Do you ever offer your seat to women for no reason?

bb1234567 · 05-12-2022 8:43pm #1

Was on the tube today and a young lad kept asking any woman who walked by if they'd like a seat. Young ladies. At first I cringed a little thinking the women might take he thought they looked a lot older than they are, but judging by their body language they seemed to all think the offer was sweet even though they all declined.

Is it it a bit odd to do this in 2022 or endearing chivalry?

StevenToast · 05-12-2022 8:50pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058274699/do-you-ever-offer-your-seat-to-women-for-no-reason

Very odd... unless pregnant or elderly...the women are well able to stand these days!

Strumms · 05-12-2022 8:55pm

It’s odd, as above.. pregnant or elderly or someone with an obvious disability…fine.

random females, no.

orourkeda1 · 05-12-2022 9:10pm

To paraphrase Dave Chapelle, Chivalry's dead and it was women that killed it.

buried · 05-12-2022 9:14pm

Only if its the drivers seat and I'm expected to drive.

Real equality in action.

05-12-2022 9:26pm

Yes, I offer my seat.

Dial Hard · 05-12-2022 9:28pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119961161#Comment_119961161

And good

thegame983 · 05-12-2022 9:30pm

If they're good looking...I might.

Jequ0n · 05-12-2022 9:32pm

Well yes, if there is something to be gained.

But offering the seat to any woman walking by smells of desperation.

bigroad · 05-12-2022 9:34pm

If I spot a more comfortable seat nearby ,then I will.

Dial Hard · 05-12-2022 9:34pm

FFS, quote function not working again.

What I was trying to say was, and good riddance to the concept of chivalry. Absolutely absurd and completely outdated notion.

Good manners should be gender-agnostic. The idea of one section of society getting preferential* treatment due to gender is objectively nonsensical. I'm a chick and I hold doors open for both men and women and will offer my seat on the bus to anyone who looks like they might need it more than me.

Dial Hard · 05-12-2022 9:38pm

Edit function FUBAR now too.

The asterisk was because whether such treatment was *actually* preferential is very much up for debate, imo. The entire concept of chivalry (in its original, medieval form) is based on the thesis that women need protecting, both from themselves and other men.

saabsaab · 05-12-2022 9:43pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119961276#Comment_119961276

Many still do.

Jequ0n · 05-12-2022 9:44pm

@Dial Hard This should be the moment when you realise that you have started to type like your parent(s).

Count Dracula · 05-12-2022 9:53pm

I always ask if they would like to sit on their knees or on my lap, good to give them options I think. That is what feminism is striving for, better options when using public transport.

05-12-2022 10:14pm

Plenty of men and younger lads automatically do chivalrous things. Old fashioned or not, it's still really nice of them. Good manners, well raised. But yes of course women should do the same.

Specifically giving a train seat up for a woman merely because she's a woman though... no I don't experience or see that. That was probably a thing many decades ago, but no need for it unless she's heavily pregnant, elderly, ill or disabled.

dartboardio · 05-12-2022 10:19pm

wow I am surprised at the amount saying 'no way'

yes I've been randomly given a seat by a man on a bus/train plenty of times for no reason. I'm not pregnant , elderly nor do I have any physical disability.

I find it an innocent act of chivalry and my long term boyfriend does the same to women.

gameoverdude · 05-12-2022 11:52pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119961052#Comment_119961052

Be careful with the pregnant.

tayto lover · 05-12-2022 11:54pm

A young lad on a Dublin bus a few years ago got up and offered me his seat. He's lucky he didn't get a clip on the ear as i was only in my mis 60's then.

Dr Turk Turkelton · 06-12-2022 12:48am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119961860#Comment_119961860

Happened me not so long ago at a bus stop in Dublin. I sat beside a random lady and asked her when's it due?

She replied "I'm not pregnant".

I replied "I meant the bus you fat cow".

XsApollo · 06-12-2022 12:58am

Not a hope, just because the person is a woman? Haha

Those days are long gone and rightly so with their general attitude these days.

now I do offer my seat to elderly or people that look like they could do with the seat regardless of gender.

AyeGer · 06-12-2022 12:59am

If they are good looking i'll offer my knee to sit on.

Seriously though, no way would i offer my seat to any health able bodied adult, male or female. Id offer it to an old person or someone who looked like they really needed a seat like a heavily pregnant woman or someone with a disability or injury.