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Bad omens on a first date?

  • 27-06-2016 10:27AM
    #1
    rjpf1980
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭


    For me the two most obvious ones are

    1. When she lets people pass between us or walks on the opposite side of street lights and other obstacles when we are walking down the street.

    2. She does not put her phone down when we are having a conversation.

    For me these are a canary in the coalmine that she is not interested and I say a polite "Nice meeting you" and leave and go right back onto the dating app to see who else is interested. :D

    What about you guys and girls?


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  • #2
    AnonoBoy
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    The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
    The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    For me the two most obvious ones are

    1. When she lets people pass between us or walks on the opposite side of street lights and other obstacles when we are walking down the street.

    2. She does not put her phone down when we are having a conversation.

    For me these are a canary in the coalmine that she is not interested and I say a polite "Nice meeting you" and leave and go right back onto the dating app to see who else is interested. :D

    What about you guys and girls?

    There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

    :)


  • #4
    MRnotlob606
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,642 ✭✭✭MRnotlob606


    When shes wearing fishnets on her hands and doing handstands on the table


  • #5
    Duggy747
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    When she starts scratching her balls :(


  • #6
    rjpf1980
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭rjpf1980


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
    The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.

    Well if they are rude or if I've completely bored them then what's the point? There's no spark. Best to end it as soon as possible in the nicest possible way and go.

    The first is not superstition! :D I mean on another date another woman might take my arm or I would have my arm on the small of her back. If she is cool with that usually she is into me. I have always found that when a woman is more concerned with weaving around people and things in the way she is probably not interested over all.


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  • #7
    Winterlong
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    When after a good night out she takes you home. But her mother is there and says 'You know my Mary has 3 kids already....well play your cards right and we will say the last one is yours'.


  • #8
    rjpf1980
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭rjpf1980


    MRnotlob606 wrote: »
    When shes wearing fishnets on her hands and doing handstands on the table

    That is a bad sign alright. :)


  • #9
    Speedwell
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    The walking thing? Only matters if you are already joined at the hip. I wouldn't give it a second thought unless she does other things to deliberately snub you.

    The phone thing? Ordinary bad manners. Most people can multitask, though occasionally you get one like my husband, who seems to be incapable of holding a normal conversation while the TV is on, although he insists that he can hear me talking and is holding up his end (he's not). If she's not capable of multitasking, or if she seems to be using the phone to avoid uncomfortable subjects (what uncomfortable subjects would you be addressing on a first date anyway?), then it's something to think about. I would find it uncomfortable to feel like I was "less than" my date's texting friends or phoning family. Even doctors can put their phones in their pockets, ffs.


  • #10
    Alf Stewart.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,789 ✭✭✭Alf Stewart.


    When her names Damien.


  • #11
    rjpf1980
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭rjpf1980


    Speedwell wrote: »
    The walking thing? Only matters if you are already joined at the hip. I wouldn't give it a second thought unless she does other things to deliberately snub you.

    There is either a spark of attraction or there isn't. There's no in between. Just my opinion.
    The phone thing? Ordinary bad manners. Most people can multitask, though occasionally you get one like my husband, who seems to be incapable of holding a normal conversation while the TV is on, although he insists that he can hear me talking and is holding up his end (he's not). If she's not capable of multitasking, or if she seems to be using the phone to avoid uncomfortable subjects (what uncomfortable subjects would you be addressing on a first date anyway?), then it's something to think about. I would find it uncomfortable to feel like I was "less than" my date's texting friends or phoning family. Even doctors can put their phones in their pockets, ffs.

    Well for me its an absolute give away that she isn't interested. So I get up and go.


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  • #12
    Speedwell
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    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    There is either a spark of attraction or there isn't. There's no in between. Just my opinion.

    Well for me its an absolute give away that she isn't interested. So I get up and go.

    Sounds like you've already made up your mind. Very well, then you should proceed on that basis.


