online dating

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120024826#Comment_120024826

I don’t get why older women wanting kids bothers people. Like, nobody is forcing you to date them.

She would be ideally going for somebody late 40s early 50s who hasn’t had kids but wants them and doesn’t really have a shot with a younger woman where there would be less risk of issues, so a shot with her is a shot nonetheless.

Actually a good thread could be funniest dating profiles but with all identity redacted. Just the wording.

Iseedeadpixels

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025405#Comment_120025405

www.reddit.com/r/tinder is what you need 😆

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025346#Comment_120025346

It doesn't bother me that they want them mid 40s but I'm just surprised by it, is it not a bad idea to be having kids at that age?

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025004#Comment_120025004

I think you are over thinking that. I just see them at a wedding.

yourdeadwright

Online dating is mostly only good for one thing & that's getting a ride,

We all know couples who last & even have kids & are married off it but the majority of men & women are just on it to get the leg over, once you know that and are happy with it then it does the job , Well that my experience from 6 months about 6 years ago on it, Broke up with my long term partner for a year & had a go at it ,

The thing i found fascintianting was you could hook up with women of all ages & walks of life some people you'd never approach in a pub or club as they are not your "type "

Actually made me realise there so many sound people out there ,

pgj2015

It's good for getting a pen pal now I think.

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120024989#Comment_120024989

This one is even worse. I like how she misspelt intelligent. 😁

yourdeadwright

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120026054#Comment_120026054

Maybe its just me but ,I really dislike people sharing other peoples profiles on dating sites,

There for other people using the site ,seems like a bit of invasion of privacy , no need to share them ,

pgj2015

The aggressive profiles are so off putting. Anyone who engages with someone with an aggressive demanding profile deserves everything they get.

I remember one where the Profile was an essay of the things she hated in a man. She had a go at people with pictures of them hiking, she said something like lads you aren't fooling anyone I know you are a fat mess so stop pretending you are a hiker, it wasn't a joke as her whole profile was just so bitter and angry.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025832#Comment_120025832

She might have frozen her eggs, making it fine. Otherwise it’s risky, alright by the time she’s meet somebody and enough time had passed she’d be 45. But I know people who have done it, some just needed some ivf help. And each to their own. Probably best to have a kid solo at that stage rather than waiting for a man I reckon.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120026132#Comment_120026132

See lots of those - but it’s good because it’s a nice warning not to swipe on that person! Negativity is horrible - drama queens (male or female) are a no thank you

Thelonious Monk

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120019387#Comment_120019387

I would say I find way more than 80% of women unattractive too though, would everyone else not be the same? Most people are bet down let's face it.

Greyfox

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120026341#Comment_120026341

The vast majority of men can't afford to be that choosy.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025839#Comment_120025839

Ah yeah, it’s only really when the person seeking love or legover is the actual bride/bridegroom in the picture 😂

I always ensure my profile reflects the warm funny adventurous side of me, and it doesn’t challenge others to meet with dictated standards, if there’s basic decency, not too much unresolved baggage, and a spark, that’s enough. Plenty of updated pics, I have a policy of never having a pic more than 15 months old, and main picture is always within previous 6 months. I state that I have a stoma, and therefor guys are self-selecting and I’ve not had an issue with any of that.

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120026341#Comment_120026341

No I'd think you'd have to be fairly fussy to find over 80% of them unattractive, although it depends on the app. I probably swipe right on 95% of the profiles on Bumble. Maybe the algorithm is just giving me the Instagram models, but there seems to be no shortage of attractive women on it. I'd say Hinge is about 50/50, not as many attractive women but I get a lot more matches on it.

ManyMondays

I deleted the apps, Ive been on so many dates with men I clicked with, they seemed really interested and insisted they wanted to see me again then poof they ghosted! or they'll text sporadically on instagram or whatever and arrange a date but when the day arrives to meet up they go radio silent, I can no longer deal with men in their 30's and their silly mixed messages and not knowing what they want.

