smelly nethers.
and yes, I experienced it once, and it spelled the end of the relationship.

Dr Crayfish

Donald Trump wrote: »

I probably have more Irish friends with foreign wives/serious-girlfriends than have Irish ones (apart from the ones that were going out since they were young)......and a lot of 30's/40's Irish women moaning about lack of "quality" for dating :unsure: . Irish women take a bit longer to realize that the queue of fellas trying to bang you down the local nightclub when you are in your early 20's isn't necessarily going to magically morph into the greatest love-story and happy ending the world has ever seen (well, unless you consider a specific type of temporary "happy ending" )

I think I used to blame Irish women for many things when I was younger, me not getting laid mostly, and went out with a few fordiners. Having gone out with a few Irish lasses since I think it makes everything a whole lot easier culturally etc, and they're far more likely to get me.

So a dealbreaker for me is Brazilians etc, every 2nd girl on Tinder seems to be Brazilian, I've no interest in dating them. Ideally I'd like a girl that's from one of the English speaking countries, or European at least!

[Deleted User]

Gravelly wrote: »

Ah but do you let them off with joyous abandon, or with sober reserve?

Rarely either, I find it hard to trust farts. In a car with my mates it's usually sneaky, because the lack of sound leads to the fun of seeing dawning realisation.

Cloudio9

Genesis Calm Cookbook wrote: »

the things my fella does

women who refer to you as their "fella"

Glenster

I don't get all the "women/men who refer to me as" bashing.

While I certainly don't want a stranger calling me their fella, or my girlfriend darlin'

I don't mind if someone I'm sexing calls me that. God knows I'd call them worse.

andekwarhola

pilly wrote: »

I once ended a relationship with a man because he wore slippers in the house. Don't ask me why, little bit irrational but I just couldn't see him as sexy after that.

You'd be dumped first if it was me, anyway.

/strokes battered corduroy slippers

TerrorFirmer

pilly wrote: »

Someone who has no idea what's happening in the world also a deal breaker for me.

A while back me and my housemate were talking about something to do with NAMA, and the third housemate asked with sincerity 'What's NAMA?'.

Try to jog his memory, blank expression, explain it to him, few seconds pause, and....."Oh right. Never heard of it."

This was 2016 and he was 29.

Widdershins

I'd probably find an enthusiasm for politics a little bit off putting. Depends on their other interests. I know men who barely know what NAMA is because they don't want to know-their minds are on other things, and they're always interesting imo.

Wossack

One I vividly remember from my early teenage years - I was completely infatuated with this gorgeous girl I only saw at some youth club thing at the weekends. She didnt know me at all, but I spent the week looking forward to seeing her, and the chance of having some trivial interaction with her.

Anyway, on it went, being honest, never really getting any closer, and then bam - some sports day event, and I see her run... Yep, like some spin off from the ministry of silly walks, she had the gait of a newborn foal, ice skating through treacle, and that was that (onto the next daft infatuation..!)

TerrorFirmer

Widdershins wrote: »

I'd probably find an enthusiasm for politics a little bit off putting. Depends on their other interests. I know men who barely know what NAMA is because they don't want to know-their minds are on other things, and they're always interesting imo.

I think to know very little about NAMA is fine, but to actually have never even heard of it is mind boggling - what sort of a bubble would you have to exist in to have never heard of it in 2016? :eek: