Female orgasm through penetrative sex

I’ve been on the dating scene a little while now and I’ve come across a (small) number of men who believe that a woman can orgasm through penetrative sex alone. I had an incident recently where he said he’d make it happen through sex and when I explained no, I can’t achieve an orgasm that way, he was shocked and smugly said “Every girl I’ve been with has cum that way, you must’ve been with the wrong guys.”

Why do some guys not know that orgasm is achieved through the clitoris? I know that’s it’s possible to achieve an orgasm through sex alone but it’s certainly rare.

So AH men, did you know this? And AH women, have you faked an orgasm through sex because you didn’t have the heart to tell him that’s not how it works, or for some other reason?

It’s been irking me for a while now and I want to get to the bottom of it!

sparklinglens

sparklinglens wrote: »

... I want to get to the bottom of it!

I think this wording will come back to bite you on the very same bottom.

SuperSean11

Porns to blame

Sabre0001

Lack of education, porn, and partners faking it most likely. Or they are skilled (or can hit the right spots) / were lucky with the partner they were with who was someone who can come through penetrative sex.

Greyfox

sparklinglens wrote: »

I’ve been on the dating scene a little while now and I’ve come across a (small) number of men who believe that a woman can orgasm through penetrative sex alone.

Some men are just lazy and selfish, most arent

Athdara

sparklinglens wrote: »

I’ve been on the dating scene a little while now and I’ve come across a (small) number of men who believe that a woman can orgasm through penetrative sex alone. I had an incident recently where he said he’d make it happen through sex and when I explained no, I can’t achieve an orgasm that way, he was shocked and smugly said “Every girl I’ve been with has cum that way, you must’ve been with the wrong guys.”

Why do some guys not know that orgasm is achieved through the clitoris? I know that’s it’s possible to achieve an orgasm through sex alone but it’s certainly rare.

So AH men, did you know this? And AH women, have you faked an orgasm through sex because you didn’t have the heart to tell him that’s not how it works, or for some other reason?

It’s been irking me for a while now and I want to get to the bottom of it!

There’s actually 4 types- clitoral, G-Spot, female Ejaculation & Cervical.

bo0li5eumx12kp

Athdara wrote: »

There’s actually 4 types- clitoral, G-Spot, female Ejaculation & Cervical.

Cervical?

I hooked up with a student Dr once and she didn't so much explain cervical - she basically showed me what to do.

5 minutes later - the top of her head basically blew off.

Tried it with another chicks once; received a firm elbow to the solar plexus.



I would definitely appreciate some better explanatory science on these "denominations".

bo0li5eumx12kp

sparklinglens wrote: »

I’ve been on the dating scene a little while now and I’ve come across a (small) number of men who believe that a woman can orgasm through penetrative sex alone. I had an incident recently where he said he’d make it happen through sex and when I explained no, I can’t achieve an orgasm that way, he was shocked and smugly said “Every girl I’ve been with has cum that way, you must’ve been with the wrong guys.”

Why do some guys not know that orgasm is achieved through the clitoris? I know that’s it’s possible to achieve an orgasm through sex alone but it’s certainly rare.

So AH men, did you know this? And AH women, have you faked an orgasm through sex because you didn’t have the heart to tell him that’s not how it works, or for some other reason?

It’s been irking me for a while now and I want to get to the bottom of it!

Orgasm through vaginal penetration exclusively, I can tell you, is definitely possible - but a lot more factors come into play - this is where things get complicated.

Where's the vast vast vast majority of the time, sex without clitoral stimulation can be a pleasant "close" experience, it's often just - kind of numb.

Not going to get explicit but, I can tell you that when gratification is being induced via penetration exclusively - there's absolutely no mistaking it (as a man saying that - it's not "numb". i mean you basically feel the process at work and it's unmistakable - not to mention, particularly awesome).


The last piece of information I'm going to leave in regards to this - there must be, and I get it's a little taboo - but to experience this, the man in question must have an element of forcefulness to his demeanor.

Not physical forcefulness - no, absolutely not.

Emotional forcefulness more so, I would say.

jimgoose

Clitoral stimulation is certainly very important and usually necessary - at least partly - for a lady to orgasm. As usual your exact mileage may vary, but I would suggest to you that your smug Lothario was with women who were faking it, and his expertise didn't extend to spotting it. A real orgasm is rather difficult to fake - forget about Meg Ryan and screaming and roaring and all that bullshit.

so he wouldn't go down on you, is that what you're saying!?

gerrybbadd

Fisher Steep Burglar wrote: »

Cervical?

