Need a female-body-language to Manglish translator please

Parabellum9

Horseplumb wrote: »

So you're saying the OP was faking a chat up attempt?

Didn't say he was faking it at all, but attempting to chat up a woman who is in the middle of working and attempting to be professional (apparently in this case on her own) is a pretty crappy attempt. 100 marks for confidence, 0 for timing & method if you want to reduce it to crass PUA bull****....

joeguevara

Have a look at a similar story that ended up in the daily mail

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8620083/Argos-customer-sent-text-delivery-driver-asking-single.html

But all joking aside, I’d go with mantas taboggan technique. Who could resist..

https://youtu.be/hODi8m82_aQ

JoChervil

OP, she definitely said no, but to what? Maybe only to your too aggressive approach. She probably just wanted to leave a very uncomfortable situation, when she was ambushed and had to make a decision on a spot.

But she might like you. Girl (and all people generally like to have a choice and time to make a decision), so next time just back off. Go there, buy something but behave completely indifferent to see how she will react. If you don't feel any negative vibes, so on the third visit just buy something and give her your phone number just on a piece of paper, which looks like prescription for her colleagues. And leave without waiting for her reaction.

You see, asking for a number is easy, you don't put yourself in a vulnerable position then waiting for the call. But giving someone your number is more difficult because you are loosing control, so ball is in her court then. It's you, who is interested, so you should take a risk and wait for that call, which can never happen, because women don't like giving definite no. They don't want to hurt another person feelings.

But if she doesn't call, so then it will be a definite no to you.

colly10

Give the OP a break, it’s not harassment to try, it’s harassment to try again after being shot down.

Hard to tell from without seeing it what she thinks, she probably wouldn’t have been too uncomfortable due to work if she was there alone but either way it’s irrelevant. OP, ye tried but she rejected you for one reason or another, have to move on. You can only hope she tries to build something next time your there

DesperateDan

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote:

You obviously don't have much experience picking up broads, no offence bro.

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote:

Chicks will often say no, but if they're smiling cutely they can say yes with their eyes. Chumps would take that as a no. But an alpha recognises the signs and doubles down.

Chicks, broads, chumps? Is this pharmacy on the set of Happy Days

FintanMcluskey

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »

Chicks will often say no, but if they're smiling cutely they can say yes with their eyes. Chumps would take that as a no. But an alpha recognises the signs and doubles down.

One day Bilo break his cage and he "get this"

Parabellum9

Horseplumb wrote: »

You said that he didn't make a genuine attempt.

He can chat up a woman who's working if he wants to, he's a winner for taking action when most men just drift with the wind.

Ok bruh...

.anon.

Horseplumb wrote: »

By the way, don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't be approaching women, the type of men who say that are the type that would be too terrified to ever approach women and are envious of men who have the confidence to do so.

By diving straight in with a cheesy chat-up line and asking for her phone number, he blew his load too quickly. He also made her feel uncomfortable, which is never a good way of provoking a positive response (however 'adorable' her discomfort might be). There might have been a more subtle or lighthearted way of letting her know that he liked her, without any awkwardness. Genuine conversation is always a good start. Don't go leaping straight for the phone number like a bull at a gate.

StevenToast

This is a story the OP needs to read......

An old bull and a young bull were let into a field, there was a large herd of cows grazing at the top of the field. The young bull excitedly said to the old bull " Lets run up there and ride one of them!"......the old bull shook his head in disagreement and replied " No, lets walk up there and ride all of them!"

The OP is the young bull...too young and too eager, shot his load too early...scared off the cows!!

My advice...never darken the door of that pharmacy again....

lalababa

lalababa wrote: »

You'll never get laid woke dude...

Ha ha. Me woke? Ha ha.

Too many gobsheites watching teenagers crap shows and movies on Netflix to learn how to interact with people these days. Fools go out then thinking it's alright to corner a young woman on her own with some ill considered approach while all she's doing is being nice to you, the same as she's nice to every customer because that's her job.

Look, he knows nothing about her except where she works and what she looks like. I'll bet the only chemistry between them was whatever went into the prescription he was picking up, but someone lacking the social skills and tact to know he was showing absolute inconsideration for her probably doesn't know much about that either.

So instead of copping on to himself and growing up a bit in the process, he's coming up with more crap pick-up lines and asking the internet to approve his even more badly considered plans to put the lass on the spot again. Only a complete arsehole would think that's alright. Is it any wonder people are becoming less socially open when being nice to a customer ends up in unwanted attention from someone who thinks it's fairly acceptable to act the prick?

I'm no white knight virtue signalling lefty commie unicorn loving woke ****head. I'm just a fella who knows you don't corner a woman who's trying to get on with her work, not looking to get a 'date' with some leery eejit who doesn't realise she's nice to everyone who comes in, rather than behave like a big man-child who thinks her embarrassment and polite refusal is anything other than a 'no'.

And OP, it's a 'No'. Don't be the kind of arsehole who thinks you get to keep asking her in case she changes her mind. On the off-chance she does, that's up to her to act upon, not up to you to drag it out of her. Act like a gentleman, not as though you've been educated by pulp media made for numb-minded dimwits mixed with an unhealthy amount of story-porn.

The Hound Gone Wild

If she's a Pharmacist then you haven't a hope of asking her out through work. It's the equivalent of asking for your Dr's number. She's ethics bound to not start a relationship with a patient and can be brought up on a fitness to practice.

If she's a sales assistant then whatever but did you expect her to give you her number in the middle of the Pharmacy? Ask her out for a coffee.

Warbeastrior

JayZeus wrote:

Too many gobsheites watching teenagers crap shows and movies on Netflix to learn how to interact with people these days. Fools go out then thinking it's alright to corner a young woman on her own with some ill considered approach while all she's doing is being nice to you, the same as she's nice to every customer because that's her job.


Look, he knows nothing about her except where she works and what she looks like. I'll bet the only chemistry between them was whatever went into the prescription he was picking up, but someone lacking the social skills and tact to know he was showing absolute inconsideration for her probably doesn't know much about that either.


So instead of copping on to himself and growing up a bit in the process, he's coming up with more crap pick-up lines and asking the internet to approve his even more badly considered plans to put the lass on the spot again. Only a complete arsehole would think that's alright. Is it any wonder people are becoming less socially open when being nice to a customer ends up in unwanted attention from someone who thinks it's fairly acceptable to act the prick?

What a ridiculous and pompous post.

Warbeastrior

Warbeastrior wrote: »

What a ridiculous and pompous post.

Because you agree with the OP's entirely unsuccessful attempt at picking someone up, right? Whereas I can see that is was foolish at best and downright creepy at worst.

I guess anyone who thinks he made a smart move there is probably equally lacking in good judgement, so I won't take the criticism to heart.

joeguevara

Best way to pull a pharmacist is confidently hand her a prescription for penicillin, lock eyes with her and say ‘ I’m a STUD, I have the STD and all I need is U’. Watch her heart melt.

Donald Trump

99nsr125 wrote: »

Double down, always double down, otherwise you'll kick yourself forever

I wouldn't be here if my dad didn't ask twice

Get out of that. I heard he didn't even have to ask her once :pac:


To the OP, the red face and embarrassment might be because the screen was showing up your prescription history as well. There might have been a few danger signs for her

Warbeastrior

JayZeus wrote:

I guess anyone who thinks he made a smart move there is probably equally lacking in good judgement, so I won't take the criticism to heart.

So the OP saw a woman he finds attractive. He asked her for her number.
He was turned down but feels she left it open ended.

You then replied by insinuating that he is a 'gob****e' and a 'fool'.
You also accused him of 'cornering' her even though he seemed to respectfully ask her for her number in a relaxed manner.

I think there's only one person here, who is lacking in good judgement.
He took a shot and should be commended for it. Life is for taking risks to get what you want.

A friend of mine was once asked out by a fella and she turned him down cos she didn't really know him. He asked a second time which she said no to again which although she got to know him better she learned he was younger than she usually dated.

Third time he asked her out, she said yes.
Now, she absolutely adores him and they have a newborn baby.

If he took your advice, he should have walked off with his tail between his legs after his first failed attempt.

I'm not saying for fellas to badger women if they get a no. They should always be respectful but there is no harm in respectfully sussing out any future potential.

Two gym goers who have something in common right there end up together. Fair enough.

Some random creeper asking someone serving him in a chemists for her number, with nothing in common except the fact they’re both there, don’t end up together. Fair enough. Can’t fault her for saying no. Fault him 100% for not accepting that.

I think anyone who can’t understand how it was a dick move in the first place may be a bit of a creep too.

Warbeastrior

JayZeus wrote:

Two gym goers who have something in common right there end up together. Fair enough.


Some random creeper asking someone serving him in a chemists for her number, with nothing in common except the fact they’re both there, don’t end up together. Fair enough. Can’t fault her for saying no. Fault him 100% for not accepting that.


I think anyone who can’t understand how it was a dick move in the first place may be a bit of a creep too.

So is every guy in America that asks out a random woman a creep?
You make the woman out to be a helpless damsel in distress. Women are well able to say no to a date request. Same way men are well about to request a date.
Wud you be saying the same thing if the roles were reversed. Wud it be a dick move if the OP was working and a woman asked him out?

Warbeastrior

Warbeastrior wrote: »

So is every guy in America that asks out a random woman a creep?
You make the woman out to be a helpless damsel in distress. Women are well able to say no to a date request. Same way men are well about to request a date.
Wud you be saying the same thing if the roles were reversed. Wud it be a dick move if the OP was working and a woman asked him out?

It’s not America though, is it?



She said no. He and you don’t understand that no means no, not maybe or try harder or come back and ask again.

Yes. If she won’t accept the immediate, polite and clear refusal to give her his number and she persists while he’s trying to do his job, is a pest. No means no, be it a man or a woman who says it.

