Mental health and CoVid-19

Beasty

ShineOn7 wrote: »

Agreed. Take your "woe is me, I can't see family because the government is trying to keep me and them alive. How dare they" nonsense to the many Restrictions threads elsewhere

Do not post in this thread again

GoneHome

ShineOn7 wrote: »

Agreed. Take your "woe is me, I can't see family because the government is trying to keep me and them alive. How dare they" nonsense to the many Restrictions threads elsewhere

Agree 100%, a lot of people just can't grasp that all of these restrictions are to keep you and your family alive, really people can you not see all of this is for the greater good of the whole country, and we all have to play our part in that. I know I haven't seen the majority of my family in weeks but such is life at the moment, suck it up.

GoneHome

uli84 wrote: »

no other country in Europe is this strict

May I suggest you read up on the restrictions that were/are in place in for example France and Spain, it might open your eyes to the quite minimal restrictions we have in this country in comparison.

Snugglebunnies

GoneHome wrote: »

Agree 100%, a lot of people just can't grasp that all of these restrictions are to keep you and your family alive, really people can you not see all of this is for the greater good of the whole country, and we all have to play our part in that. I know I haven't seen the majority of my family in weeks but such is life at the moment, suck it up.

I believe this thread is for people to open up if they're having a hard time during restrictions? Lots of people are struggling and being told to suck it up when they have to vent isn't really helpful.

Plumbthedepths

GoneHome wrote: »

Agree 100%, a lot of people just can't grasp that all of these restrictions are to keep you and your family alive, really people can you not see all of this is for the greater good of the whole country, and we all have to play our part in that. I know I haven't seen the majority of my family in weeks but such is life at the moment, suck it up.

Suck it up? Do you really think that is anything other than a pathetic soundbite?
The thread is about mental health why not actually post in a respectful manner.

Gonehome I remember some of your past posts for the lack of empathy they've shown. You come across as completely lacking in compassion for other people and their experiences. God forbid your life gets turned upside down. And if it already has been and you've been to the depths yourself then your attitude stinks even more.

GoneHome

Deleted User wrote: »

Gonehome I remember some of your past posts for the lack of empathy they've shown. You come across as completely lacking in compassion for other people and their experiences. God forbid your life gets turned upside down. And if it already has been and you've been to the depths yourself then your attitude stinks even more.

I haven't the faintest idea why you're picking on me here but that's obviously your own issue. I gave my opinion earlier this evening, agreeing with a previous poster, on the lunacy of people feeling sorry for themselves that they can't live life as it was, meeting family etc, and I merely pointed out that in these extraordinary times we all have to look at the bigger picture of playing our part for the whole population rather than individual concerns, some people just don't seem to get that.

GoneHome

GoneHome wrote: »

I haven't the faintest idea why you're picking on me here but that's obviously your own issue. I gave my opinion earlier this evening, agreeing with a previous poster, on the lunacy of people feeling sorry for themselves that they can't live life as it was, meeting family etc, and I merely pointed out that in these extraordinary times we all have to look at the bigger picture of playing our part for the whole population rather than individual concerns, some people just don't seem to get that.

Do you get that not everybody has the same experience of this? There are those who like being off work and not dealing with the pressure of a commute. There are also those who are scared of the isolation, who are lonely, who haven't touched another in months. Are you able to comprehend that we can understand the need for the restrictions and also find it extremely difficult?

Beasty

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Gonehome I remember some of your past posts for the lack of empathy they've shown. You come across as completely lacking in compassion for other people and their experiences. God forbid your life gets turned upside down. And if it already has been and you've been to the depths yourself then your attitude stinks even more.

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uli84

GoneHome wrote: »

May I suggest you read up on the restrictions that were/are in place in for example France and Spain, it might open your eyes to the quite minimal restrictions we have in this country in comparison.

Well, France is to re-open Primary school from mid-May, anyways, it’s not the topic of this thread and maybe I shouldn’t mention that at all

GoneHome

uli84 wrote: »

Well, France is to re-open Primary school from mid-May, anyways, it’s not the topic of this thread and maybe I shouldn’t mention that at all

Yes they're reopening with the proviso of extreme caution, kids wearing face masks etc and with the big posability that restricitions will be re-introduced if needed

R.C.

The Covid 19 Pandemic was going to happen at some point after SARS and MERS and the world leaders were told it would happen by the WHO, so don't worry about any doomsday scenario.
There will be other pandemics but no doubt we will be more prepared the next time. At this point we just have to wait and listen to the medical experts. The virus is going to be around for a while and we need to stay the course and not become complacent or we may have a second wave of it. Mental Health is so important at this time and going for small walks, talking on the phone, doing small jobs around the home, watching tv, and sleeping are all so important. We all know this of course but its an opportunity to do something different something like reading a book, drawing/sketching, cooking a new meal, and meditation. I was never a person for meditating but I have find myself taking ten minutes a day just to sit and listen to the Blackbird singing outside, it can be anything just to sit and relax and unwind.

uli84

GoneHome wrote: »

Yes they're reopening with the proviso of extreme caution, kids wearing face masks etc and with the big posability that restricitions will be re-introduced if needed

That’s excellent and makes sense, my stress levels would be half down if my kid could return to school in some way

Zeek12

Snugglebunnies wrote: »

I believe this thread is for people to open up if they're having a hard time during restrictions? Lots of people are struggling and being told to suck it up when they have to vent isn't really helpful.

Would you agree the government sharing the "roadmap" to exit this lockdown on Friday has helped a little?
Personally I was getting quite impatient with all of this a week ago. We were wondering when it would all end. And how?

Now I see the plan and the dates, I'm more at ease.

In just over a month, a number of shops will reopen. And we can travel up to 20KM. And we can visit family members over 70 again which will be great. That's reassuring.

As of today, we can travel for a decent amount of exercise and not worry about breaking restrictions.

Small steps I know. But it all helps.

Totally agree btw. The "suck it up" advice is helping no-one.

Thanx4dafeedbk

Telling that one of the lesser used part of this forum is the mental health thread.

dePeatrick

Thanx4dafeedbk wrote: »

Telling that one of the lesser used part of this forum is the mental health thread.

It is indeed, almost everyone I know is having problems with lockdown in one form or another. Would be better if people talked about it.

LilacNails

Still finding the days so long. I'm not exercising as much as I hoped I would, I don't know is it laziness or just being depressed.

I feel like I'm so sick of people. I'm sick of seeing people walking on the road when there's a footpath to be walked on. I'm sick of kids screaming outside. I'm sick of my neighbors yapping out loud when k sot outside (if I knew their language it wouldn't be so bad!)

Little are getting to me. Things feel like a bigger effort than they were before. I'm dreading the next few weeks.

I'm ok, but I'll admit, I'm really down in the dumps. There's more tears as days goes on.

GoneHome

Warmest day of the year so far predicted for today, it's already a glorious day out there, I did a two mile walk at 8.30 this morning, get out in the sunshine folks, good for body and soul

LilacNails

I got out this morning for a 3hr cycle it's done wonders. I think morning best suits me to go out and exercise , gives me the feeling IV done something good and positive for myself.

Feeling way better than the last few days.

Tell me how

LilacNails wrote: »

I got out this morning for a 3hr cycle it's done wonders. I think morning best suits me to go out and exercise , gives me the feeling IV done something good and positive for myself.

Feeling way better than the last few days.

Well done. I'm going to do the same later.

GoneHome

LilacNails wrote: »

I got out this morning for a 3hr cycle it's done wonders. I think morning best suits me to go out and exercise , gives me the feeling IV done something good and positive for myself.

Feeling way better than the last few days.

That's it, well done to you. People need to get out in the fresh air, especially on a beautiful day like today, go for a walk/run/cycle whatever exercise suits. I can't understand how people can spend their time mopping around the house feeling sorry for themselves and dwelling on the negatives of this crazy situation we all find ourselves in at the moment, nothing to be gained from it.

jams100

GoneHome wrote: »

That's it, well done to you. People need to get out in the fresh air, especially on a beautiful day like today, go for a walk/run/cycle whatever exercise suits. I can't understand how people can spend their time mopping around the house feeling sorry for themselves and dwelling on the negatives of this crazy situation we all find ourselves in at the moment, nothing to be gained from it.

You just don't understand depression so, thankfully I'm on the very mild end. Anyone entering the last 2 months with severe depression, I dont know how they'll survive.

GoneHome

I'm an introverted person so this has sort of had a drastically different effect on me. I have natural anxiety about the virus and exercising common sense etc. I worry about family members and friends etc. But truth be told, I've realised that I was forcing myself to be far more outgoing than my own brain tolerates. I'm working from home on a reduced salary but I'm in a better headspace as I put myself under less pressure to match a norm..

I know I'm a definite outlier but it wasn't something I was expecting.

GoneHome wrote: »

That's it, well done to you. People need to get out in the fresh air, especially on a beautiful day like today, go for a walk/run/cycle whatever exercise suits. I can't understand how people can spend their time mopping around the house feeling sorry for themselves and dwelling on the negatives of this crazy situation we all find ourselves in at the moment, nothing to be gained from it.

