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  • 19-12-2022 9:55pm
    Registered Users Posts: 24 jay432

    I'm an attractive Irish woman who cannot get a date. Everyone keeps asking me how am i single and I dont know why. i am constantly matching people and they never talk or ask me out. I have also dated numerous men for months and then they ghost me or say they dont want a relationship. I dont know what to do?!

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  • Registered Users Posts: 778 ✭✭✭ Breezy_

    You must do something...ask the exs for feedback. Or ask a blunt friend for a straight answer? Do you start hassle over nothing? To serious straight away, no fun? Expectations to high? Give and take? Show interest? If you're looking a long time it's you and not them....What age are ya, you should be able to figure it out...fixing it though is another thing....people don't really change.

    OOOoor you just haven't met the right person...

    Do you write the people you match with or wait??????

    Do you approach people in real life....proactive?

  • Registered Users Posts: 7,981 ✭✭✭ riclad

    Maybe you are matching with immature men who just want to have casual sex or are not ready for a serious relationship

    Or maybe you are too serious or maybe too smart eg some men are put off by a woman who is strong intelligent with her own career

    There want someone sexy who is not their intellectual equal or you be more successful in your career than the average man

    Men sometimes want to be in charge and not be challenged in any way

    Even if they say theybelieve in feminism

    See the old 70s song Don't go changing by Barry White

    Eg I don't want smart conversation

    I don't want to work that hard

    I just want someone I can talk to

    End quote

    Eg he does not want a woman or girlfriend who is smarter than him he wants just to relax and chill out

    Maybe write in to newstalk I'm only an adult Sean moncrief show and you might get good advice

    Most relationships are not completely 50 ,50

    There's usually someone who is stronger or in charge of things like where to go out to what programs to watch

    Also some people work hard so when they get home they just want to relax

    Watch TV not go out etc

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,536 ✭✭✭ Ubbquittious

    I will go on a date with you.

    Tinder has gone besh1t since covid. Or else I have got fierce ugly relative to everyone else on there, not sure which

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,704 ✭✭✭ sniperman

    those online dating sites have alot of scammers and fakes,i met a good few,

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  • Registered Users Posts: 778 ✭✭✭ Breezy_

    The other thread looks decent actually and OP back months later starting another. OP is the problem.

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,536 ✭✭✭ Ubbquittious

  • Registered Users Posts: 64 ✭✭ Commoner

    Guys will often go for younger ladies. I won't go into the detail but a 30 year old woman goes for a 30 year old man, but he's probably looking for someone that's 24-26; that same guy would have jumped through hoops for the same woman when they were both 25 though.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 12,119 ✭✭✭✭ Purple Mountain

    I think the answer to your problem lies in the title..

    Why are you limiting yourself to only meeting men online?

    What happened to trying to meet people in real life?

    To thine own self be true

  • Registered Users Posts: 140 ✭✭ The Real President Trump

    Factors are :


    Meanness / generosity,

    Your effort in bed - lying there is the death knell - you must be interactive - oral is a requiremet - you must do it without having to be asked. Also dress attractively / wear lingerie

    Think of all the things you want well they should also be all the things you are providing

  • Registered Users Posts: 155 ✭✭ I Blame Sheeple

    Ever think maybe you're just beat down.

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,422 ✭✭✭ Mister Vain

    You say you can't get a date yet you've dated numerous men for months? 🤔

    Also if you're constantly matching people and they're not asking you out, then you could try asking them out.

  • Registered Users Posts: 236 ✭✭ Ruxjit

    What are the best sites for online dating now? Tinder is full of Instagram influencer wannabe, which is fine but I'm not into it. Plenty of fish used to be good 10 years ago there used to be some genuine women there looking for relationships, all the dating sites feel very scammy now.

  • Registered Users Posts: 11,734 ✭✭✭✭ Dial Hard

    Bumble is the only one I'd bother with these days. Met my better half on it back in April.

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,422 ✭✭✭ Mister Vain

    Hinge is the better one from my experience. Bumble and Tinder just seem to be an extension of Instagram.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 11,466 ✭✭✭✭ Thelonious Monk

    I'd imagine "low tier" women have as much of a hard time too no? Blanking and humiliating the other sex isn't exclusive to women either. Chin up!

  • Registered Users Posts: 778 ✭✭✭ Breezy_

    They're all sh1te. Slightly different shades of it.

    Hinge is only different by letting you like a particular picture and comment. Otherwise same, same faces. Bumble will at least save you time by putting a clock on her. Most girls have notifications turned off as they're talking to multiple guys and don't wanna get caught out so they regularly miss the clock.

    Sure if ya live in a city try blindlee and Thursday app aswell.

    They all work passively for ya so if you're looking for luvvvvv. May aswell.

  • Registered Users Posts: 528 ✭✭✭ Esho

    Holy moly! Really?

    There is a Netflix miniseries in that.

    Hillwalking clubs _Breezy,if you have half a day at the weekend. You'll never meet an eejit on the side of a mountain, plenty of time to talk too.

  • Registered Users Posts: 26,561 ✭✭✭✭ Wanderer78

    get off the internet, online dating is truly awful, clubs and interests will probably yield better results, best of luck

  • Registered Users Posts: 778 ✭✭✭ Breezy_

    Would you believe i actually heard a guy on iradio doing thes....muddy soles or something it was called. I got on to him and i was outside his age cut cut off was like, for example 36, i was 37.

    I see some on meetup but the attendance does be like "3 people are going" most meetup groups within 60km of me are like that.

  • you gave up at 25? if you wanted to be a sports success or a job success would you give up so early. how many dates before 25

    it was a pretty mean thing the woman did i agree

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,724 ✭✭✭ pgj2015

    Did he leave? why would he I wouldn't. let her leave. You sure it wasn't the woman that was autistic?

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