I hooked up with a student Dr once and she didn't so much explain cervical - she basically showed me what to do.

5 minutes later - the top of her head basically blew off.

Tried it with another chicks once; received a firm elbow to the solar plexus.



I would definitely appreciate some better explanatory science on these "denominations".

Wanna try explaining Cervical here?

Mad_maxx

Fisher Steep Burglar wrote: »

Cervical?

I hooked up with a student Dr once and she didn't so much explain cervical - she basically showed me what to do.

5 minutes later - the top of her head basically blew off.

Tried it with another chicks once; received a firm elbow to the solar plexus.



I would definitely appreciate some better explanatory science on these "denominations".

Was wondering why my clinic appointment ran an hour late that day and why the doctor seemed distracted

I just got a prescription for codeine

BohsCeltic

I agree porn is to blame. When i was away my ex would video chat me looking for some fun, never sticking her hands inside, just play with the clit.

Women like tongue for sure.

Wibbs

Athdara wrote: »

There’s actually 4 types- clitoral, G-Spot, female Ejaculation & Cervical.

Well... The "types" are highly dubious as far as research goes. The G-spot when present is still technically a clitoral orgasm as the clitoris has a large internal structure which is some women is accessible from the front part of the vaginal wall. The same structure can mean for some women that orgasm through intercourse alone is perfectly and regularly possible. Cervical is extremely dubious as the nerve endings involved aren't connected to the usual pathways. For a lot of women it would result in discomfort even pain. Female Ejaculation is even more nebulous. It's almost entirely made up of urine. Don't belive me? If someone is a squirter, don't wahs the sheets and get back to me in 24 hours. The glands involved in the body don't have the capacity to expel much of any volume, certainly not the volumes found in squirting. Doesn't mean it's not pleasurable mind you and fair enough.

The female orgasm itself is fascinating. It's not a biological requirement for conception or even pair bonding. Some research reckoned it increases the chances of concption , but it's highly speculative. Pair bonding would be on firmer ground. And it varies a lot between women. Some can go through their whole lives without one, whereas others get off on the regular. Unlike the male orgasm which is a near given unless there's physical damage or an underlying condition. "How to have an orgasm" said no headline in a man's magazine ever.

One hypothesis holds that the relative difficulty in achieving it for women is a way of weeding out selfish men who don't make the effort as they're men who are less likely to stick around or make time for child rearing and protection. Interestingly humans are the odd ones out in apes and other animals in that the clitoris isn't directly stimulated by intercourse. Over evolutionary time it "migrated" further away. This could just be a quirk of evolution of course, because as above it doesn't seem to be a positive or negative either way to conception.

killanena

My fiancee can reach orgasm through penetration alone. Sometimes several times but other times not at all. I always make sure to finish the job regardless though

JohnnyFlash

Asking neckbeards on Boards about the female orgasm is like asking an Australian about culture.

Wibbs

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Asking neckbeards on Boards about the female orgasm is like asking an Australian about culture.

:pac::pac::pac::pac:

jimgoose

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Asking neckbeards on Boards about the female orgasm is like asking an Australian about culture.

"I must return to my comic book store, where I dispense the insults rather than absorb them!" :pac::pac::pac:

gctest50

Athdara wrote: »

There’s actually 4 types- ..........

5 - you forgot one ..... Financial

When you go to the atm on the way home and go "show balance"

bo0li5eumx12kp

Wibbs wrote: »

Well... The "types" are highly dubious as far as research goes. The G-spot when present is still technically a clitoral orgasm as the clitoris has a large internal structure which is some women is accessible from the front part of the vaginal wall. The same structure can mean for some women that orgasm through intercourse alone is perfectly and regularly possible. Cervical is extremely dubious as the nerve endings involved aren't connected to the usual pathways. For a lot of women it would result in discomfort even pain. Female Ejaculation is even more nebulous. It's almost entirely made up of urine. Don't belive me? If someone is a squirter, don't wahs the sheets and get back to me in 24 hours. The glands involved in the body don't have the capacity to expel much of any volume, certainly not the volumes found in squirting. Doesn't mean it's not pleasurable mind you and fair enough.

The female orgasm itself is fascinating. It's not a biological requirement for conception or even pair bonding. Some research reckoned it increases the chances of concption , but it's highly speculative. Pair bonding would be on firmer ground. And it varies a lot between women. Some can go through their whole lives without one, whereas others get off on the regular. Unlike the male orgasm which is a near given unless there's physical damage or an underlying condition. "How to have an orgasm" said no headline in a man's magazine ever.

