Stubborn single mother who won't get a boyfriend. Anyone else in the same situation?

Dslatt

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120134900#Comment_120134900

Yes, yes they should. I will if I need to when the time comes.

Sardonicat

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120135124#Comment_120135124

But you don't have kids? And you're talking about a 2 hour drive to do a few jobs around your mother's house , not becoming a full time carer.

And as I've said before, plenty people do make sacrifices, houses can be put on the market, parents can move in with kids., etc. It's amazing that some will always find a way to be there and everyone else finds excuses.

Do whatever you're able is what I advised in my last post. I fail to see how a bit of DIY is affecting you beyond inconvenience

fatbhoy

Get her one of them robots for her birthday.

bb1234567

Why do you think an elderly man will be any more able bodied in old age than your mum? And early 60's is really very young to not be able to do routine chores on the grounds of 'age related health problems'. Probably just down to lack of fitness and care for health more likely.

sprucemoose

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058280398/stubborn-single-mother-who-wont-get-a-boyfriend-anyone-else-in-the-same-situation

theres a documentary that came out recently that might help you with this OP, good luck leo grande i think it was called

TooTired123

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120135192#Comment_120135192

First of all you’re confusing me with the OP for some reason?

Secondly are you seriously suggesting that and adult with dependent school going children could sell their house uproot their children and move 2 hours away to look after a parent in their sixties? You obviously have a very sketchy grasp of reality for the vast amount of people

TooTired123

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120135140#Comment_120135140

So you will abandon your own children and all your bills and commitments and throw yourself into being a full time carer? How does your partner feel about this?

Count Dracula

Op was thinking about your beleagured bereft Ma there today?

Are you sure a fella is what she is after?

Listen, cards on the table here, I am happy to get her out of the gaff for a couple of days a month if that is what you think she might be into? Do you have any iota what cooks her buns, is she looking after herself, I am not that fussy, but I have my reputation as a supernatural mythical vampire to uphold?

it's tough out there. I would be nice to see her finding someone she can rely on.

Can she drive? I would be needing a lift? What type of jammer does she have?

Tell her I find Tracy Ullman funny, it might help a bit? Actually if you could ask her to dress like her as well, ta.

John Hume once said about the Unionists, 'If you removed the word "No" from the English language, they'd be speechless'.

Alas, it's a similar situation with an enormous number of women in 2023: if they can't play the martrydom and victim cards, they'd be speechless.

Stop enabling "the mother". Ignore the "poor, helpless me" martyrdom. Like so many men, you create work for yourself by putting out self-created fires by a woman. Say 'No', stick by it, and she'll suddenly find other ways to sort things out. If all other men said 'No', you've got yourself a full boycott and the woman will be forced to explore her inner genius and inner strength which is, of course, enormous going by all the times they say this in the media to themselves!

She's perfectly capable of sorting these things out herself as a liberated woman in our society where men and women are equal - just as you had to learn to make dinner, wash your clothes, etc - oh, the oppression! - she has to learn to fix leaks, lawnmowers and other things. The "equality" agenda doesn't just go one way!

Jim_Hodge

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120141475#Comment_120141475

Considering the mother involved didn't even tell the OP she was in hospital, it doesn't sound like she's playing any martyr card at all. You seem to be projecting way beyond the situation being discussed.

Graces7

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120141601#Comment_120141601

Interesting and revealing isn't it! But then the best form of defence they say IS attack..

80 this year here and capable of most things around house etc. So that if and when I do absolutely NEED help it will be given more willingly. And I give help with things I can help with. Life is a partnership.

Jim_Hodge

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120143729#Comment_120143729

Not particularly.

Graces7

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120143814#Comment_120143814

Lol!

Deja Boo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120141475#Comment_120141475

Dafuq you just say?

Graces7

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120135333#Comment_120135333

Almost 80 here and with significant physical disability and I do all my own housework and gardening. A question of not using it leads to losing it. It is excellent exercise and very satisfying to see the home attractive

I don;t need a man cluttering up the place needlessly