That simply doesn't apply to everyone, exercise is definitely helpful in general. But it's effect will vary. As a person with depression and anxiety, I'm generally highly active but its effect isn't on my mental health is minimal.

LilacNails

GoneHome wrote: »

That's it, well done to you. People need to get out in the fresh air, especially on a beautiful day like today, go for a walk/run/cycle whatever exercise suits. I can't understand how people can spend their time mopping around the house feeling sorry for themselves and dwelling on the negatives of this crazy situation we all find ourselves in at the moment, nothing to be gained from it.

The thing is, it's not always a choice.

I use see it like u, but having gotten to a stage, where I mentally and emotionally I do not want to leave the house... It's very hard to just go out and do something. I'm thankful for the days I do manage my mind over matter. Other days, I just can't do it, and sometimes it's ok if it happens, as long as u know tomorrow I have to get up again and not let this beat me.

Tell me how

GoneHome wrote: »

That's it, well done to you. People need to get out in the fresh air, especially on a beautiful day like today, go for a walk/run/cycle whatever exercise suits. I can't understand how people can spend their time mopping around the house feeling sorry for themselves and dwelling on the negatives of this crazy situation we all find ourselves in at the moment, nothing to be gained from it.

GoneHome, can you entertain me for a moment and take part in the following exercise.

Say you are in your kitchen and you want to drink a cup of coffee. What are the 5 steps you must complete in order to do so. Can you fill them out below. I've done the first one to show you what I mean.

1 - Fill Kettle and put it on the boil
2 -
3 -
4 -
5 -

LilacNails

Already feel today isn't going to be an easy day. Feeling a bit over whelmed.... My personal issues feel bigger today, I need a cry.

Herb Powell

Thanx4dafeedbk wrote: »

Telling that one of the lesser used part of this forum is the mental health thread.

People are too busy telling other people they're committing murder by going outside their house.

A great service to the country.

Tchaikovsky

Is anyone else feeling it very difficult to get to sleep at night? I'm not overwhelmed with anxiety, consciously anyway, but maybe it's just the general anxiety and uncertainty pervading everything?

leahyl

Tchaikovsky wrote: »

Is anyone else feeling it very difficult to get to sleep at night? I'm not overwhelmed with anxiety, consciously anyway, but maybe it's just the general anxiety and uncertainty pervading everything?

Hi, don't have an issue with actually falling asleep usually but the last week or so I've been waking a number of times during the night and looking over at the clock...probably all to do with my anxiety. I feel like I've slept enough though despite this...

nigeldaniel

Well, I am doing ok myself these days. Like a few others here I have been in the mental health system for a number of years after a month-long stay in a psych ward about 8 years ago. early morning cycles are a great boost to my recovery and lately, I have been using an indoor exercise bike. There is no room in my book to knock the mental health system as they do there best with limited resources and only hope that others in these tough times are not suffering too much.

cherryghost

I am struggling tbh. And I struggle with the work/home blurred line too.

fin12

Going into a depressed state and struggling with an ED which has made everything worse. No motivation for work or exercise. Also living with emotionally abusive people.

GoneHome

Tchaikovsky wrote: »

Is anyone else feeling it very difficult to get to sleep at night? I'm not overwhelmed with anxiety, consciously anyway, but maybe it's just the general anxiety and uncertainty pervading everything?

Tanya Sweeney had a great article about this in last Saturday's Irish Times, she had a very humorous take on it

GoneHome

nigeldaniel wrote: »

early morning cycles are a great boost to my recover.

This is totally the way to go, exercise in what ever form suits you - walking, running, cycling, just get off your a$%e, good for body and soul

dePeatrick

Tchaikovsky wrote: »

Is anyone else feeling it very difficult to get to sleep at night? I'm not overwhelmed with anxiety, consciously anyway, but maybe it's just the general anxiety and uncertainty pervading everything?

Oh yeah, sleep all messed up, have slept right through alarms, and until Mid afternoon on some days.

Tchaikovsky

dePeatrick wrote: »

Oh yeah, sleep all messed up, have slept right through alarms, and until Mid afternoon on some days.

That's it, the getting to sleep is torture but then waking up in the morning/afternoon is hard to do also!

PTH2009

getting too in the habit of not sleeping til 4am, up watching Youtube vids etc. In turn getting up after 2pm the next day etc

My workplace is in phase 5 of the roadmap so still a few months til im possibly back

I started walking long distances seriously in the last few weeks and quite like it. Great for the head and fitness

Seems to be an air of optimisim around today with Phase 1 starting

flazio

I'm finding Social Media, Facebook especially very triggering for my anxiety. The general goodwill towards the efforts towards protecting us seems to be evaporating and terms like "this virus isn't so bad, it's only a flu" etc seems to be creeping back in.