  • #13
    wakka12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,786 ✭✭✭wakka12


    I don't know about things like the street light stuff..but I think its just easy to tell if a date is into you or not. They'll make plenty of eye contact, ask questions or give nice long answers to your questions, smile a lot, body language will be open to you..You will feel warm around them.

    Not in every single case, Ive gone on dates where I didnt think they liked me but asked me out again. But generally, with most people , I think the above list is quite accurate.


  • #14
    hairyslug
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    When she doesn't look anything like her photo


  • #15
    FizzleSticks
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    This post has been deleted.


  • #16
    biko
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    When she takes one look at you as you walk in, and skulls her entire pint.


  • #17
    pickarooney
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    Ah Jasis, you scared away AnonoBoy OP. That's the worst omen of all.


  • #18
    s4uv3
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    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

    :)

    Different thread topics though. This one is particularly about "bad omens on a first date". A lighthearted, funny thread if I take the op up correctly.


  • #19
    s4uv3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 952 ✭✭✭s4uv3


    I went on a date once with a guy who described all about what his ideal girlfriend was like.
    Nothing like me :pac:


  • #20
    Miguel_Sanchez
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,417 ✭✭✭Miguel_Sanchez


    pickarooney wrote: »
    Ah Jasis, you scared away AnonoBoy OP. That's the worst omen of all.

    Just like Roy Keane he's had to go back to his home planet.


  • #21
    shamrock2004
    Closed Accounts Posts: 603 ✭✭✭shamrock2004


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
    The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.

    Why did she not just make up an excuse to leave instead of sitting there looking at her mobile?


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  • #22
    Mr. Farage
    Closed Accounts Posts: 190 ✭✭Mr. Farage


    When you bring up the subject of anal and she walks out the door.


  • #23
    Robsweezie
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    Rude to the service staff.


  • #24
    messy tessy
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    When he says "let's share dessert!" I think "let's never see each other again!"


  • #25
    Get Real
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    Robsweezie wrote: »
    Rude to the service staff.

    Boom. This. No matter who you are this is a huge reflection on your personality regardless.

    I have on occasion been places with large groups and certain people would be as nice as pie talking to the group and then a sudden cold, condescending and angry tone to waiters etc.

    I always think :confused: why the sudden bi***iness to someone you don't even know and who is being polite to you?

    Suffice to say I keep a distance. I don't even think they realise they're doing it, and their lack of respect to other human beings is a huge insight into their inner thoughts and personality.

    On a date, and this happens, I drop her. Even new acquaintances, lads etc, I stay polite but would't be overly eager to be associated.


  • #26
    Shint0
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

    :)
    Not anymore, there isn't. It went to the bad, apparently :o


  • #27
    wakka12
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    s4uv3 wrote: »
    I went on a date once with a guy who described all about what his ideal girlfriend was like.
    Nothing like me :pac:

    A guy I went on a date did this too, he told me I was cute and stuff lots of times during the evening but I was very from his ideal..couldnt help but be a bit offended still :pac:
    He had asked me my type before his said his and I went with generic answers so as not to cause offence but he didnt care too much about people's feelings haha


  • #28
    ampleforth
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    When she complains about her ex for 30 minutes before the movie starts... and I give it back to her by making funny nose sounds during the movie ("Perfume") ... never saw a woman run so fast to a taxi afterwards :D


  • #29
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 36,032 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    Mr. Farage wrote: »
    When you bring up the subject of anal and she walks out the door.

    And comes back with a strap on


  • #30
    Cina
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,395 ✭✭✭Cina


    ampleforth wrote: »
    When she complains about her ex for 30 minutes before the movie starts... and I give it back to her by making funny nose sounds during the movie ("Perfume") ... never saw a woman run so fast to a taxi afterwards :D
    Cinema on a first date?

    Amateur.


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  • #31
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    When she is easy enough to force into the back of the van....

    .....I always prefer them feisty


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