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awec · 20-10-2016 09:16PM

Removal is mostly just a catholic thing.

swiwi_ · 20-10-2016 09:18PM

TICKLE_ME_ELMO wrote: »

Tell you what I find strange is in the UK how sometimes it can be anything up to two weeks before a funeral happens.

Yeah in NZ the funeral is often delayed to allow family to return from overseas etc. I was also surprised how rapid things can be in Ireland. Cultural differences!

TICKLE_ME_ELMO · 20-10-2016 09:26PM

swiwi_ wrote: »

Yeah in NZ the funeral is often delayed to allow family to return from overseas etc. I was also surprised how rapid things can be in Ireland. Cultural differences!

Yeah, I had a family member die a few years ago and the funeral was late, by Irish standards, because some people had to travel home. I just always wonder what people do when they have to wait a week or two for the funeral. Can you get 2 weeks off work for a bereavement or do you get a few days off and then have to come back in for a week, then get the funeral off?

Podge_irl · 20-10-2016 09:52PM

TICKLE_ME_ELMO wrote: »

Tell you what I find strange is in the UK how sometimes it can be anything up to two weeks before a funeral happens.

It can be up to a month in Finland which I find very odd. Though its obviously more convenient for people to travel to - I guess I'm just used to the idea of dropping everything to head to a funeral when needs be.

Dave_The_Sheep · 20-10-2016 11:27PM

Whenever there was a death in the family, I found that up until the funeral was done and dusted, I couldn't relax, nor it seems could anyone else. There's just so much to do, things to arrange, people to see.

Maybe it's a good things it's not stretched out longer than the few days, or maybe that stress is partially caused by the short turnaround - you have to get so much done in a short period before being able to properly grieve.

TICKLE_ME_ELMO · 20-10-2016 11:29PM

Dave_The_Sheep wrote: »

Whenever there was a death in the family, I found that up until the funeral was done and dusted, I couldn't relax, nor it seems could anyone else. There's just so much to do, things to arrange, people to see.

Maybe it's a good things it's not stretched out longer than the few days, or maybe that stress is partially caused by the short turnaround - you have to get so much done in a short period before being able to properly grieve.

A lot of people say it's not until the funeral is over and everyone has gone home again that the loss hits them. Whether that's a good thing or not I don't know.

errlloyd · 21-10-2016 01:24AM

We take funerals very seriously in some ways, and very casually in others. Very seriously because I think it is important to go to them and pay your respects, and funerals here can be massive. But casually, because I think unless your direct friend or family, it is perfectly acceptable to just "drop into" a funeral in whatever you are wearing, in order to pay your respects.

bilston · 21-10-2016 06:24PM

TICKLE_ME_ELMO wrote: »

swiwi_ wrote: »

I mean the whole extent of paying the respects, the wake, the removal etc.

Maybe it's more of a catholic thing than an Irish thing.

It's hard to explain but it's just not the same in NZ nor in Switzerland. Nor in France where I've also lived.

I suppose most people on the forum have probably only lived for long periods in Ireland, but I really really noticed it when I lived in Ireland. Especially in cork when we lived there.

Once again not a criticism just an observation.

Tell you what I find strange is in the UK how sometimes it can be anything up to two weeks before a funeral happens.

Different cultures I suppose. I think in the Muslim world funerals take place within hours...at least that's how it feels when you see the latest victims of a bombing being buried in the Middle East.

I've always assumed the reason for the delay in GB was just down to population size. More people live there so more people die and therefore it takes longer to arrange things.

zambrotta11 · 21-10-2016 07:01PM

awec wrote: »

Removal is mostly just a catholic thing.

I am a catholic and I never heard of removals until I started living down south. At home we always bring the body to chapel the morning of the funeral just in time for the mass.

Zzippy · 21-10-2016 07:04PM

zambrotta11 wrote: »

I am a catholic and I never heard of removals until I started living down south. At home we always bring the body to chapel the morning of the funeral just in time for the mass.

Removals are more common in Dublin, most funerals I've been to in rural Ireland involved the wake in the house the evening before and bringing the body to the church on the morning of the funeral. Can only recall one or two removals to the church the evening before.

phog · 21-10-2016 07:52PM

Zzippy wrote: »

Removals are more common in Dublin, most funerals I've been to in rural Ireland involved the wake in the house the evening before and bringing the body to the church on the morning of the funeral. Can only recall one or two removals to the church the evening before.

In the mid West and Sth West we've always had removals, originally from a house to the church for evening prayers and Mass with burial the following day, funeral homes became popular in the late 70s but it seems people are drifting back to keeping the remains in the home now until removal to the church on the day of the burial/cremation.

