Need a female-body-language to Manglish translator please

nj27

You're fixin to get yourself me too-ed

bfa1509

bucketybuck wrote: »

I thought the OP was creepy, but that is actually disturbing.

What's disturbing about that? We don't all live in your perception of the ideal world. (Thankfully!)

Warbeastrior

Warbeastrior wrote: »

Cop on and stop turning it around to make the OP look deviant.

He means that she didn't actually say the word 'No' coupled with the fact that she seemed to like the way he asked for the number (laughed out loud) he's trying to see if he should try one last time in case it took her by a surprise. He's not gonna bundle her into a van when she leaves work.

Bollocks. That is a clear sign of discomfort. If a woman is interested when you ask for her number she will say yes and give it to you. Anything else is a resounding 'NO!'.

Beechwoodspark

OP next thing you’ll be me tooed if you’re not wise to the game

bfa1509

bfa1509 wrote: »

I never once said I found her discomfort adorable.

A cursory look at the OP:

bfa1509 wrote: »

She pretended not to hear and cut back to being very professional and fumbled around awkwardly with the till, her hands were shaking as she pushed the card reader across the counter. She was still very red but so adorable!!

Pintman Paddy Losty

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Bollocks. That is a clear sign of discomfort. If a woman is interested when you ask for her number she will say yes and give it to you. Anything else is a resounding 'NO!'.

You obviously don't have much experience picking up broads, no offence bro.

Chicks will often say no, but if they're smiling cutely they can say yes with their eyes. Chumps would take that as a no. But an alpha recognises the signs and doubles down.

Turn up outside her place of work tomorrow with a boombox. Never fails.

sdanseo

I don't think that's in any way too forward at all, but then I once got a girl's number by casually suggesting she should write something more than my name on the coffee cup. (Not quite as brave as it sounds, worked in the same shopping centre and was a regular).
Think it was more terrifying for me than for her!

As a previous poster said it's very much more normal / done upfront in places like the US. We are a very prude country and are very poor at saying what we mean and not speaking in riddles. Everything is an absurd game. You SHOULD be right to say a definitive NO is required... but that's just not how people now communicate in a world that requires us poor millenials to be psuedo-psychic to understand each other.

That said - I do think you have to take that as a definitive not interested. By all means have the banter at the till when you're there but I wouldn't ask directly again. If there was no one else in the store at all, there's no reason if she was interested that she wouldn't have said yes or at least something a bit more positive.
Different if it was crowded I suppose.

Pintman Paddy Losty

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »

You obviously don't have much experience picking up broads, no offence bro.

Chicks will often say no, but if they're smiling cutely they can say yes with their eyes. Chumps would take that as a no. But an alpha recognises the signs and doubles down.

The laptop gremlins are acting up again.

Westernyelp

OP. You mentioned there was nobody else in the store at the time.
In which case she was free to give her number if she wanted.
Game over I reckon

Feisar

Warbeastrior wrote: »

But this is the problem with dating in Ireland. You're seen as a 'creep' if you put yourself out there and ask someone out that you may not know that well. That stuff is normal in the US.
Now of course ya have to always be respectful if youre turned down but the OP has done nothing wrong.

I used to see this when in the game. A woman that’d back her ass into you in a nightclub would look at you like you had five heads if you gave her yer number in a coffee shop for example. Although I never annoyed hired guns, I know what that’s like, yer trying to serve drink to the mob and some lady thinks that’s the opportune time to lay it on thick.

bucketybuck

bfa1509 wrote: »

What's disturbing about that? We don't all live in your perception of the ideal world. (Thankfully!)

It is disturbing that a man ignores anybody else's personal discomfort just because the word "no" was not said. That you can't see that says a lot about you, most well adjusted people started learning non-verbal cues when they were children.

Stop creeping on women who have to interact with you as part of their job.

