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Passive Agressive use of "Bud" and "Pal"

  • 19-04-2017 11:40am
    #1
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Anyone else have an issue with this?

    Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

    I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.


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  • #2
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    pilly wrote: »
    Anyone else have an issue with this?

    Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

    I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

    I do it with 'mate'.

    Can't help it. I'm just so angry when I'm posting and its so cathartic.


  • #3
    C Montgomery Gurns II
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭C Montgomery Gurns II


    pilly wrote: »
    Anyone else have an issue with this?

    Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

    I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

    Alright steady on pal.


  • #4
    Zelda Thousands Van
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Zelda Thousands Van


    I'm not your bud, pal


  • #5
    Allah snackbar
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 161 ✭✭Allah snackbar


    pilly wrote: »

    I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

    Unlike you I see , pal


  • #6
    BattleCorp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,789 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

    I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.


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  • #7
    mejulie805
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 541 ✭✭✭mejulie805


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  • #8
    valoren
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,514 ✭✭✭valoren


    Howya doin' ole buddy ole pal???????


  • #9
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,203 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    It depends on the tone it's used, context. People I'd meet call me bud, pal, horse all the time, but a passive aggressive attitude drives me spare.


  • #10
    GBX
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,019 ✭✭✭✭GBX


    The Dublin bloke from the Stop Search Seize show on Sky One was at it with people arriving into Dublin Airport:

    "Don't call me buddy pal"


  • #11
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    BattleCorp wrote: »
    One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

    I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.

    In other news, man rounds on work colleague for no reason.


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  • #12
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


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  • #13
    BattleCorp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,789 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    :D
    Glenster wrote: »
    In other news, man rounds on work colleague for no reason.

    There's more to that story, pal.


  • #14
    andekwarhola
    Registered Users Posts: 4,639 ✭✭✭andekwarhola


    Surely the issue is with the passive-aggression rather than the noun of choice.

    Do you have trouble understanding what I mean, informal internet acquaintance?


  • #15
    Noddyholder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 696 ✭✭✭Noddyholder


    Buddy, Pal, Dublin words no ? mate be English/London ? Bohy be Cork , There just words & I have no problem with them being used, righ bud.


  • #16
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Glenster wrote: »
    I do it with 'mate'.

    Can't help it. I'm just so angry when I'm posting and its so cathartic.

    Mate is another version yeah.


  • #17
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Allah snackbar wrote: »
    Unlike you I see , pal

    True, I'm not angry at all. Having a great day actually. ;)


  • #18
    Gavlor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,184 ✭✭✭Gavlor


    BattleCorp wrote: »
    One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

    I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.

    Are you 8 and is "work" actually 2nd class maths?


  • #19
    messy tessy
    Registered Users Posts: 889 ✭✭✭messy tessy


    pilly wrote: »
    I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

    I have seen it recently too, reminds me of Ocean's Eleven scene:

    Sorry about that buddy.
    Who are you calling buddy, Pal?
    Who are you calling pal, friend?
    Who are you calling friend, Jackass?!


  • #20
    Zulu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,965 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    I'm not your pal, mate


  • #21
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.


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  • #22
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    pilly wrote: »
    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

    Everything a woman says?

    "Will you be home for dinner?" could have 60 layers of meaning.

    They don't need to put mate on the end of what they say, its always implied.


  • #23
    Pat Mustard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,554 ✭✭✭Pat Mustard


    Listen here, bucko


    That's only semi aggressive, so it's grand.


  • #24
    andekwarhola
    Registered Users Posts: 4,639 ✭✭✭andekwarhola


    pilly wrote: »
    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

    Not strictly true, love.


    :pac:


  • #25
    messy tessy
    Registered Users Posts: 889 ✭✭✭messy tessy


    pilly wrote: »
    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

    Hun, pet, chicken, love.

    Argh!!!


  • #26
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,203 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    pilly wrote: »
    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.


    Bitch?

    Not you obviously, I mean that's what I've often heard women use as either a term of endearment, or indeed in a passive aggressive context.


  • #27
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    messy tessy wrote: »
    Hun, pet, chicken, love.

    Argh!!!

    Yeah I suppose they can be used in a passive aggressive way as well when I think about it.