Strumms

There is war at home base .. my father, a social guy and a ‘do-er’ has been bored and I guess missing his trips to his sisters and seeing his friends . He decided this morning to do what he was threatening to do and called his handy man / plumber mate to see if he can come around and fix a fairly leaky tap that has been annoying him. He just got voicemail but apparently my mother who isn’t one for drama or raising her voice went ape at him...

“With everything going on, you are fixated with bringing a person into this house, who by nature is a talker, a social person , by profession meeting LOTS of people daily for their work...in houses, on sites, in close quarters, to fix a leaky tap !?”

He needs a hot cup of cop the fûck on and quick.

freshpopcorn

I found people were okay a few weeks ago and now they are getting restless. They’ve no issue with the phased reopening or not being able to go places but this new normal is starting to bother them and what the future has in store.
Seeing what a pub will be like, Ben Dunne saying that pools, etc won’t open for a long time, etc makes the future seem sort of bleak!

GoneHome

PTH2009 wrote: »

I started walking long distances seriously in the last few weeks and quite like it. Great for the head and fitness

Yes it's absolutely fantastic isn't it, I'm doing minimum 5 km walk everyday, some days more, the weather has been exceptional the past few weeks, can't beat being out in the fresh air.

GoneHome

Have to say living in the beautiful rural countryside where I am has been an absolute blessing during all the travel restrictions these past couple of months, being able to walk and explore everyday and rarely another person on the roads never mind a car, also being blessed with a big garden that continuously needs up-keeping means we are never bored. I don't envy people who live in built up cities or urban areas in general who have none of this. Niall Ferguson had a great article about it in last weekends Sunday Times, he too is all for the rural way of life Link to the article here https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/coronavirus-its-a-bugs-life-in-the-city-they-can-keep-it-vmx9mx0b9

Metroid diorteM

I've been on lockdown since January and having heard that the virus doesnt happen twice in succession (reinfection), I've kinda had enough.

Seriously. Enough of the lockdown.

PTH2009

Jesus you'd eat like a horse after a long walk

May has been a long long month I found and were still months away from a return to much less restriction

Numbers going down is promising but we have stubborn leaders (with the main one been only the CMO)

Multipass

GoneHome wrote: »

Have to say living in the beautiful rural countryside where I am has been an absolute blessing during all the travel restrictions these past couple of months, being able to walk and explore everyday and rarely another person on the roads never mind a car, also being blessed with a big garden that continuously needs up-keeping means we are never bored. I don't envy people who live in built up cities or urban areas in general who have none of this. Niall Ferguson had a great article about it in last weekends Sunday Times, he too is all for the rural way of life Link to the article here https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/coronavirus-its-a-bugs-life-in-the-city-they-can-keep-it-vmx9mx0b9

Not the case where I am - very rural and my road is unwalkable due to cars flying around bends at 100km. Normally I drive to a safe place to walk, instead I’m stuck with jumping into the ditch here. I’d give anything for paved streets and parks in a city.

Archeron

Anybody else having mad nightmares? Every morning I wake up and think wtf was that. One of them actually had clowns on stilts :mad:

CharlesDarwin

Yes I dream of being chased by attractive ladies every day of the week. It`s awful

freshpopcorn

On the Friday before Christmas last year I had to walk to town to post Christmas cards because our car was blocked in.
When I got there the lights were on in the town and there was a fanatic buzz around the town.
After a while my mother collected me and we went into a few small shops and bumped into people we knew and browsed around a few places and bought a few things , chatting, etc and there was a general good vibe and we got food and went home.
Now people will say Christmas isn't about shopping, gifts and this year after all you should know the importance of family, etc but with the new normal times like this won't be as enjoyable at all.

stateofflux

GoneHome wrote: »

Yes it's absolutely fantastic isn't it, I'm doing minimum 5 km walk everyday, some days more, the weather has been exceptional the past few weeks, can't beat being out in the fresh air.

Long walks get fairly boring fairly fast i have found. Starts to feel like a hamster wheel after a while. I found a huge difference in mood after going up three rock though. just pushed me a bit more going uphill and all.

I guess variety is the spice of life.

stateofflux

stateofflux wrote: »

Long walks get fairly boring fairly fast i have found. Starts to feel like a hamster wheel after a while. I found a huge difference in mood after going up three rock though. just pushed me a bit more going uphill and all.

I guess variety is the spice of life.

I tend to read and walk so just get stuck into novel and doesn't matter where I am.