Feisar

bucketybuck wrote: »

It is disturbing that a man ignores anybody else's personal discomfort just because the word "no" was not said. That you can't see that says a lot about you, most well adjusted people started learning non-verbal cues when they were children.

Stop creeping on women who have to interact with you as part of their job.

I agree with you however we are taught today that nothing short of yes yes yes means yes. However that also means (although I don’t agree) nothing short of no no no means no.

99nsr125

Double down, always double down, otherwise you'll kick yourself forever

I wouldn't be here if my dad didn't ask twice

BorneTobyWilde

What with all the DEMANDING OF NUMBERS.

If I like a girl I'd tell her and give her my number. Balls in her court then, they appreciate that I think.

Sardonicat

99nsr125 wrote: »

Double down, always double down, otherwise you'll kick yourself forever

At what point do you stop doubling down?

_Kaiser_

Ah come on guys. The OP showed some initiative and originality (versus the usual drunken approach in a pub that generally passes for "chatting up" in Ireland), and some of ye have him almost pegged as a stalker :rolleyes:

We really have become a nation of hyper-sensitive fragile folk haven't we? He did nothing wrong from what I can see.

That said OP, she did clearly turn you down. Leave it at that and move on.

Gruffalux

She fumbled awkwardly. Her hands shook. She was bright red. Fuxake leave her alone.

She was probably uncomfortable because you forgot to remove your fedora.

Feisar

99nsr125 wrote: »

Double down, always double down, otherwise you'll kick yourself forever

I wouldn't be here if my dad didn't ask twice

No, halt, stop, desist.

Some shots can only be taken once and this is one of them.

bucketybuck

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

(versus the usual drunken approach in a pub that generally passes for "chatting up" in Ireland), and some of ye have him almost pegged as a stalker :rolleyes:

Actually chatting to the girl might actually have gotten him somewhere, instead he went straight to cringeworthy chat up lines and asking for contact details of a girl on her own in a shop having to serve him.

Lemming

Deleted User wrote: »

Turn up outside her place of work tomorrow with a boombox. Never fails.

Jaysus, I made the mistake of taking a drink and simultaneously laughing as I read that ... just about made it four feet to the bathroom before doubling up on the floor having a coughing fit from the water going to all the wrong places :P

BrianD3

I am picturing the scene and am LMAO at it and the thread title. I'd say she wasn't even the pharmacist. Pharmacist was probably in the dispensary.

I worked in a pharmacy years ago and while I never had anyone ask me out there was always potential for embarrassment given the nature of some of the items sold. E.g. a girl I knew from school who I fancied the pants off came in one day with a big grin on her face. Straight away, alarm bells went off. I was hoping that she had come in for Solpadine or something. But no, The Pill.

Parabellum9

She was just being friendly and trying to remain professional and you embarrassed her - don’t even consider goIng back for a second run and make even more of a clown out of yourself, move on,

Was the girl actually the pharmacist? Sounds like she was just a sales assistant. In which case.....

Sardonicat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Was the girl actually the pharmacist? Sounds like she was just a sales assistant. In which case.....

Yeah, she's probably crushed cos you asked for her colleague's number!

Parabellum9

Horseplumb wrote: »

By the way, don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't be approaching women, the type of men who say that are the type that would be too terrified to ever approach women and are envious of men who have the confidence to do so.

Nobody is telling him not to approach or chat up women, but believe it or not there are some of us with enough experience to know the difference between unwanted creepiness and a genuine attempt

Pintman Paddy Losty

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »

You obviously don't have much experience picking up broads, no offence bro.

Chicks will often say no, but if they're smiling cutely they can say yes with their eyes. Chumps would take that as a no. But an alpha recognises the signs and doubles down.

I can only assume you're taking the piss.

Esel

bfa1509 wrote: »

A hard on requires the word "no"

FYP

lalababa

JayZeus wrote: »

A gentleman would know not to put her in that position in her place of work. You just backed her into a corner there. That’s a dick move.

You'll never get laid woke dude...