    To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately. Mate can be.


  • #28
    andekwarhola
    Registered Users Posts: 4,639 ✭✭✭andekwarhola


    messy tessy wrote: »
    Hun, pet, chicken, love.

    Argh!!!

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  • #29
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,693 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    pilly wrote: »
    Yeah I suppose they can be used in a passive aggressive way as well when I think about it.

    To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately. Mate can be.

    Story pal :P


  • #30
    Noddyholder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 696 ✭✭✭Noddyholder


    And if your ever in Morocco or Turkey the folks in the markets be all calling you friend...


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  • #31
    andekwarhola
    Registered Users Posts: 4,639 ✭✭✭andekwarhola


    pilly wrote: »
    To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately.

    Not true at all.


  • #32
    sunny2004
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,538 ✭✭✭sunny2004


    Can't all the pals and mates just get along ;)


  • #33
    HenryHill
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 173 ✭✭HenryHill


    andekwarhola wrote: »
    Not strictly true, love.


    :pac:


    That's correct, Hun


  • #34
    theteal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,593 ✭✭✭theteal


    MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

    I tend to stick with "chief". . .








    . . . .or the occasional "horse"


  • #35
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,203 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Noddyholder wrote: »
    And if your ever in Morocco or Turkey the folks in the markets be all calling you friend...


    I work with a good many Indians (the sub-continental variety, not the American native :D), and it's only when you mentioned it, I realised how many of them will call me friend. They're genuinely a friendly sort anyway... now it occurs to me, lads from the Middle East, Mauritius - "Hello friend..." :D


  • #36
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I remember Dave Allen discussing exactly this.


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  • #37
    cbyrd
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    Pat Mustard wrote:
    Listen here, bucko


    I use this all the time with my kids in a semi jokey manner when they're being cheeky or not listening to me, it's the warning shot before hell breaks loose :D


  • #38
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    theteal wrote: »
    MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

    I tend to stick with "chief". . .

    . . . .or the occasional "horse"

    Chief always reminds me of when Robin Williams went hard on Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting.

    That might be the most aggressive appellation yet.


  • #39
    Archeron
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    Me auld segotia


  • #40
    BBDBB
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    hello chums :)


  • #41
    Yourself isit
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    Except for "story,bud" I don't think I've heard pal or bud used affectionately in Ireland.


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  • #42
    Esel
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,503 ✭✭✭✭Esel


    theteal wrote: »
    MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

    I tend to stick with "chief".

    .or the occasional "horse"

    Heard an off-duty Garda I know give this reply when someone addressed him as 'Horse' -

    "If there was a tail (tale?) to my butt I'd be a horse".

    Not your ornery onager



  • #43
    Your Face
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭Your Face


    I call everyone sweetheart.


  • #44
    boombang
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,108 ✭✭✭boombang


    m8 for added aggression.

    I'm not sure if I've seen mate used online in a way that wasn't nasty.


  • #45
    RWCNT
    Registered Users Posts: 1,430 ✭✭✭RWCNT


    I say "Bud" and "Pal" all the time, I thought I was being friendly :confused:


  • #46
    La.de.da
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,010 ✭✭✭La.de.da


    In Waterford they say butty. "How are ya butty?" :mad:


  • #47
    Brad Socrates Osmund
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭Brad Socrates Osmund


    pilly wrote: »
    Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

    U OK, Hun?


  • #48
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Brad Socrates Osmund wrote: »
    U OK, Hun?

    Yeah, that one drives me mad but it's not really passive aggressive.


  • #49
    Brad Socrates Osmund
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭Brad Socrates Osmund


    pilly wrote: »
    Yeah, that one drives me mad but it's not really passive aggressive.

    Fair point. It's more of a standard reply to passive aggressive Facebook updates.


  • #50
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Brad Socrates Osmund wrote: »
    Fair point. It's more of a standard reply to passive aggressive Facebook updates.

    Or full on rants. :D:D:D:D


  • #51
    whoopsadoodles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,058 ✭✭✭whoopsadoodles


    andekwarhola wrote: »
    Not true at all.

    Indeed, a lot of my.....mates......would call each other Pal or Kid.


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