Most of the men I know who are in relationships are with women that are like their mothers and do everything for them while they go off like little teenagers with their mates down the pub and chatting up other women hoping that *mammy* at home wont find out. Allot of men end up with women much older than them because they literally want a mammy figure to rub their tummy's and wash their jocks!

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120019270#Comment_120019270

Its much easier for men to get a date than it is for women, its still a bit of a stigma for women to ask a man out, allot of men dont respond well to being asked out as they often times assume the woman is looking for sex and they let their mind run away with itself and start thinking the girl is a desperate sl*t (because allot of men still view women that way) or they think theyre gods gift & treat her terribly, it generally never ends well for the woman so women dont ask men out that often. A man making any effort is a rarity so if a man asks you out on a proper date, it seperates him from all the other men that just want a pen pal or who are half assed so generally, the men who ask women out on dates get allot of dates, unless the man has something obviously unappealing about him but even then, he's likely to get atleast some dates.

cj maxx

They’re all shite. You’re better off dressing well and hitting Coppers or some pick-up joint. This fad of online dating will be passé soon .

Greyfox

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027200#Comment_120027200

It's easier for women to get dates, this is widely accepted as a fact. For women it's finding a spark with someone that wants more than the leg over that's the challenge. The most common outcome of dates is still had a nice chat but no spark.

thegame983

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120026341#Comment_120026341

Still would though.

Greyfox

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027292#Comment_120027292

I'd rather stand in the snow in my underwear than go to Coppers again. Online dating will never go away, it's tedious, shallow and time consuming but it's the only guarenteed way to get a few dates in a month

Thelonious Monk

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027400#Comment_120027400

use bumble, it's a conveyor belt of vadge wanting to be asked out

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120024989#Comment_120024989

How Judith intends to survive on €70 worth of petrol in a month is a greater mystery 😄

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027419#Comment_120027419

I think its interesting that men and women both feel that the other gender has an easier time of it and is getting more dates or has an easier time approaching the other gender. Men can be awful when approached by women and vice versa but women will have it ingrained in them to put their personal safety first and allot of men dont get this, I cant count how many very likely genuinely decent guys have offered to drive us somewhere on a first date, drive me home, pick me up from my house, go for a walk in an isolated woods or go to their house on a first date. It's such a red flag and not even because I think they will do anything, but theres just such a lack of awareness from the man perspective as to why that suggestion for a first date with a strange woman might be off putting for her. So I don't think approaching women is wrong at all but its how you approach women and being able to read a room or a situation and knowing when it might not be appropriate and when it could be appropriate. Like on a night out and you see a group of women, in most cases its totally acceptable to go up and introduce yourself. On public transport for example, it might not be an appropriate setting to approach someone and spark up conversation, because it's not a social setting and the person may want to just be left alone. It's all about context.

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027487#Comment_120027487

Some women might feel dehumanised about being reduced their vagina and referred to as 'Vadge'. Having some compassion, empathy and just basic human decency for other people are all good traits to have that women tend to admire and will be less likely to turn you down or feel nervous around you.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027574#Comment_120027574

So using the term "gee" is grand?

thegame983

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027584#Comment_120027584

I prefer f**k hole.

Thelonious Monk

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027574#Comment_120027574

I don't need advice mate I've no problems getting women

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027597#Comment_120027597

Its not advice, im just explaining to you about basic social skills.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027597#Comment_120027597

Oh! How much? Any decent two for ones offers going?

thegame983

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027605#Comment_120027605

lol. what a c*nt

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027605#Comment_120027605

Maybe the reason she went cold was you hit her with the shovel you had brought on your forest walk.

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027200#Comment_120027200

Its much easier for men to get a date than it is for women,

This is a perfect example of confirmation bias. What you are doing there is focusing on the small subset of men from the general population which you do want to "get jiggy" with. And what you are saying is that all they'd need to do is ask you out and they'd be in there.