And before someone else pipes up, you don’t have to be woke to know what’s okay and what’s not.

Warbeastrior

JayZeus wrote:

It’s not America though, is it?

That's irrelevant. Why is it ok in America but not here?

JayZeus wrote:

She said no. He and you don’t understand that no means no, not maybe or try harder or come back and ask again.

That's not what i am talking about. You called it a dick move that he 'cornered' her and asked her out even though he didn't know her that well.

So my friend from the gym said No.... Should her now loving bf and father of her child have not come back a second time?

"body language" is not far above PUA terminology

dont ask women out when they're working, it's not great.

if your response to that is "but when will i meet them, so?" i dunno man do more stuff that isnt walking into people's places of work.

Warbeastrior

Warbeastrior wrote: »

That's irrelevant. Why is it ok in America but not here?



That's not what i am talking about. You called it a dick move that he 'cornered' her and asked her out even though he didn't know her that well.

So my friend from the gym said No.... Should her now loving bf and father of her child have not come back a second time?

Like arguing with the wall at this stage.

I don’t know what to think of your friend from the gym. I take it as no more than the convenient happily ever after tale told and retold by friends and family, the gloss on an imperfect life. So, I’ll focus on the OP’s first hand experience he chose to share rather than you telling a happy couple story years later where you were neither present not reliable in retelling all the details of how two other adults engaged one another.

The OP is entertained by 69 appearing on the receipt he obtained. He thinks she was adorable, red faced and hands shaking, after he embarrassed her at work. He thinks a cheesy chat up line and doing it to her again is a good idea. It is not. He needs to learn to act like a man, not an immature man-child, egged on by other man-children.

If you can’t see that, I can’t help you to either. Some people are too screwed up to get them to think straight and see the situation for what it is.

bfa1509

JayZeus wrote: »

Like arguing with the wall at this stage.

I don’t know what to think of your friend from the gym. I take it as no more than the convenient happily ever after tale told and retold by friends and family, the gloss on an imperfect life. So, I’ll focus on the OP’s first hand experience he chose to share rather than you telling a happy couple story years later where you were neither present not reliable in retelling all the details of how two other adults engaged one another.

The OP is entertained by 69 appearing on the receipt he obtained. He thinks she was adorable, red faced and hands shaking, after he embarrassed her at work. He thinks a cheesy chat up line and doing it to her again is a good idea. It is not. He needs to learn to act like a man, not an immature man-child, egged on by other man-children.

If you can’t see that, I can’t help you to either. Some people are too screwed up to get them to think straight and see the situation for what it is.

Jeez, have you always had a rod up your ass? You reek of beta male.

What I thought would be a light hearted thread divided between those who say "Don't give up try again!" and those who say "Ha! you got stonewalled" (both of which I appreciate no matter how blunt), you have reduced it to a #Meetoo #rapeculture debate that absolutely nobody wants to read other than yourself.

bfa1509

bfa1509 wrote: »

Jeez, have you always had a rod up your ass? You reek of beta male.

What I thought would be a light hearted thread divided between those who say "Don't give up try again!" and those who say "Ha! you got stonewalled" (both of which I appreciate no matter how blunt), you have reduced it to a #Meetoo #rapeculture debate that absolutely nobody wants to read other than yourself.

Take it to reddit or 4chan, they like this kinda stuff more. On here, most folks will call you out for being a bit of a creep. Know your audience, I guess.

.anon.

bfa1509 wrote: »

You reek of beta male.

Ah, you should have said you were an incel.

jimwallace197

OP, since you know her name now, why not leave a note with her in an envelope in the postbox for tomorrow morning. Say you are sorry if you put her on the spot at work and that you'd like to meet her for a cup of coffee if she's interested, leave your number. If she doesnt message you then, you have your answer 100%.

Probably best to build up a bit of chat in the future before going in for the kill.

Erranged

jimwallace197 wrote: »

OP, since you know her name now, why not leave a note with her in an envelope in the postbox for tomorrow morning. Say you are sorry if you put her on the spot at work and that you'd like to meet her for a cup of coffee if she's interested, leave your number. If she doesnt message you then, you have your answer 100%.

Probably best to build up a bit of chat in the future before going in for the kill.

Never leave a note or write anything down

I learnt that lesson when I was like 9 yrs old

kowloonkev

OP there are clearly one or two of the #metoo brigade here even if they claim not to be. Absolutely clueless and they probably never asked a girl out except on tinder.

I just think your approach was terrible as Ireland is not a hollywood romcom and girls would probably prefer a more casual approach and less of the fake gooey stuff.

Ask her again , but before asking tell her that you are sorry if you made her uncomfortable before and if she really says 'no' this time then you won't bother her again. It's very important you say this before you ask her out again.

Erranged

The best way to ask a woman out is to get her to ask you out

How you do that is a little tricky

Wibbs

Stand nearby licking your eyebrows. That tends to do the trick.