Anyone else enjoy being single?

Gimme A Pound

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Yes they are

Especially the ones online

They want guys with 6 pack abs , fake tan , pearly whites , 100k a year

No every woman is not like that - it's really that straightforward. I have never been interested in a fella you described. Seems like a higher achieving TOWIE type. No thanks.

Looks like every woman you're drawn to online is though.

When I was younger, I got hurt by a string of charming dickheads, but of course all men aren't like that - I unfortunately was drawn to them though.

kowloon

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

What did people do before the internet ?

We frolicked in the fields and streams and the porn came on coloured slices of tree flesh.

Lotus Flower

For me personally, I had a blast being single but casual sex gets old and feels a bit empty. It's lovely to have someone to cuddle up with at night, to plan stuff with, watch films with, sit in eating pizza together, etc

pgj2015

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Every woman is like that

what about the large number of women who go for the no job, drug dealer, alco, general trouble maker and scumbag?

kowloon

pgj2015 wrote: »

what about the large number of women who go for the no job, drug dealer, alco, general trouble maker and scumbag?

I can't hope to tick all those boxes :mad:

Gimme A Pound

kowloon wrote: »

I can't hope to tick all those boxes :mad:

Never stop believing dude.

ginandtonicsky

Fake tan and bleached teeth is a definite NO in a man for most women I know. But it hints at the kind of woman you’re going for online, as Gimmeapound mentioned. A bit of self awareness never goes astray if you’re playing the dating app game I find.

lainey_d_123

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

Never stop believing dude.

+ 1

Plenty of people manage it, there's no reason you couldn't too, with a bit of dedication.

lainey_d_123

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Fake tan and bleached teeth is a definite NO in a man for most women I know. But it hints at the kind of woman you’re going for online, as Gimmeapound mentioned. A bit of self awareness never goes astray if you’re playing the dating app game I find.

That's the thing. He's almost definitely going for TOWIE-type women and then being shocked when they're looking for TOWIE-type men.

Although I do have to say, I find really yellow/stained teeth quite offputting as well. No harm in a bit of bleaching to get rid of staining, but shiny blinding white teeth, no.

kowloon

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

Never stop believing dude.

Just missed the midnight train to anywhere, but I'll give it another go tomorrow.

ToddyDoody

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Fake tan and bleached teeth is a definite NO in a man for most women I know.

What's wrong with showing a bit of class?

branie2

Yes

coffee_cake

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Every woman is like that

lol

upinsmoke

I'd like a missus as long as she doesn't live with me, boss me around and can see her when I feel like. I'd like a kid but the kid would have to live with her and I get to see him when I feel like.

You might find me selfish but it's the only way getting a relationship would work for me so guess I'll be single forever.

Just not interested in living with a partner

BBFAN

Dalomanakora wrote: »

You sound jaded with online dating. I get that. I don't blame you for that either.


It doesn't mean women are shallow gold diggers like you seem to think though. Women and men have always based attraction on looks, to a point.


People still chat lots, in pubs, clubs, online etc. But if you chat to someone, an amazing personality isn't going to make them want to rattle your bones if you're not physically attractive to them.


I guess the difference is in a pub or other real life situation, we don't just assume the other person is looking for more than a chat. So we chat away like we would to anyone who approaches us for a chat. Whereas with online dating, the intent is clear. People are there to date, so men and women don't chat to people they don't find appealing, because they already know the intent is dating, and they probably don't want to lead someone on.

I don't know about that I've met people who I didn't initially feel attracted to and later became attracted to them as I got to know them. And vice versa.

That part of attraction is definitely lost on the internet.

pgj2015

i have always found that with internet dating, a woman i would be trying to get away from on a night out wouldn't even respond to a hello on pof lol

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pgj2015 wrote: »

i have always found that with internet dating, a woman i would be trying to get away from on a night out wouldn't even respond to a hello on pof lol

Follow that thought through there, why are you messaging women you'd run away from? Because you're only after the ride? Then just have that with the ones running after you irl.

And are you only saying hello?

pgj2015

just giving them a chance, see if they are sound to talk to.


yes just saying hello.

coffee_cake

pgj2015 wrote: »

just giving them a chance, see if they are sound to talk to.


yes just saying hello.

nobody is going to respond to 'hello' copy pasted 1000 times in fairness
i think that's what she was getting at

pgj2015

bluewolf wrote: »

nobody is going to respond to 'hello' copy pasted 1000 times in fairness
i think that's what she was getting at

id say that is what 99% of people say first on a dating site. why would you need to say any more at first?

This is it

I wouldn't look twice at a message with just "Hello" in it, and considering, I would think, women get a lot more messages than men I wouldn't expect a response to the same. Put a bit of effort in.

pgj2015

i prefer meeting women in real life to be honest. never really liked internet dating.

This is it

That's fair enough, I'm the same to be honest. If you are interested in online dating at all though, fire out a few lines in an opening message, bit of a joke, compliment, a reference one of their photos, etc., anything to make you stand out from all the other "Hello" messages

givyjoe

Just use bumble. Pof is a waste of time.

This is it

Though taking advise from someone who's single might not be the best idea

SusieBlue

Someone sent me this on an tinder earlier on, I thought it was pretty funny.

‘I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you are looking for a hook up , I can tell you thats not what I’m here for.
But what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a long career. Skills that make me a delight for a gorgeous woman like you.
If you hate my ice breaker, that'll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you do, then I’d love to buy you a drink sometime!’

I know it’s a bit cringe and he probably sends it to every woman he matches with but it was a good ice breaker I think :pac:

pgj2015

i have sent more than hello but still no dice.


why is bumble better btw?

This is it

pgj2015 wrote: »

i have sent more than hello but still no dice.


why is bumble better btw?

Lady's message first on Bumble, you can't message them until they message you.

Cupatae

I love how most threads on boards ends up descending into hypothetical madness after a couple of pages of stuff that is completely irrelevant to the original topic, and usually ends in pitched battles between select members till one gets banned. haha

pgj2015

This is it wrote: »

Lady's message first on Bumble, you can't message them until they message you.

I bet all the women ever say is hello as well:pac: