Bad omens on a first date?

rjpf1980

For me the two most obvious ones are

1. When she lets people pass between us or walks on the opposite side of street lights and other obstacles when we are walking down the street.

2. She does not put her phone down when we are having a conversation.

For me these are a canary in the coalmine that she is not interested and I say a polite "Nice meeting you" and leave and go right back onto the dating app to see who else is interested.

What about you guys and girls?

AnonoBoy

The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.

rjpf1980

rjpf1980 wrote: »

For me the two most obvious ones are

1. When she lets people pass between us or walks on the opposite side of street lights and other obstacles when we are walking down the street.

2. She does not put her phone down when we are having a conversation.

For me these are a canary in the coalmine that she is not interested and I say a polite "Nice meeting you" and leave and go right back onto the dating app to see who else is interested.

What about you guys and girls?

There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

MRnotlob606

When shes wearing fishnets on her hands and doing handstands on the table

Duggy747

When she starts scratching her balls

rjpf1980

AnonoBoy wrote: »

The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.

Well if they are rude or if I've completely bored them then what's the point? There's no spark. Best to end it as soon as possible in the nicest possible way and go.

The first is not superstition! I mean on another date another woman might take my arm or I would have my arm on the small of her back. If she is cool with that usually she is into me. I have always found that when a woman is more concerned with weaving around people and things in the way she is probably not interested over all.

Winterlong

When after a good night out she takes you home. But her mother is there and says 'You know my Mary has 3 kids already....well play your cards right and we will say the last one is yours'.

rjpf1980

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

When shes wearing fishnets on her hands and doing handstands on the table

That is a bad sign alright.

Speedwell

The walking thing? Only matters if you are already joined at the hip. I wouldn't give it a second thought unless she does other things to deliberately snub you.

The phone thing? Ordinary bad manners. Most people can multitask, though occasionally you get one like my husband, who seems to be incapable of holding a normal conversation while the TV is on, although he insists that he can hear me talking and is holding up his end (he's not). If she's not capable of multitasking, or if she seems to be using the phone to avoid uncomfortable subjects (what uncomfortable subjects would you be addressing on a first date anyway?), then it's something to think about. I would find it uncomfortable to feel like I was "less than" my date's texting friends or phoning family. Even doctors can put their phones in their pockets, ffs.

Alf Stewart.

When her names Damien.

rjpf1980

Speedwell wrote: »

The walking thing? Only matters if you are already joined at the hip. I wouldn't give it a second thought unless she does other things to deliberately snub you.

There is either a spark of attraction or there isn't. There's no in between. Just my opinion.

The phone thing? Ordinary bad manners. Most people can multitask, though occasionally you get one like my husband, who seems to be incapable of holding a normal conversation while the TV is on, although he insists that he can hear me talking and is holding up his end (he's not). If she's not capable of multitasking, or if she seems to be using the phone to avoid uncomfortable subjects (what uncomfortable subjects would you be addressing on a first date anyway?), then it's something to think about. I would find it uncomfortable to feel like I was "less than" my date's texting friends or phoning family. Even doctors can put their phones in their pockets, ffs.

Well for me its an absolute give away that she isn't interested. So I get up and go.

Speedwell

rjpf1980 wrote: »

There is either a spark of attraction or there isn't. There's no in between. Just my opinion.

Well for me its an absolute give away that she isn't interested. So I get up and go.

Sounds like you've already made up your mind. Very well, then you should proceed on that basis.

wakka12

I don't know about things like the street light stuff..but I think its just easy to tell if a date is into you or not. They'll make plenty of eye contact, ask questions or give nice long answers to your questions, smile a lot, body language will be open to you..You will feel warm around them.

Not in every single case, Ive gone on dates where I didnt think they liked me but asked me out again. But generally, with most people , I think the above list is quite accurate.

hairyslug

When she doesn't look anything like her photo

FizzleSticks

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biko

When she takes one look at you as you walk in, and skulls her entire pint.

pickarooney

Ah Jasis, you scared away AnonoBoy OP. That's the worst omen of all.

s4uv3

[Deleted User] wrote: »

There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

Different thread topics though. This one is particularly about "bad omens on a first date". A lighthearted, funny thread if I take the op up correctly.

s4uv3

I went on a date once with a guy who described all about what his ideal girlfriend was like.
Nothing like me :pac:

Miguel_Sanchez

pickarooney wrote: »

Ah Jasis, you scared away AnonoBoy OP. That's the worst omen of all.

Just like Roy Keane he's had to go back to his home planet.

shamrock2004

AnonoBoy wrote: »

The first one sounds like a silly superstition.
The second one isn't a bad omen, that's just someone who's rude or you've completely bored.

Why did she not just make up an excuse to leave instead of sitting there looking at her mobile?

Mr. Farage

When you bring up the subject of anal and she walks out the door.

Robsweezie

Rude to the service staff.

messy tessy

When he says "let's share dessert!" I think "let's never see each other again!"

Get Real

Robsweezie wrote: »

Rude to the service staff.

Boom. This. No matter who you are this is a huge reflection on your personality regardless.

I have on occasion been places with large groups and certain people would be as nice as pie talking to the group and then a sudden cold, condescending and angry tone to waiters etc.

I always think why the sudden bi***iness to someone you don't even know and who is being polite to you?

Suffice to say I keep a distance. I don't even think they realise they're doing it, and their lack of respect to other human beings is a huge insight into their inner thoughts and personality.

On a date, and this happens, I drop her. Even new acquaintances, lads etc, I stay polite but would't be overly eager to be associated.

Shint0

Deleted User wrote: »

There's a dating thread already here OP where we discuss the various aspects of dating. I can't link to it right now. Stupid phone.

Not anymore, there isn't. It went to the bad, apparently

wakka12

s4uv3 wrote: »

I went on a date once with a guy who described all about what his ideal girlfriend was like.
Nothing like me :pac:

A guy I went on a date did this too, he told me I was cute and stuff lots of times during the evening but I was very from his ideal..couldnt help but be a bit offended still :pac:
He had asked me my type before his said his and I went with generic answers so as not to cause offence but he didnt care too much about people's feelings haha

ampleforth

When she complains about her ex for 30 minutes before the movie starts... and I give it back to her by making funny nose sounds during the movie ("Perfume") ... never saw a woman run so fast to a taxi afterwards

pickarooney

Mr. Farage wrote: »

When you bring up the subject of anal and she walks out the door.

And comes back with a strap on

Cina

ampleforth wrote: »

When she complains about her ex for 30 minutes before the movie starts... and I give it back to her by making funny nose sounds during the movie ("Perfume") ... never saw a woman run so fast to a taxi afterwards

Cinema on a first date?

Amateur.

When she is easy enough to force into the back of the van....

.....I always prefer them feisty

KikiDee

Robsweezie wrote: »

Rude to the service staff.

Huge +1 to this!

Also, when he tells you he models himself on Fr Jack Hackett...just why??

Cina

KikiDee wrote: »

Also, when he tells you he models himself on Fr Jack Hackett...just why??

that's alarmingly specific.

kupus

When she says ...she thinks she loves you already....
Make like Christ on a bike. Pedal. Pedal fast and don't look back it doesn't matter if they look like the best thing since sliced bread. Just get the hell out of dodge.

KikiDee

Cina wrote: »

that's alarmingly specific.

You know what's worse?? I actually stayed for the rest of the date

Boom_Bap

'Lie on this alter and give your allegiance to satan'

It happens alot more than you would think.:D

corner of hells

Get Real wrote: »

Boom. This. No matter who you are this is a huge reflection on your personality regardless.

I have on occasion been places with large groups and certain people would be as nice as pie talking to the group and then a sudden cold, condescending and angry tone to waiters etc.

I always think why the sudden bi***iness to someone you don't even know and who is being polite to you?

Suffice to say I keep a distance. I don't even think they realise they're doing it, and their lack of respect to other human beings is a huge insight into their inner thoughts and personality.

On a date, and this happens, I drop her. Even new acquaintances, lads etc, I stay polite but would't be overly eager to be associated.

When she uses "boom" in conversation.

KikiDee

corner of hells wrote: »

When she uses "boom" in conversation.

Doesn't make your heart go boom no?? Couldn't resist

RayM

When she flags down a passing taxi, jumps in and says "Drive, just fuckin' drive!"

Boom_Bap

corner of hells wrote: »

When she uses "boom" in conversation.

She can use me any way she wants.

mickmackmcgoo

When her phone beeps and she casually tells you her mother and one of her friends are on the way to join ye for a drink !

GavRedKing

When they turn up and say "Isnt it weird that we're either going to end up together for the rest of our lives or we might never see each other again, lets hope its the first one"

Eeeeeehhhhhhhhhh.

corner of hells

Boom_Bap wrote: »

She can use me any way she wants.

If she got "bap" in the conversation as well I might be impressed , well no I wouldn't actually.

ampleforth

Cina wrote: »

Cinema on a first date?

Amateur.

I was young...

selastich2

When they bring their ex

smash

"I can be a bit of a c*nt when I get drunk"

She didn't dissapoint.

anitaca

messy tessy wrote: »

When he says "let's share dessert!" I think "let's never see each other again!"

you're not into romance

s4uv3

anitaca wrote: »

you're not into romance

Nuh uh. Romance is staying the fcuk away from my hot choc fudge brownie thank you very much :pac:

livedadream

brown shoes and a black suit hahaha i kid i kid...
worst one for me was meeting in a cafe where i knew the owner, he clicked his fingers to get the waitresses attention.

took all my might not to get up and leave that instant.

ToddyDoody

When they give out to you, probably not good.

nkav86

livedadream wrote:

brown shoes and a black suit hahaha i kid i kid... worst one for me was meeting in a cafe where i knew the owner, he clicked his fingers to get the waitresses attention.

Hate brown shoes! Besides that, the rudeness to staff drives me crazy, clicking fingers is the height of ignorance dunno how you managed to stay! Had a girl once that didn't know who Jane Austen was or any of the books, even the films, not a huge issue but said a lot about our compatibility for me