In West Clare where a village might not have a funeral home they've started using the local church for the reposing & evening prayers with the requiem Mass the following day.

TICKLE_ME_ELMO · 21-10-2016 08:00PM

The 3 day Catholic thing is to do with Jesus rising on the 3rd day and ascending into heaven.... I think. The wake comes from a morbid fear people had at one point of being buried alive so someone had to sit with the body in case it would wake up. I think removals vs going from home to the church is just dependant on where you live. One of my grandparents, in a rural area, was at home until the morning of the funeral. The nearest funeral home was about 30 minutes away. My other grandparents who lived in a fairly big town were both taken from the funeral home to the church the night before. 5 minute walk from the house to the home and 5 minutes the other way to the church. They lived in a tiny terrace house that would barely fit the imidiate family in it, never mind a string of neighbours and friends.

Podge_irl · 21-10-2016 10:14PM

I've not been to many "country" funerals but the removals in Dublin have been very different affairs. As far as I can gather the filing past the family after the removal in the church is purely a Dublin thing?

TeoReid · 22-10-2016 07:15AM

Podge_irl wrote: »

I've not been to many "country" funerals but the removals in Dublin have been very different affairs. As far as I can gather the filing past the family after the removal in the church is purely a Dublin thing?

Not just a Dublin thing

Felix Jones is God · 22-10-2016 07:31AM

Podge_irl wrote: »

I've not been to many "country" funerals but the removals in Dublin have been very different affairs. As far as I can gather the filing past the family after the removal in the church is purely a Dublin thing?

No, standard procedure in Kerry

TICKLE_ME_ELMO · 23-10-2016 10:51AM

Sometimes I really wish we could call people names on here. Not really nasty ones just the occasional "you plank!" or "you illiterate **** weasel".

Just sometimes.

Felix Jones is God · 23-10-2016 10:52AM

TICKLE_ME_ELMO wrote: »

Sometimes I really wish we could call people names on here. Not really nasty ones just the occasional "you plank!" or "you illiterate **** weasel".

Just sometimes.

You'd have been bombed out of it yesterday if that was the case!

Buer · 23-10-2016 11:15AM

zambrotta11 wrote: »

I am a catholic and I never heard of removals until I started living down south. At home we always bring the body to chapel the morning of the funeral just in time for the mass.

That's becoming more commonplace now and will continue to do so as priests just aren't as readily available for a service the night before as well as the funeral mass itself.

At my father's funeral, the priest couldn't even come to the burial! First time I had ever seen that but it was a Saturday and he had baptisms and a wedding to get done on the day also.

Felix Jones is God · 23-10-2016 05:37PM

Think I'm due another name change....if only to get off some people's block list for a day or 2

Dave_The_Sheep · 24-10-2016 02:01AM

Felix Jones is God wrote: »

Think I'm due another name change....if only to get off some people's block list for a day or 2

Felix Jones is Yahweh isn't quite up to the mark to be fair.

Filthy casual.

thomond2006 · 24-10-2016 11:25AM

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http://imgur.com/Tq7oWd4

P_1 · 24-10-2016 01:41PM

thomond2006 wrote: »

A link for you podge_irl!

http://imgur.com/Tq7oWd4

That was certainly for the purists

Synode · 24-10-2016 01:44PM

Any context on it?

thomond2006 · 24-10-2016 01:46PM

Synode wrote: »

Any context on it?

Seahawks missed a short distance field goal to win the game in overtime. The Cardinals had hit the post earlier from a similar distance. Normal time was a non-event (3-3), but overtime turned out to be quite an event!

Podge_irl · 24-10-2016 02:25PM

thomond2006 wrote: »

A link for you podge_irl!

http://imgur.com/Tq7oWd4

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TeoReid · 24-10-2016 05:44PM

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sullivlo · 25-10-2016 04:05AM

TeoReid wrote: »

on the topic of nfl, their youtube channel really is excellent.

As is the lip reading version of NFL

thomond2006 · 26-10-2016 02:09PM

Podge_irl wrote: »

Thanks. Need something to cheer me up this NFL season...

Who are you a fan of? I'm by default a Bears fan so....

dregin · 26-10-2016 06:16PM

Some shops in the north doing £1 for €1. Shops along the border are gonna take a hammering coming up to Christmas.

Podge_irl · 26-10-2016 06:19PM

thomond2006 wrote: »

Podge_irl wrote: »

Thanks. Need something to cheer me up this NFL season...

Who are you a fan of? I'm by default a Bears fan so....

9ers. Was a fun few years a while back...

Seahawks looking like fools about the only enjoyment I can get these days!

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