One hypothesis holds that the relative difficulty in achieving it for women is a way of weeding out selfish men who don't make the effort as they're men who are less likely to stick around or make time for child rearing and protection. Interestingly humans are the odd ones out in apes and other animals in that the clitoris isn't directly stimulated by intercourse. Over evolutionary time it "migrated" further away. This could just be a quirk of evolution of course, because as above it doesn't seem to be a positive or negative either way to conception.

Congratulations sir.

In three short paragraphs, you've managed to take all the "fun" out of female orgasms.

Reviews and Books Galore

That picture is absurdly hot. Maybe its the hateful eyes?

I was reading about the orgasim gap and I kind of started to wonder if a lot of women gave developed dead hand syndrome? If your masturbating in the sane way with a specific type of dikdo I imagine a real man would be hard to enjoy.

Catty comment on my part, but I wonder is there some truth to it.

wyf437gn6btzue

Athdara wrote: »

There’s actually 4 types- ........../quote]

5 - you forgot one ..... Financial

When you go to the atm on the way home and go "show balance"

Not sure that is the way it works mate

bo0li5eumx12kp

gerrybbadd wrote: »

Wanna try explaining Cervical here?

I'm not sure that kind of lewdity is allowed on AH or boards in general...?

Umm - given it's kind of individual I basically just said, "what do you enjoy most?"

After a brief pause - she basically guided the way.

Without bordering the profane - let's just allow the music to do the talking.

Infer my man.

Infer;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqFvktuW8Q8

Wibbs

Fisher Steep Burglar wrote: »

Congratulations sir.

In three short paragraphs, you've managed to take all the "fun" out of female orgasms.

Feck. You've talked with my exes then.

Dial Hard

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

That picture is absurdly hot. Maybe its the hateful eyes?

I was reading about the orgasim gap and I kind of started to wonder if a lot of women gave developed dead hand syndrome? If your masturbating in the sane way with a specific type of dikdo I imagine a real man would be hard to enjoy.

Catty comment on my part, but I wonder is there some truth to it.

I don't know a single woman who uses a dildo to masturbate.

J. Marston

That fleshy rubik's cube is enough trouble on its own to figure out so ask what/how/where they like it. It benefits both.

Dravokivich

The secret is for the woman to be very stimulated before penetration. Penetration alone wont acheive the orgasm.

Sardonicat

The 'secret ' is to believe your partner if she tells you that penetration alone does nothing for her. You don't have a magic cock or special moves or techniques that can fix her. She's not broken.

Deebles McBeebles

Sardonicat wrote: »

The 'secret ' is to believe your partner if she tells you that penetration alone does nothing for her. You don't have a magic cock or special moves or techniques that can fix her. She's not broken.

So filling her up with clean oil and replacing the spark plugs is not a good idea?

laoisgem

Dial Hard wrote: »

I don't know a single woman who uses a dildo to masturbate.

I'm shocked by this :eek: do you know women that use vibrators to masturbate?

Wibbs

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

So filling her up with clean oil and replacing the spark plugs is not a good idea?

Most are diesels so no.

Sardonicat

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

So filling her up with clean oil and replacing the spark plugs is not a good idea?

Just give the spark plug a good, long rub using strokes of varying speed and pressure with all the tools adapted to the purpose. Depending on the model, she should be good for a fill-up during this procedure or immediately after ignition.

You're welcome.

Sardonicat

laoisgem wrote: »

I'm shocked by this :eek: do you know women that use vibrators to masturbate?

Clitoral stimulation.

Wibbs

Dial Hard wrote: »

I don't know a single woman who uses a dildo to masturbate.

He's probably mixing up dildos and vibrators. Much more uptake of the latter.

Sardonicat wrote: »

The 'secret ' is to believe your partner if she tells you that penetration alone does nothing for her. You don't have a magic cock or special moves or techniques that can fix her. She's not broken.

+1 or find a woman where it does.

Day Lewin

Dial Hard wrote: »

I don't know a single woman who uses a dildo to masturbate.

Talking serious for a minute: some do. Gives that nice full feeling ;-)

Or vibrators, very popular toy.
- But there appears to be some truth in the claim that repeated strong vibrations round your important little places have a deadening effect, eventually.

Fingers and (specially) imagination are much more reliable and don't need re-charging.

Note that word...imagination: ?
See, orgasm for women is NOT like a Cola-machine, where you put the coin in slot A and a treat drops into slot B. Its usually not just mechanical, like it is for men. There has to be some kind of connection, - mental, emotional, or in fantasy.

