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Stubborn single mother who won't get a boyfriend. Anyone else in the same situation?

  • 19-01-2023 8:11pm
    Registered Users Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭JackieChang

    When I head home to visit the mother there's always something that needs fixing. Leaky tap or a bit of something stuck in the lawn mower. Something needs screwing into the wall or whatever.

    I don't mind doing it when I'm visiting but when I'm not there she'll just deal with all the problems until the next time myself or the brother is around.

    One of the times she did try to fix a problem herself she fell off a chair and broke a rib. The thing is she didn't tell me this happened until I called a few days later for a catchup and she said "oh by the way I'm in the hospital".

    I'm always telling her to get a boyfriend but she says she's too set in her single life ways and doesn't want to be disturbed. She's not ancient or anything and can still go on dating sites or to the pub etc. Early 60s. She often has bachelors hitting on her. She's just stubborn and set in her ways.

    But I often think 20 years into the future when a fall could mean guaranteed death or she needs help bringing the shopping in from the car. I'll probably have my own little ones to deal with and won't have time to come down for visits that often.

    Would it be mean if I said to her: "Listen if you don't get a boyfriend, I'm going to be sending you to a nursing home when you're 70."

    What do you think?