I have no sympathy for that whole incel shite but you do see stats quoted from the likes of tinder where they say things like there is a 2% chance of an average male profile getting selection by any given woman, whereas the opposite way around it 50% or something. And that basically all the women are chasing after the same 10% of men blah blah. (I don't know the exact percentages)

Things do get much easier for fellas in their 30's. The power balance does begin to shift. I reckon that many of those that disagree are probably already tied down by then.

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027605#Comment_120027605

Everyone will be different and neither gender is of a hive mind. I can only speak for myself but I could have 100's of matches and conversations on a dating app but the majority of them will be ruled out for any number of genuine reasons like its obvious theyre only on the app for sex, which is fine but just not for me, some are lovely but sadly I wont feel I can connect with them intellectually, some will be extremely arrogant and off putting, some will text 20 times before youve had a chance to reply, another red flag, some will live too far away or have multiple children (another dealbreaker for me) and lots wont reply when I text them or the conversation will fizzle out.

When it comes down to it, only 2 or 3 of those conversations make it to beyond a few days and a couple of times a year I might actually meet someone for a date, in which case they act interested then ghost but will stalk my social media or continuously match with me on different apps but never engage in conversation.

The last man I went on a date with insisted we meet up again, wanted to meet the following the day, when I texted back and matched his enthusiasm he lost interest and ghosted, no explanation. This has happened so many times now that im starting to fear dates. So it's not all rosy on the other side.

Im sorry to hear that woman didn't like your car but that could be the reason why she is single, tbf she doesnt sound like a very good gold digger if she's on tinder asking men to go for walks in the woods. Id imagine a gold digger would be socialsing in high end places where rich people can spend their money but what do I know 🤷‍♀️

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027622#Comment_120027622

And she didn't think your car was up to the job?

She was obviously into the oul' dogging.

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027609#Comment_120027609

That's a bit harsh. Just because he has a crap car. He might actually be a decent fella.

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027631#Comment_120027631

Maybe she just didn't find him attractive in the flesh and the poor car got the blame?!

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027673#Comment_120027673

Don't forget your shovel if you want to go to work the forest

PoisonIvyBelle

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Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027709#Comment_120027709

I don't know... I don't think online dating is the worst thing like, and it's worked well for me in the past, but you need to stick to your guns about what you want and be open about that

Especially if he has an old car like poor oul' Cassidy Tangy Limb above

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027673#Comment_120027673

Why can't you accept that you might actually have bad breath?

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120025906#Comment_120025906

Pen pals are fine, I have a selection of them who share some interests and just like the odd chat. I love meeting people, but I absolutely hate crowds, not a big party person, and I’m hopeless at initially approaching someone in real life. At least online you both come to the site with some intention to meet on a romantic or at least sexual level, and now with social media chat I love the chat up bit where I usually find out if someone has a similar type of sense of humour to me.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027179#Comment_120027179

It’s so true they like the mammy figure. You always know if guys were breast fed as babies 😁 as that’s the very first port of call. And as you say they love a good tummy rub. However they can wash their own jocks.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120027538#Comment_120027538

My hybrid only drinks €30 pm city driving. Maybe I should hook up with Judith 🤣🤣🤣

Mister Vain

If you say you're living at home they immediately lose interest so I just say I'm living in my car.

farmingquestion

Go foreign OP.

Maybe I'm just more attractive to foreign women and that's what it feels like to be considered attractive by Irish women, but you get way more interest from foreigners. They are much more likely to converse with you rather than one word answers, if any reply at all.

ManyMondays

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120029450#Comment_120029450

Thats not true and if the ones youre into are judgmental then maybe its the type of woman youre attracted to thats the problem. Like would you go for a woman who lives with her parents and doesnt have a high income? Or do you only go for women who have good incomes, come from wealthy families or have family who financially support them and do the think they should have their own home?

If theyre not earners themselves, Do they depend on others to support them financially, either family, friends or the state? Because that will tell you what theyre like and the type of man theyre interested in, which is usually someone with money that they can sponge off.

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120029472#Comment_120029472

I was being slightly tongue in cheek, but no I don't go for any particular type. I mean I don't know any of that information when I match with someone. I couldn't care less who she lives with or what her income is.