Given the right context, most women can c*m most ways; but if she says that she definitely can't c*m today, or not "that way", she's telling the truth, so LISTEN!!

So go for the getting-to-know-her, and ask, and listen, and try things, and your results will definitely be better.

You can put your bottom dollar on this one, btw. #experienced

Deebles McBeebles

Sardonicat wrote: »

Just give the spark plug a good, long rub using strokes of varying speed and pressure with all the tools adapted to the purpose. Depending on the model, she should be good for a fill-up during this procedure or immediately after ignition.

You're welcome.

Im just going to sit here for a while before I stand up again. No reason. Don't look at me.

Dial Hard

laoisgem wrote: »

I'm shocked by this :eek: do you know women that use vibrators to masturbate?

Yep. Not all, though. Within my circle it's about a 50/50 split between those who use vibrators and those who prefer to go au naturel. No dildos, though. By and large, masturbation for women is not about simulating the sensation of penetrative sex the way it is for men.

gerrybbadd

Day Lewin wrote: »

Talking serious for a minute: some do. Gives that nice full feeling ;-)

Or vibrators, very popular toy.
- But there appears to be some truth in the claim that repeated strong vibrations round your important little places have a deadening effect, eventually.

Fingers and (specially) imagination are much more reliable and don't need re-charging.

Note that word...imagination: ?
See, orgasm for women is NOT like a Cola-machine, where you put the coin in slot A and a treat drops into slot B. Its usually not just mechanical, like it is for men. There has to be some kind of connection, - mental, emotional, or in fantasy.

Given the right context, most women can c*m most ways; but if she says that she definitely can't c*m today, or not "that way", she's telling the truth, so LISTEN!!

So go for the getting-to-know-her, and ask, and listen, and try things, and your results will definitely be better.

You can put your bottom dollar on this one, btw. #experienced

Its the internet. You can say cum

Mrcaramelchoc

Fisher Steep Burglar wrote: »

Cervical?

I hooked up with a student Dr once and she didn't so much explain cervical - she basically showed me what to do.

5 minutes later - the top of her head basically blew off.

Tried it with another chicks once; received a firm elbow to the solar plexus.



I would definitely appreciate some better explanatory science on these "denominations".

Yea op you should do a video just to educate us.

circadian

If you wanna get grapefruited then you gotta listen to what the woman wants first.

Fact.

Dial Hard

gerrybbadd wrote: »

Its the internet. You can say cum

I differentiate between the two. To me come = the action. Cum = the resulting material. It's the copywriter in me, I can't help it.

Deebles McBeebles

So singing Butterfly by Crazy Town while stimulating "the area" in time is....frowned upon?

Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby
Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby

Apparently Dealz sell vibrators. Not a gondola stick sized one, more keyring size.

Supposedly good bang for your buck too.

Feisar

Athdara wrote: »

There’s actually 4 types- clitoral, G-Spot, female Ejaculation & Cervical.

Here, there are labs in the States that can't find that and you expect lil' ol' me to!??

partyguinness

The clitoris can be indirectly stimulated sufficiently during penetrative sex to achieve orgasm.

gerrybbadd

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

So singing Butterfly by Crazy Town while stimulating "the area" in time is....frowned upon?

Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby
Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby

Its frowned upon in all situations.

Sardonicat

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

So singing Butterfly by Crazy Town while stimulating "the area" in time is....frowned upon?

Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby
Come my lady
Come come my lady
You're my butterfly, sugar baby

An awful earworm coupled with an image I really don't want seared into my brain.

Thanks, Deebs. No really, thank you.

Sardonicat

partyguinness wrote: »

The clitoris can be indirectly stimulated sufficiently during penetrative sex to achieve orgasm.

Not for every one.

laoisgem

Dial Hard wrote: »

Yep. Not all, though. Within my circle it's about a 50/50 split between those who use vibrators and those who prefer to go au naturel. No dildos, though. By and large, masturbation for women is not about simulating the sensation of penetrative sex the way it is for men.

Oh I get that simulating the sensation of penetrative sex isn't what would get most women off, was just surprised that no one would get off on it But then again, going au naturel never worked on myself (sorry if TMI)

bo0li5eumx12kp

Mrcaramelchoc wrote: »

Yea op you should do a video just to educate us.

I am not the OP

Tacitus Kilgore

Some people can only orgasm when getting shat on or beaten with whips and all sorts of other mad shite

To dumb it down to whether the bean is flicked or not is a bit lazy.